Is Mani really so wrong in questioning where Raman's loyalties lie?

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amrithas

@amrithas

Dazzler

Posted: 10 years ago

#11

Till sometime back I could get Mani's concern for Ishita as a friend as Raman is a difficult man to understand n well he's not very pleasant. My main issue was and always with Mani is that even as a loving bestie there are certain lines u dont cross neither by actions nor by words not to your friend n definetly not to ur friends spouse. He is a smart businessman n understands n talks of everything clinically like its a deal. He just does not understand the intricacies of relationships. He cares for Ishita n thats that.

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yhm_craze

@yhm_craze

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Posted: 10 years ago

#12

beautiful post 👏...I have been a part of the crowd bashing Mani after watching the precap but you have forced me to think again 😆

You are right...as Ishita has always shared everything about Raman with Mani as her best friend its alright for him to voice his concerns. But his concern, does it match with all that Ishita has shared with him till now? Ishita has literally confessed to Mani that she loves Raman and she keeps telling him how much he cares for her. She has said in many ways that her happiness lies with Raman. If he really is her best friend does he realize what Ruhi means to her. He always talks of Adi and Ruhi in the same vein...Raman's kids, as if Ishita bears no responsibility or duty towards them forget love. That's not true is it. Ruhi is Ishita's daughter too. And does Mani know the real deal behind Ishra marriage? Has he ever asked her why did she choose to marry a man with so much baggage from his past.

I dont know why but I find a serious lack of empathy in Mani. All his concern, all his affection is just centred around Ishita.

Yes his concern around Adi is valid but I think instead of voicing his fear he has as usual come to a conclusion about Raman. Anyways as long as Mani is just voicing his concern and not trying to force it on Ishita its fine..coz its already the second time he is trying to do it. Ishita is an educated sane woman and can decide for herself what she wants in life and I hope Mani respects that.

Edited by yhm_craze - 10 years ago

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nebuna

@nebuna

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Posted: 10 years ago

#13

Reposting from another thread

I am no mani supporter but was nt he right though he is interfering ...If and so the situation arises he will choose adi over ishitha

Truth is bitter when ishitha can choose and reject girls for Mani why can t he help her out in certain real issues when his friend has faced harassment and it is no family problem now

He is just being a loyal friend to help out another

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geethika

@geethika

Dazzler

Posted: 10 years ago

#14

Friends tend to share everything because they can relieve out their frustration..
But if you are unmarried and your friend is married you might get something in return "You are not married you would not understand"...
If you are married and if your friend is married even then you might get "you would not understand because you are not going through it"...

So most importantly one should not let their private matters to others how close they might be...
secondly one should listen to others problems and leave it.. unless it is something serious one should not advise all the time..

You can advise your friend but not to your friend's spouse.. unless they are very close to you and seek your advice..

In raman-Ishita case,,
Their marriage was a compromise and later there was a gradual change..which Mani was not aware of..

Mani met Ishita after a long time.. he didn't attend ishra mrraige and he hardly knew Raman... Ishita gave that leniency to Mani .. though she didn't blame raman any time.. she gave that freedom..to Mani who is over protective of her. Mani blamed Raman that he is not worth to be a good husband to Ishita which was quite wrong...He should interfere with her married life when her parents are least bothered.. he never heard of any kind of harassment on Ishita by Raman.. so he need not meddle with their married life 😊

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Mehak Ashraf

@Mehak_KPian

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 10 years ago

#15

^^Vidya, loved your answer. I don't think there is a need to say anything as you said all. 😳

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Colt.Pixy

@Colt.Pixy

Trailblazer

+ 5

Posted: 10 years ago

#16

so much concern would be valid if he was with her before 4 years and before she got married. where was he till now if he is so much worried? he was not living on mars that he could not be contacted for 4 years

Edited by Colt.Pixy - 10 years ago

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Lekz

@Lekz

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 10 years ago

#17

No matter how hard I try to hate the precap...the fact still remains that Mani was right as a friend.

He is worried for Ishita...

And most of Ishita's problems today are coz of Raman and his past.

I only hope Raman does not buckle under guilt and decide to move on...if anyone can help him get over his demons and get his life back on track its Ishita...so its now Raman who should realize that.

I am sure Ishita will.

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-mujna-

@-mujna-

Navigator

+ 3

Posted: 10 years ago

#18

Abhimanyu is ONLY Ishita's friend... that is the reason he doesn't identify the real Raman Bhalla under all the baggage!!! As a friend who has been in a position similar to Mani's I completely GET IT!!!... A true friend would play the Devil's Advocate... Just like Mani is... Not because he wants Ishita to leave Raman... But because he wants the assurance that his friend is going to be OK... that even after this very traumatic experience that she went through, she has the support system that she deserves... i think that his question was completely valid...

PS: But that still doesn't mean that I am OK with this Mani character... he is an unnecessary vestigial complication in a near perfect relationship that was progressing beautifully before he decided to put his Turkish butt in!!!

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Anju.

@ALUJNA21

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+ 10

Posted: 10 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: nebuna
Reposting from another thread

I am no mani supporter but was nt he right though he is interfering ...If and so the situation arises he will choose adi over ishitha

Truth is bitter when ishitha can choose and reject girls for Mani why can t he help her out in certain real issues when his friend has faced harassment and it is no family problem now

He is just being a loyal friend to help out another

I watched only the precap today and I agree with you, it is very obvious Mani can't go and calculate the side of a person which he has not seen of, but he will directly judge the person from what he has witnessed and here it is always Ishita in problem because of Raman family... Well in an on location video I watched Raman also was stating the same so why not Mani???