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A die Hard Twilight devotee since 2008 , the news of the recent affair has left us all speechless...I have some thought on Kristen and for me Robsten is unbroken...I am Sorry if its too long but I just had to let it our before I Combust ..For me Robsten will always be the couple who made me believe in true unadulterated love and it's not going to change now because what they share is magical...A love which happens once in a lifetime
While we were all screaming how we couldn't believe you would do this. How out of character it was in so many ways. How we couldn't believe you would inflict this level of pain on Rob. How you could destroy your own promising career for such a cheap and shoddy act. While we were letting how this affected US, damaged US, disappointed US drive us crazy, we were too emotional to stop, take deep breaths and really think about what we really do know.
Here's what I feel I know. I have watched you for four years. I have gone to your movies and purchased DVD's of earlier work, I have read and watched and listened to your interviews and public appearances. I haven't always agreed with what you said or understood your position, particularly the first couple of years. I have watched you grow and mature in your ability to deal with all the attention and pressure. I have watched that self-confidence that Rob talked about become more and more apparent as it was less hidden by your negative reactions to intrusive press and fans.
It is patently obvious that you detest lying or misrepresentation of one's self. You have allowed yourself to suffer the most offensive attacks and suppositions about yourself in order to meet your own standards for never lying, for never misrepresenting who you are. You never backed down.
You are a caring and loyal friend and companion. The people close to you in your life keep your loyalty no matter how they may stray personally. People constantly carp about you remaining attached to childhood friends even when they have done bad things. That doesn't mean you become like them. It is an indication of the generosity of your spirit. The only exception I have noted to that is Nikki Reed and I am convinced she did something that affected Rob or your relationship to him that even you could not forgive.
Everyone, from Directors to fellow stars to bit players who have come in contact with you comments without prompting on your professionalism, your dedication to your craft, your soaring ability and talent. Your passion and intensity are regularly referenced. How you are your own worst critic. How you have such high expectations of yourself. Almost universally they remark on how welcoming and inclusive you are on a production.
You hate the intrusions into your life by the paparazzi with a virulence that has no equal. You are constantly aware of being followed and photographed. You confront them on a regular basis when their intrusiveness passes a point you can't stand anymore. You never pose or preen or beg. You confront and attack.
You love Robert Pattinson more than you love life. You would do anything, go anywhere, stand up to anyone to protect him and be with him. And this is a matter of tremendous personal importance to you. So much so, that it took three years for you even to allow a little public glimpse into the feelings you have for him. That he returned them in the same way is equally apparent.
So given all of the above, how on earth could the events of July 17th unfolded? How could you intentionally agree to and go to a romantic rendezvous with a married man (hell, anybody, but his marital state just adds more pain to be shared). How could you jeopardize the value and appreciation of all of your work? The work that you throw yourself so passionately into? How could you risk your relationship with the most important person in your life? How could you display such callous disloyalty. How could you willingly romantically embrace and heatedly kiss another man? How could you give your most hated enemies the gift of your destruction on a silver platter? How could you do all of this in very public places and after leaving a place where you know the paparazzi regularly track your movements?
As you once said, "It's obvious." You couldn't and you wouldn't. And it should be equally obvious to all of us who call ourselves your fans and admirers. Who know anything about you at all.
So, Kristen, now we come to the place where some of the people who read this are going to start questioning my sanity and insist I am experiencing delusions to support my continued adoration of you and restore some hope back to my admittedly romance-challenged life. Well I spent the last day or so examining my motives and my logic. I'm pretty much a realist about myself. I'm very aware of my shortcomings. And I live with a person who suffers delusional episodes regularly, so I kind of know what they look and feel like. And from the best evidence I can tell about myself, this isn't one.
What this is, is a conspiracy theory. Because if you didn't knowingly participate in the events of July 17 in the way you have been presented as doing, then something else must have been going on. Someone or some group must have conspired to make it appear this way. And it had to be someone who you trusted and respected a lot and who had a reason to maintain contact with you that wouldn't raise suspicions in you or others close to you.
So I don't believe you were breaking down before that date. I don't believe this was some deluded cry for help or attempt to escape the pressure. I believe you were just as strong as you appeared to be. Just as motivated for your new projects. Just as secure in your own self-image as those around you say you are. Just as or even more in love with Rob and your life with him than ever. And horribly, sadly, just as secure in your famous "bullshit detector" as you have ever been. Maybe more. Maybe way too much.
