Originally posted by: -Hima-
Marriage is always a give and take.. there is nothing called 'no expectations' from a marriage. ANd yes, Raman had a LOT OF expectations from Ishita and Ishita has been meeting them.. hence he likes her! He has shown his displeasure several times when she did not meet his expectations. Now she is angry with him because he did not meet her expectation THIS TIME by NOT TRUSTING her.. it is a temporary anger which will be taken care of by his loving actions towards her!
I DISAGREE. I dont think Raman expected ANYTHING from Ishita as such. The fact that she even agreed to marry him out of sheer love for Ruhi was enough for him. I would say, he was rather surprised as Ishita turned out to be SO different from Shagun in every respect. The respect and consideration in his mind for his wife built up slowly as she reacted to his taunts, mistrust and general dismissal in ways he didnt expect. For example, in the initial episodes, there was one scene where, blinded by the love of his son, he asked Ishita to apologize to Adi for no fault of hers. I dont think he expected her to accept tht, but Ishita being Ishita, said sorry. If you guys noticed, then Raman did look shamefaced and repented for the same in private.
There has been a tremendous growth inRaman because of Ishita. Her easygoing caring nature, her usual samaj-seva attitude, intense love for Ruhi, all keep her busy and keep Raman from exploding more than he usually does.
Whereas the growth in Ishita has reached a point of REGRESSION now. I mean, just when she was mulling over how happy Raman is, how happy she is, and how probably life was giving them second chances and blah blah; Mani makes a sudden, unwarranted entry from nowhere and becomes the only focus of attention for Ishita. IMO, if life is supposedly giving you and your husband a second chance at love and relationships, then you explore that. Not give all your undivided attention to a long-lost best friend, entertain him at any hour of the day, and not pay ANY attention to the fact that your husband might be trying hard to get your attention.
Raman is not biased, as such. Even in today's episode where he was beating Romi black and blue, he stood by Ishita's verdict that Romy should marry Sarika. But Ishita, being the idiotic woman she is, is taken aback for a while when Sarika says "kal aapke pati yahan aaye the...mujhe khareedne."
Now am sure she wil let that thought ferment in her head and do something stupid AGAIN. Why the hell does she have to do things alone? Why cant she stand as a team with Raman?
Today was like the umpteenth time somebody told Ishita not to interfere in other's business. I think that is a particularly marked trait of this character. I would really like to see if Mani still visits her as much, with Toshi around. I hardly think that is possible, coz Toshi is going to voice her concerns pretty soon. And when Ishita herself wanted 'Raavan Kumar' to kudho, in order to find out if he has feelings for her, AND he does that, what's the problem? Why does she fail to recognize his feelings?
I think Ishita is a very bland character, who will let her naivety delay any impending romance between her and Raman. Even now Raman does not expect ANYTHING from Ishita. I dont think Raman expects anything of ANYONE. Barring his temper, he is one person who can take an unbiased stand.Consider for example, the case of SARIKA. Now that she is pregnant and really disturbed, she felt offended by Raman's words. But then I kind of agree with what he is saying.
Just getting your unwilling brother married to his pregnant gf isnt going to solve problems. Especially when he does not love the girl and can make her life hell post-marriage. As women, when we think about it, it hurts. But its practical. What's the point of dragging on a life with someone you know isnt ever going to change? But yeah, I do stand by the fact that this time Romi should be made to pay for his mistake.
Here, Ishita is of the view that Sarika SHOUld mary Romi. And what happens tomorrow if he continues womanising and torturing Sarika? How many times can anybody else in the Bhalla family step in to save her? Everything does not rest on ideals naa.
Raman and Ishita need to use their brains as a TEAM. Ishita should stop saying, "abhi mujhe hi kuch karna hoga" at the slightest opportunity. Raman should open up a little more to trust his wife is his plans more often. But poor guy, he lost it so badly wth Shagun he doesnt fully feel comfortable sharing his heart with Ishita. That, of course, is going to take time.
Marriage is a companionship and an absolute teamwork. There are some ground rules which both parties need to understand and follow. But it would be wrong to say Ishita took Raman's taunts coz she fully accepts him. She hasnt, yet. Not completely. Coz stupid comparisons keep popping in her head now and then. Ishita is Ishita. She was so ultrapolite to even that Suraj Khanna. She tolerates Simmi's nakchadhi baatein. Sometimes even Param's sly comments. That's her nature. The fun is when you against your core nature and do something, specially for the one you love. Just for the heck of it.
Ishita is YET to do that!
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