It's a new something for YHM..*Thoughts for 19 Jan pg 27* - Page 10

Originally posted by: madgirl

Thank you so much for the thread G di!! 🤗

Really needed one very badly to rant! I didn't like the episode today ! what's with this beta, Ghar ka chirag! MY FOOT! 😡 😡 Di, I really don't understand this obsession for a "beta" scenario in this society! For heavens sake, he's not a doodh peetha chota bacha! He's a 12 yr old gadha! (Pls excuse my language today! :( ) Till yesterday's episode, I didn't have any Prob with Toshi, but today she lost all the respect! Even if her potha kills someone, she'll still be obsessed with her "GHAR ka chirag" syndrome! 😡
No offence to that actor who plays Adi, but just one look at him, I feel like throwing my remote at him! 😡
Ghar ka chirags don't have to be the sons of the house always, Toshi! 😡 I wish you learn this truth the practical way! 😈

I never wished for the separation of the leads but now, I WANT Ishita to stop talking to everyone in the Bhalla house(except Ruhi) go back to her parents for few days n let them see how it feels like having Ghar ka chirag in the house with the wonderful witch who comes with him! 😈

Sorry abt the rant:( it took me abt a dozen episodes of the Big Bang theory, to come to this state! you can imagine how bad it was soon after the episode:((

Originally posted by: krishy13

This line is may be what is bothering me the most about how things are shaping up. When Adi first moved in - it was Raman who was showing the signs of raising him with a firm hand. Back then it was Ishita who was going out of her way to make him feel comfortable.

It was a small incidence, but Raman and Adi were eating. Adi was getting up from the table and Toshi told him to leave his plates, but then it was Raman who told his mom that Adi can do it because he needs to learn how to function in a household. I know it's nothing significant, but to me the scene stood out because Raman was being a parent to Adi. In a little over 1.5 weeks, where did that Raman go?

I also don't get what the panic is of Adi moving out. In this episode Raman is worried because his son is "missing," but if Adi lives at Mihir's place - how does that translate into Raman losing Adi forever? Whatever - I'm just trying to apply logic to something silly.

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

First things first, THANK YOU for opening this thread and giving us a place to express our displeasure with today's shenanigans.

I might be in the minority but I liked today's episode and here is why.

1) Husband-wife: I saw Raman's character development today, I saw him act like a man who is about to lose his son yet again and I saw a husband taking out his frustration on the person he is closest to, his wife. There is no doubt that Raman loves Ishita and knows that she is the reason that Adi is warming up to him and he proved that when he said what he said to his ex-wife. He didn't mince any words to let her know that his Ishita does not have a problem with Adi, she loves his son and cares for him deeply. So we cannot question putter's love for the missus.

Now coming to the HURTFUL and I mean very hurtful things he said to his wife. You know I am not a big fan of the MALE gender right now so this little shenanigan that puttar pulled on the missus today just pushed me off the edge about MEN in general. *sigh* *they are so freakin stupid* Anywho, I am not justifying the hurtful words he said to Ishita but trying to look at it in a realistic angle. Raman knows he can only take out his frustration on his wife because no one else will tolerate his bullshit like Ishita will, so he used the anger from the morning add panic of not finding his son in the house, add to that the complicated relationship he shares with son and the frustration of not being able to control the situation...all this together made him snap and he said things that he obviously did not mean but anger got the best of him and he just vomited out words without thinking the damage they will do to Ishita. Anger is our worst enemy, we do and say things in the heat of the moment which we would never do or utter in normal circumstances. Unfortunately words are like arrows once it leave the bow, there is no coming back, words once spoken cannot be unspoken! Puttar must pay for his callousness and the hurtful things he said to the missus, you hurt the one you love the most but that doesn't mean that you take your loved one for granted and he has taken Ishita for granted.

I was trying to be okay with the yelling session of puttar until he folded his hands and stopped Ishita from accompanying him to fetch their son which he claimed is HIS son. That's when it looked like he has taken Ishita for granted, it is one thing to take out your frustration on your wife and completely different to take her for granted. That last part just pushed me off my sanity and I lost my marbles at puttar. Not only did he call her "Ishima' in a condesecning manner but he insulted her love for him and the selfless love she has for his good for nothing son. Putar needs to pay for this crap and I really do hope that the missus gives it back nicely.