You have always depended on and had excellent working relationships with your directors. The only obvious time I know of that you openly conflicted with a Director was David Slade. And you were profuse in your admiration and appreciation for Rupert Sanders. You were over the moon about the level of collaboration he allowed you to have. You couldn't wait to work with him again. And a project to do just that was in the works. So no doubt you would be unsurprised that he was staying in regular contact with you.
Alas, Rupert had a couple of problems (at least). Even if the "sources say" reports of his obsession with you are complete fabrications, he was clearly impressed with you and admired you. Who wouldn't? And let's face it, my dear, you are beautiful. Any honest man with a scrap of a libido would admit to finding you enticing.
But Rupert had a wife and two kids. A family with whom, by his wife's public statements, he spent little time. And maybe he wanted out. But a regular divorce would cost him plenty and although he's been successful, he's not rich, yet. And, again by his wife's statements, he may not have been a paragon of virtue throughout his marriage. And there may be evidence. So the expected property settlement, alimony and child support would be burdensome and might cut into his desired lifestyle What to do?
Well, if you wanted to leave your family and be able to afford it. And if you had crush on a young movie star with whom you actually had a very good professional relationship. And if it turns out that same young star has just completed two consecutive years of exceptional monetary success, enough to leave her a significant multimillionaire even after taxes. That might present what you perceived (admittedly in a deluded or super-egotistical way) as an opportunity.
There was just one little problem. Said young star is involved in a years-long deeply committed relationship with another guy. You have to have a way to get her out of that relationship and at the same time turn to you as her new paramour. But it just so happens that this young woman has an extensive and loyal network of friends and family and supporters. Who is to say she would react as desired and turn to you?
It's obvious, isn't it? You have to set it up so that not only is her relationship with her long-tine companion destroyed, but also she has to become a pariah. She has to lose most, if not all of her support system. And you will be there. Ever faithful. Ever supportive. The one person who never chastises her, because you were part of it. You might even play the victim card yourself with her. A shared experience to found your new relationship upon.
You don't care about your reputations because, hell, this kind of stuff happens all the time in Hollywood. People come back from it regularly. And she has enough cash in the bank to get you through until the projects start flowing again for both of you. And you'll be partnered with one of the most desirable women in the world. Who will have only you as a support system. Every thing you could want. It's obvious.
But you can't do it alone. You'll need co-conspirators to get the goods and send them into distribution so the trap can be set. You don't need to look far. Her relationship with the paps is legendary. And there are enough of them who feel the same way about her that finding one or two who will cooperate is easy.
So you set it up. You've been talking to Kristen regularly anyway about Snow 2 and it is no surprise when you call and want to meet. Maybe the timing and place don't make sense, but she trusts you. She has no reason to doubt your good faith. She makes her first mistake and agrees to come. So she pulls into the park. It's empty. No other apparent visitors or at most a lone car or van up the road a ways. Nothing for her to worry about as far as paps. It was already here.
She walks over to the wall and is looking out over the view. You move to her. I have no idea what you were saying, but I can imagine something that causes her defenses to lower. Some flattery about how much she has helped you. How Snow wouldn't have been the success it was without her. Blah, blah, blah. She smiles and looks all "golly gee", like maybe you said sweet nothings. Then you move into her personal space.
And this where she makes the second mistake. She lets you do it. She lets you touch her hands and arms. She lets you hug her. Maybe even gives a one armed hug back. But nothing more. No desperate lover-missed clinch. Nothing erotic.
So now you're a bit desperate yourself. You've played this card and maybe she's a little wary. She has given enough for a high-value teasing magazine cover. But it probably isn't enough to cause the major meltdown you need. What to do? It's obvious.
You ask for a ride back to your car or something like that. Either a second site was prepared in advance for such a possibility or your park buddy paps follow you while you keep her distracted from noticing. She agrees; her third mistake.
You stop on a public street with foot traffic. Your paps park across from you. And you lean in to her like your going to kiss her cheek. Or just another hug. And just as she turns to you, you press forward. Push her up against her door, making sure she's visible to the camera. You even glance over with your Director's eye to check the camera angle. You don't get a lot of frames before she pushes you away. She glances the same way you were looking and sees the pap vehicle. Panic. She gets you out and takes off, trying to cover her identity but it's way too late.
The next morning she's arriving at the gym or some place she goes to prepare for Calli. She recognizes the pap vehicle in the parking lot. She does something she has never, ever done. She performs for the paps, then begs for some sense of human dignity. None to be found here. Just greed and a sense of satisfaction at bringing down someone who has taunted them for years.
End of story. Back to my thoughts. Her activities in the parking lot on July 18th were the first indicators that she really was breaking down. Not from too much success, not from lack of love, not from external pressures. Breaking down from the thoughts of losing it all, especially Rob. She knows what he thinks of infidelity.
