I differ..
Rathore and Nani are so unlike...it's unfair to regard them same in any way.
Nani has not just pampered her..she spoiled her intentionally. Tapasyas foul thoughts and jealousy which later turned hatred for Ichcha was never her own..it was just a personification of Nani's hatred for damini and her daughter.
and Rathore is not really pampering Tapasya.. he didn't support any of her evil acts. Unlike nani...he didn't approve her bad behave with his Granny.
He didn't appreciate tapasya for leaving their daughter in orphanage, but at the same time he didn't leash out his anger at her..and that's not a pampering, instead that was sensible of him because he understands that tapasya can't be handled by punishment or anger. (plus neither their daughter will be back by just fuming at tapasya..nor she will be changed for good.).
Jogi vented his anger many times in childhood, punished her as well...veer did the same..but did anything ever proved instrumental in bringing tapasya on right track. No..things only worsened. She went from adamant to more adamant..more frustrated ..more evil..
but rathore knows to tackle her. and sooner or later he has always had his way with her. 😊
Rathore's acceptance for Tapasya comes out of his love...for it makes you forgive the biggest faults of the one you love. but unlike Nani neither he instigated her, nor approved her wrong deeds. In fact he is the first one to Realize that main cause and culprit behind Tapasya's malicious mind is only Nani and no one else and within his reach he would never let Nani continue with all she always did to taps. 😊
Yes , his acceptance comes out of his love . 😊 And Nani is devious .
But what is the END result ?Tapasya is showered with love and acceptance inspite of her mistakes ...some , very grievous ones.
Jogi punished her and got no result . Jogi showed her Tough Love , as sometimes it is immensely necessary . He has not stopped loving her but it is very vital to him that he should not attend her marraige and bless her as she is indeed building her life after destroying Icha's life .
The blessing has been witheld with a PURPOSE . Its his way of giving message to his daughter that he finds her behaviour UNACCEPTABLE . He has not given up on her , he STILL loves her and even Rathod detected that . But although he LOVES her , he will not FORGIVE her nonsense .
Thats what Rathod has done ...forgiven Tapasya for losing a baby . That baby can be DEAD by now or sold off to a brothel ...the crime Tapasya has done is so heinous that it should not get forgiveness in the name of unconditional Love .
Till the end it should be drilled in her head that what she did was Wrong , Wrong and WRONG . Whether she accepts it or not , whether she changes or not is immaterial . Whats wrong is wrong .
When Bad seeds r born , its unfortunate . Loving them should not mean CONDONING their nonsense .
Has Rathod even expressed his anger at losing his baby once ?
No , he PAMPERED her nonsensical untimely whimsical self absorbed and heinously selfish questions on that rainy night , inspite of noticing that the baby was NOT with her . She gave him a choice between her without the baby or nothing at all and he AGREED to the former .
If the baby understands it later , ideally She should be miffed with the father for choosing the mother MINUS her as the spoilt mother demanded .
My point is ...it really does NOT matter whether Nani is evil and Rathod is good . They both spoil a selfish person rotten , and if Jogi's punishment had no effects , this love too won't have any effects . As it is we see her DEMANDING that Rathod shud find her baby ASAP as if it was Rathod who lost the baby and she had nothing to do with it . We see zero remorse .
Anupamaa