2) Self respect: I do not think Ishita has lost her self respect as of yet she might very well lose it in the upcoming episodes if she doesn't standup for herself but till now she is just being the calm one when everyone around her is acting bat shit crazy. She was quite when Raman blew his fuse because at that moment the most important thing was to locate Adi, she acted naturally like any partner would when the other one is acting irrational and psychotic. Her self respect will be preserved if she doesn't apologize to the brat, and actually leaves the Bhalla household with Ruhi in tow once the ladle beta returns home.

I want Ishita to leave the Bhallas not to teach them a lesson but I want to her to leave for herself. All this time she has lived a life as their bahu, taking decisions for their betterment, being a support system for a broken Raman while ignoring her self and her growth. I want her to take a break from her family, take her daughter and live a few months of her life foe herself, her happiness and her growth. If they show this it will be a great women empowerment message because taking a break to heal oneself does not equal abandoning family, and this message is badly needed in our society especially for the Indian women who post marriage never think about themselves. I know hoping for a lot here but sochne pe tax thodi lagta chain, 😆

I have a lot to say about Toshi ji but my hand hurts so I am gonna stop here and may be come back later to update more.

I like the episode because it was realistic, a married man taking out his frustrations on his mum wife, a mother in law berating her daughter in law in front of the grandchildren, a father desperate to find his son and a man failing miserably at string a balance between being a father to his lost son and a husband to his resilient but hurting wife. I like realism so I enjoyed it even though my heart bled for Ishu.

Puttar puttar puttar...sigh! STUPID MEN and THEIR STUPIDITY is gonna be the end of their kind, we just need to figure out how to procreate without them and then there is no need to have MEN around. 🤣

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Gosh I tried to be calm but everytime I tried to write my blood started boiling.

What kind of regressive thinking is that you reprimand the adult in front of a 12 year old, not even knowing what's wrong. So the same woman who you thought was a Yashoda maiya to your one grandchild becomes a Putana for the other? How insulting is it for a daughter in law to be told to stay away from their GKC? Where will she go? Vanish into thin air? It exactly gave me that vibe...The woman who keeps gushing about Ishu being a Yashoda Maiyya not once but at many instances including when Adi put Ishita behind bars vanished today to god knows where

For Raman. First and foremost..You have your ex, your parents, 3 adult siblings to take care of your, 12 YEAR OLD for heavens sake, "Bachcha"...so why is it Ishita's responsibilty to babysit your 12 YEAR OLD GKC? Shouldn't it be your family and his birth mother, who lives under the same roof, who should be protecting your precious GKC? That part irked me...Shagun ka saaman nahi hai...toh if Shagun ka saaman nahi hai, Adi ka saaman nahi hai both will be together na? Adi has gone with HIS mother...how can Raman not see that? And why is everybody acting as if Adi has been living there all these years and somebody has abducted him... when Adi has been living with his mom all these years and so by default would be where she is😕

For you to have the balls to mock "Ishima" ? Remember not once but TWICE she's the reason you retained custody of your other child, Ruhi ..who you seem to have forgotten ever since your GKC has started living with you. And to do it in front of first Neelu and then in front of your mother and sister, the whole "folding hands" dismissal at the end and the sentence about no one can come between your Adi and you?...Did your braincells freeze at the ice cream shop?

Not Done! Just not done! BLOW OF BELOW THE LOWEST OF LOW degree 🤢 That Ishima wala line makes you wanna shoot yourself. All these are signs that Raman has taken Ishita for granted and that needs to be corrected ASAP.

I get that Puttar was stressed out and panicking after discovering Adi has left and probably got a deja vu of six years ago. But nothing absolutely nothing gives a spouse the right to be a jerk like he was today...he was verbally abusive and downright condescending today. He kept on hitting at Ishita's softest spot...her wajood as a mother. After singing praises of Ishita as a mother, after all the tum asli maa kyun nahi ho, you are more than real mother this was like you can't bear children, so you are unfit to be a parent wala feel. HONESTLY. He just questioned every motherly trait of Ishita when he had no right👎🏼

So I would like to see how the CVS redeem their male protagonist, Raman Bhalla...because to me as a woman, he was just butchered into oblivion as a crass, uncultured jerk...and he has never been that.