And now I'll entertain the obvious questions:
Why didn't she tell Rob what had happened when she got home?
She was in shock. She may not have even had clear memories of exactly what happened or the sequence of it happening. She probably had to really think about whether she thought Rupert did it intentionally. He was her friend, her co-artist, her Director. She had never suffered anything like this betrayal in her life. And it probably took her a couple of days (if at all) to figure out what happened.
Now they're at the weekend of the TCA's and they have commitments. She makes her next to last and, I think, her greatest mistake. She decides to wait. There are no rumors in the air. Nothing has started yet that she can tell. Maybe she has asked her people to try to make a deal for the pictures and is hoping it all just goes away. And on Monday Rob's people are contacted and all hell starts to break loose and it's too late.
Why did she apologize?
Can you imagine her state of mind? In one week she went from being absolutely one of the luckiest, most well-loved, most contented people in the world to total life collapse. Her career may be fatally damaged, personal relationships with Rob's Brit Pack buddies and friends are falling apart, her current projects, both in promotion and in development, could be affected to the tune of tens or hundreds of millions of dollars. The only people who want to talk to her are suits who are demanding she DO SOMETHING. Their investments are being devalued by the hour. And the one person in the world she actually wants to talk to, doesn't want to talk to her.
So she makes her final mistake. This one born of desperation, fear, outside pressure, a sense of failure that she has never entertained before in her life. The confident girl, the "truth machine", the person known world wide for personal integrity has been reduced to a cheating, conniving, lying s**t for all the world to see. So she apologizes. In public. And in doing so commits the sin Rob may be least able to overcome. She takes their relationship public at the worst possible time and in the worst possible way.
I will point out that she apologized only for a momentary lapse and I think that occurred when she let Rupert violate her personal space and touch her in a way he shouldn't have at the park. But I don't really know what was in her mind then. She may have even assumed responsibility for what happened. She may have convinced herself she led him on. People think all kinds of crazy things in situations like this.
I'm just going to recap my main argument here, devoid of specific details:
What am I most likely to believe:
That a person who to every possible scrap of evidence is of the highest personal integrity, who is completely, obviously in love with a man she lives with and has been with for four years, who has a professional career and reputation of the highest caliber, who has hundreds of people depending on her credibility for their livelihood and has never done anything that would negatively impact that credibility, who would rather suffer the taunts of press and "fans" rather than present herself in a way she thinks is not authentic, who has hidden the details of her love life from the most incredible scrutiny I have ever seen would, on a whim, throw it all away to kiss a married man on a public street in a light industrial area of West Los Angeles.
Or
That a recently minted big-time movie director, fresh out of directing commercials, where the talent is throw-away, who has a reported history of possible marital infidelity, who is known not to spend much time with his family might decide to use her for his own agenda in changing his marital status and prospects.
So here is where I try not to get sued by stating that I am not accusing Rupert Sanders of doing anything I have postulated here. I am simply offering another interpretation of the events. Given that US Weekly has repeatedly run stories that were not true or that stretched a fact into some conjecture that was wildly inaccurate, I think it is highly possible that there are elements of mis-statement, over-statement or just plain old truth-twisting in their story. I'm also not accusing US Weekly of being part of any possible conspiracy. They were just eager to run a sensational story and sell magazines.
By this time, you're either shaking your head and feeling sorry for my poor deluded state or you're mad as hell. If it's the former, I am too deluded to convince you otherwise. If it's the latter, what do you want to do about it? I want to know why the legitimate press apparently isn't interested in the truth. Why we just can't have broad demand that all the frames be produced along with any video. Let's just see what the response is to that. I predict it will be telling.
While we were all screaming how we couldn't believe you would do this. How out of character it was in so many ways. How we couldn't believe you would inflict this level of pain on Rob. How you could destroy your own promising career for such a cheap and shoddy act. While we were letting how this affected US, damaged US, disappointed US drive us crazy, we were too emotional to stop, take deep breaths and really think about what we really do know.
Here's what I feel I know. I have watched you for four years. I have gone to your movies and purchased DVD's of earlier work, I have read and watched and listened to your interviews and public appearances. I haven't always agreed with what you said or understood your position, particularly the first couple of years. I have watched you grow and mature in your ability to deal with all the attention and pressure. I have watched that self-confidence that Rob talked about become more and more apparent as it was less hidden by your negative reactions to intrusive press and fans.
It is patently obvious that you detest lying or misrepresentation of one's self. You have allowed yourself to suffer the most offensive attacks and suppositions about yourself in order to meet your own standards for never lying, for never misrepresenting who you are. You never backed down.
