Raising questions as Viewers of YHM to Child actor's Parents. - Page 10

Originally posted by: Spero

@mayu1982 I'd like to congratulate you for making this thread. It's much needed. As a woman, I've been ranting about a woman's rights for the past few weeks. I feel that YHM does anything but empower women. Fact is, positivity brings in more positivity. You teach by setting good examples. This show doesn't do this. For the sake of TRPs, all kind of illogical things are being shown and it's being accepted by the audience.

Most people claim that they are Ishra fans, myself included. So, for 3 minutes of Ishra romance every 2 days, we are accepting the mental torture that is being heaped upon us by the CVs. Some critics may ask me "why do u still watch the show then? If u don't like it, then stop." I agree. But sometimes it is hard to let go so part of me lingers round this forum, reading posts, hoping for CVs to find their brains.

I never thought about this show from a child's perspective, which you have done. A few days ago, I wrote a post. One line was on Adi's acting abilities. After posting, I immediately edited it for I realized that the child artist could visit this forum and be affected by my comment. The child is just acting. Whether his parents should intervene about the current track, I can't really comment on that. But I do blame the CVs for the handling of this character. A few observations on the character:

- Adi must be 10-12 years old? He's exposed to the internet, television. He goes to school. Yet he's unable to think on his own? Unless a child is mentally retarded, and I do not mean this as an insult, most children nowadays are really smart. They grasp quickly, and they understand. Even if parents are failing in their roles, values can be gained via observation, good television shows, books, through the internet. Please don't let ur child watch YHM
- Adi has never shown any respect to Raman prior to his current stay in Bhalla house. The child is mostly concerned with his materialistic needs n his selfish mother's plight.
- Adi caused Ama's accident. I never saw any remorse for that. I mostly skipped the accident track so I can be wrong here. Community service didn't help IMHO.
- Adi knew the truth about Ashok. Yet he never told his mother. But he believes his mother when she says that the Iyer sisters have ruined her life. Excuse me, remember Ashok's conversation with Suraj? Remember that Ishita brought ur mother into her home from the kachra she was in??? And Ishita wasn't even in the picture one year ago!!! Common sense, any?
- Now the character is being shown as a manipulative kid. Is the bonding with Raman real?

I honestly cannot connect to this character. I don't understand child psychology but I can differentiate between right and wrong. Everything about this character is wrong, and it is not the child artist's fault. We should all try to remember this when we comment on Adi. As for Ruhi's character, I would defer to the mothers here who think that she's participating in scenes above her age.

As audience, it is our responsibility to object when something wrong is being shown. Whether we like it or not, there are many people who are influenced by TV shows and films. A show which does not empower, focuses on negativity is currently number 2 in India. This worries me. There were other ways to show Adi's redemption which did not include trampling upon a woman's right, providing an unhealthy environment for children, showing a child as evil with no moral compass... Most of u have already commented on all this, so I'll refrain myself. I know that at the end, everything will be alright but did the show really have to go down this route and show all this crazy stuff? I miss the old YHM, which made sense.

The above is my opinion, and is not meant to offend anyone.

Originally posted by: Sky23

Excellent post

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

Hey Mayu...

I am neither a parent nor a child psychologist, so I don't really know where I stand on the question > whether parents should allow their children to act in such shows/movies where the child may eventually get affected by the negativity? So i really cannot comment on it. As a viewer, I do appreciate the need for child artists, and do realise that they may be losing some part of their childhood experience because of starting to work at a young age.

I do, however, have an opinion on Adi/Gautam & Ruhi/Ruhanika

I recently saw a couple Gautam's bytes on TV. Off-screen, it looked to me like he is a sorted, smart person. And, given his age, I could understand where he is coming from. He was almost making fun of his own character. He said something on the lines of, the Bhallas cannot even throw me out of the house, and he and Anita laughed. I sensed that he understands it's a show, and as Adi, he has to do certain things. If that is the case, then hats off to his parents for raising such a sorted person, and presumably explaining to him the differences between real and reel.

With Ruhanika, I think it is completely different. Whether or not she is playing a positive or negative role in this case is immaterial to me. In the sense, that they aren't just making her be sweet and smile all the time. They are going completely overboard with her maturity. The worst example (and that is the day I stopped looking at Ruhi as an innocent child) for me was when she gave a lecture to the aunties about her mother not being a Baanjh... Good Lord, at that age, my parents wouldn't even have let me be in the room. Ruhi asks Toshiji what baanjh means and then goes on to lecture people about it. I think Ruhanika has a higher chance of being affected by what she sees than Gautam. Even if Ruhanika's character is positive, she's made to see things that are bound to influence her at her age.

bas, that's what I felt. age of the child matters a lot, and I'd be more worried about Ruhanika than Gautam. but yes, the situation isn't ideal for either of them.

PS: I just realised I didnt even compliment you on the post. I am sorry, its totally unlike me

Excellent post Mayu, and very valid points.👏

Originally posted by: charu_81

Well written Mayu..

👏

CV's and makers of this show should be given warning...

Originally posted by: serendipity.

Fantabulous post... And I HAVE to agree!

Originally posted by: mayu1982

Lucky !! Is making fun of your character is normal sign for any kid. I am not expert nor am child psychologist . Just putting myself in that condition-

Where I see my kid playing a role

1) who almost kills elderly woman

2) Burnt your hand - self destruction

3) Taking pills - 2nd attempt to harm himself as a character.

Hats off to parents they must be mentally very strong, I can't see someone else kid doing this stuff , forgot about my kids doing this.

Now placing myself in his parents position:

Should i happy or revolt?

Should I happy that my kid is not taking these things seriously and making fun so everything is fine with him so why do I care about whether kids should be allowed to do this.( Sorry dear am not trying to be rude with you. Seriously just giving alternative or possible thinking option.. Seriously sorry I hurt you in any way)

Next my kid is getting hate mails - means cursing this character 😭 They must be aware how much people hate this kid character onscreen.

Still these things are not affecting them not possible - Not possible.

It is effecting them, few days back ruhi posting messages on twitter on behalf of gautam that he is sweet kid( which he will be) and don't bash him , after all he is doing his duties.

Instead of requesting to fans or general public they should object/oppose it with production. Fact is - their kid(child) as character is not showing positive thing on screen.

One more example - Do u see doli armaano ki- actor who is playing vilian role, read an article about him, where he mentioned that he is taking sleeping pills because of his character. He is doing so much negative things on reel life that is effecting him personally. Since he is personal against of most of things he does on screen. SO even adult people are effected by negative things or doing negative things even if it is fictional

Now coming to ruhi part- agree with you..

P.>S - THank you so much Lucky for lovely comment... big hug wala thank you🤗

And btw you forget to clicked like option😆

Originally posted by: Spero

I recently saw Gautam's interview along with Anita. He appeared grounded.

I don't know the kid but he appears nice. It's tough for a child to play the role of Adi. No wonder Gautam hasn't really been able to improve his acting abilities. He simply cannot connect to his character! Can we really blame him? Most of us are bashing this character.

Personally, I blame the CVs. They didn't take the time to develop this character. Adi is used whenever they need TRPs. CVs are focusing too much on Shagun poisoning Adi against Ishita, and we are not being shown the inner turmoil going on in the child.

He was shown to be taking an adult's medicine just to get rid of Ishita. Now that's twisted. I can understand the hurt within him but I'm not seeing any goodness.

Well, we can all argue to our heart's content but it's not going to change anything. CVs have their own vision of the show, which they have proved - morals be damned, logic out of the window and TRP rules. YHM is no 1 😆

But I'm glad that we get to discuss such topics on IF. Once again, thanks for this thread 😊