I seriously hope it's not rushed, I just hate it when that do that 😡 . If the CV's have taken so much pain to bring Raman this low, then I am wish they would take the equal amount of pain to redeem him especially after question Ishita as a mother. 🤢 I hope that this kaand is not forgotten; and only forgiven with time.

phew..I needed to get it out of my system. Glad u did 😊

Originally posted by: maaloo

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">Thanks Gan 🤗for opening a thread for us to rant.. and God do I want to!!!😡</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">Havent watched the episode and dont intend to either, but have read the WU and all the posts in this thread (lovely post all.. its such a good read.. I wish CVs do visit this thread..😛) . Just reading the WU is making my blood boil.</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">A NOTE TO CVS</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">I very humbly request you to stop reading fairy tales and start living in the real world... Adoptions are common, divorces are common, and ex-partners bringing up their children with mutual understanding and respect is also common.. and these kids do lead a healthy normal life.. they are not the crazy whackos trying to bring their parents together... Stepmoms are bad in fairy tales only.. my sister-in-law was brought up by a stepmom and she is the most wonderful person .. very loving, very much there for her children. She has other children too but has never ever treated her step-kids any differently than her own kids.. A woman is capable love, selfless all encompassing love, and like the quote posted in this thread.. being a stepmom is a choice.. and they know what they are getting in to.. so please stop running with this idea of evil-step-mom as perceived through the eyes of your 12 year chotta whacko baccha Adi!!!😡</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">CVs you have ruined Raman's character too today.. Raman- its so not done calling your wife a dumbo and then thinking of making it up to her with ice-cream and then going ahead and shouting at her that its her lack of responsibility that your son and ex-wife is missing. Put two and two together Mr. bhalla.. your GKC, green lantern jigar-ka-tukda whatever you choose to call your psycho kid is with his mom!!! She can take care of her son.. she won't be lying down in some garbage and if she is, dont worry your GKC will call you.. The person you called irresponsible, happens to be the one who brought your daughter close to you.. or maybe you have forgotten that? One day you sing praises saying why cant you be my kids' mom and that you are the world's best step-mom and in the very next breath you say about irresponsibility and "your" kid and give her the feeling that a step-mom can actually be nothing but evil? Really? Dont say stuff you dont mean to follow through.. and this is the worst blow of them all.. this character assassination of Raman. Even when he was Mr. Akdoo.. he always was true to his word. Even during the accident phase, he hated doing what he was doing.. and every action showed that he was majboor. He never vocalized like he did today. I understand things could be said in panic, confusion and anger but that isnt a license to be insensitive.</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">Toshiji is a yo-yo.. her views always depends on who is at the receiving end.. If its someone from her family, - Adi, Romi, Raman, ya Simi. who is in the wrong then she usually turns a blind eye and blames the other person.. be it Ishita, Sarita or anybody else.. We have seen he doing so in the Param kand.. when she believed ishita to be the temptress, in the Romi kand where she believed Ishita to be the one who supported Sarita, in the amma-accident kand.. when she supported Ishita initially till she knew that it was Adi who was the culprit.. then it was all about spare my GKC..so toshiji's views change and depends on how the wind blows.</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">Like many have mentioned in this thread.. I would like Ishita to walk off with her head held high.. with Ruhi, and move away.. and not just across the hallway.. Let Raman and the rest of the gang enjoy their time with GKC and muft mein Shagun..</font>

<font color="#0000ff" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif" size="2">CVs, now that you have taken this route you better follow through and give a logical ending to this track. and not a romantic scene in the next couple of episodes and a quick cover up. Romance wouldnt melt my heart if I were in Ishita's shoes though I am a sucker of romance. So please follow through logically and pretty please - Adi should learn that stepmoms are not evil and that his mom is playing him & Raman should make peace with the fact that Ruhi's ishima cannot be Adi's ishima.</font>

Originally posted by: krishy13

At the end of the day (and based on their track record)- what will we most likely get? A day or so of Raman seeking redemption and then back to nok-jok?