You are a caring and loyal friend and companion. The people close to you in your life keep your loyalty no matter how they may stray personally. People constantly carp about you remaining attached to childhood friends even when they have done bad things. That doesn't mean you become like them. It is an indication of the generosity of your spirit. The only exception I have noted to that is Nikki Reed and I am convinced she did something that affected Rob or your relationship to him that even you could not forgive.
Everyone, from Directors to fellow stars to bit players who have come in contact with you comments without prompting on your professionalism, your dedication to your craft, your soaring ability and talent. Your passion and intensity are regularly referenced. How you are your own worst critic. How you have such high expectations of yourself. Almost universally they remark on how welcoming and inclusive you are on a production.
You hate the intrusions into your life by the paparazzi with a virulence that has no equal. You are constantly aware of being followed and photographed. You confront them on a regular basis when their intrusiveness passes a point you can't stand anymore. You never pose or preen or beg. You confront and attack.
You love Robert Pattinson more than you love life. You would do anything, go anywhere, stand up to anyone to protect him and be with him. And this is a matter of tremendous personal importance to you. So much so, that it took three years for you even to allow a little public glimpse into the feelings you have for him. That he returned them in the same way is equally apparent.
So given all of the above, how on earth could the events of July 17th unfolded? How could you intentionally agree to and go to a romantic rendezvous with a married man (hell, anybody, but his marital state just adds more pain to be shared). How could you jeopardize the value and appreciation of all of your work? The work that you throw yourself so passionately into? How could you risk your relationship with the most important person in your life? How could you display such callous disloyalty. How could you willingly romantically embrace and heatedly kiss another man? How could you give your most hated enemies the gift of your destruction on a silver platter? How could you do all of this in very public places and after leaving a place where you know the paparazzi regularly track your movements?
As you once said, "It's obvious." You couldn't and you wouldn't. And it should be equally obvious to all of us who call ourselves your fans and admirers. Who know anything about you at all.
So, Kristen, now we come to the place where some of the people who read this are going to start questioning my sanity and insist I am experiencing delusions to support my continued adoration of you and restore some hope back to my admittedly romance-challenged life. Well I spent the last day or so examining my motives and my logic. I'm pretty much a realist about myself. I'm very aware of my shortcomings. And I live with a person who suffers delusional episodes regularly, so I kind of know what they look and feel like. And from the best evidence I can tell about myself, this isn't one.
What this is, is a conspiracy theory. Because if you didn't knowingly participate in the events of July 17 in the way you have been presented as doing, then something else must have been going on. Someone or some group must have conspired to make it appear this way. And it had to be someone who you trusted and respected a lot and who had a reason to maintain contact with you that wouldn't raise suspicions in you or others close to you.
So I don't believe you were breaking down before that date. I don't believe this was some deluded cry for help or attempt to escape the pressure. I believe you were just as strong as you appeared to be. Just as motivated for your new projects. Just as secure in your own self-image as those around you say you are. Just as or even more in love with Rob and your life with him than ever. And horribly, sadly, just as secure in your famous "bullshit detector" as you have ever been. Maybe more. Maybe way too much.
You have always depended on and had excellent working relationships with your directors. The only obvious time I know of that you openly conflicted with a Director was David Slade. And you were profuse in your admiration and appreciation for Rupert Sanders. You were over the moon about the level of collaboration he allowed you to have. You couldn't wait to work with him again. And a project to do just that was in the works. So no doubt you would be unsurprised that he was staying in regular contact with you.
Alas, Rupert had a couple of problems (at least). Even if the "sources say" reports of his obsession with you are complete fabrications, he was clearly impressed with you and admired you. Who wouldn't? And let's face it, my dear, you are beautiful. Any honest man with a scrap of a libido would admit to finding you enticing.
But Rupert had a wife and two kids. A family with whom, by his wife's public statements, he spent little time. And maybe he wanted out. But a regular divorce would cost him plenty and although he's been successful, he's not rich, yet. And, again by his wife's statements, he may not have been a paragon of virtue throughout his marriage. And there may be evidence. So the expected property settlement, alimony and child support would be burdensome and might cut into his desired lifestyle What to do?
Well, if you wanted to leave your family and be able to afford it. And if you had crush on a young movie star with whom you actually had a very good professional relationship. And if it turns out that same young star has just completed two consecutive years of exceptional monetary success, enough to leave her a significant multimillionaire even after taxes. That might present what you perceived (admittedly in a deluded or super-egotistical way) as an opportunity.
There was just one little problem. Said young star is involved in a years-long deeply committed relationship with another guy. You have to have a way to get her out of that relationship and at the same time turn to you as her new paramour. But it just so happens that this young woman has an extensive and loyal network of friends and family and supporters. Who is to say she would react as desired and turn to you?
It's obvious, isn't it? You have to set it up so that not only is her relationship with her long-tine companion destroyed, but also she has to become a pariah. She has to lose most, if not all of her support system. And you will be there. Ever faithful. Ever supportive. The one person who never chastises her, because you were part of it. You might even play the victim card yourself with her. A shared experience to found your new relationship upon.
You don't care about your reputations because, hell, this kind of stuff happens all the time in Hollywood. People come back from it regularly. And she has enough cash in the bank to get you through until the projects start flowing again for both of you. And you'll be partnered with one of the most desirable women in the world. Who will have only you as a support system. Every thing you could want. It's obvious.
But you can't do it alone. You'll need co-conspirators to get the goods and send them into distribution so the trap can be set. You don't need to look far. Her relationship with the paps is legendary. And there are enough of them who feel the same way about her that finding one or two who will cooperate is easy.
So you set it up. You've been talking to Kristen regularly anyway about Snow 2 and it is no surprise when you call and want to meet. Maybe the timing and place don't make sense, but she trusts you. She has no reason to doubt your good faith. She makes her first mistake and agrees to come. So she pulls into the park. It's empty. No other apparent visitors or at most a lone car or van up the road a ways. Nothing for her to worry about as far as paps. It was already here.
She walks over to the wall and is looking out over the view. You move to her. I have no idea what you were saying, but I can imagine something that causes her defenses to lower. Some flattery about how much she has helped you. How Snow wouldn't have been the success it was without her. Blah, blah, blah. She smiles and looks all "golly gee", like maybe you said sweet nothings. Then you move into her personal space.
And this where she makes the second mistake. She lets you do it. She lets you touch her hands and arms. She lets you hug her. Maybe even gives a one armed hug back. But nothing more. No desperate lover-missed clinch. Nothing erotic.
So now you're a bit desperate yourself. You've played this card and maybe she's a little wary. She has given enough for a high-value teasing magazine cover. But it probably isn't enough to cause the major meltdown you need. What to do? It's obvious.
You ask for a ride back to your car or something like that. Either a second site was prepared in advance for such a possibility or your park buddy paps follow you while you keep her distracted from noticing. She agrees; her third mistake.
You stop on a public street with foot traffic. Your paps park across from you. And you lean in to her like your going to kiss her cheek. Or just another hug. And just as she turns to you, you press forward. Push her up against her door, making sure she's visible to the camera. You even glance over with your Director's eye to check the camera angle. You don't get a lot of frames before she pushes you away. She glances the same way you were looking and sees the pap vehicle. Panic. She gets you out and takes off, trying to cover her identity but it's way too late.
The next morning she's arriving at the gym or some place she goes to prepare for Calli. She recognizes the pap vehicle in the parking lot. She does something she has never, ever done. She performs for the paps, then begs for some sense of human dignity. None to be found here. Just greed and a sense of satisfaction at bringing down someone who has taunted them for years.
End of story. Back to my thoughts. Her activities in the parking lot on July 18th were the first indicators that she really was breaking down. Not from too much success, not from lack of love, not from external pressures. Breaking down from the thoughts of losing it all, especially Rob. She knows what he thinks of infidelity.
And now I'll entertain the obvious questions:
Why didn't she tell Rob what had happened when she got home?
She was in shock. She may not have even had clear memories of exactly what happened or the sequence of it happening. She probably had to really think about whether she thought Rupert did it intentionally. He was her friend, her co-artist, her Director. She had never suffered anything like this betrayal in her life. And it probably took her a couple of days (if at all) to figure out what happened.
Now they're at the weekend of the TCA's and they have commitments. She makes her next to last and, I think, her greatest mistake. She decides to wait. There are no rumors in the air. Nothing has started yet that she can tell. Maybe she has asked her people to try to make a deal for the pictures and is hoping it all just goes away. And on Monday Rob's people are contacted and all hell starts to break loose and it's too late.
Why did she apologize?
Can you imagine her state of mind? In one week she went from being absolutely one of the luckiest, most well-loved, most contented people in the world to total life collapse. Her career may be fatally damaged, personal relationships with Rob's Brit Pack buddies and friends are falling apart, her current projects, both in promotion and in development, could be affected to the tune of tens or hundreds of millions of dollars. The only people who want to talk to her are suits who are demanding she DO SOMETHING. Their investments are being devalued by the hour. And the one person in the world she actually wants to talk to, doesn't want to talk to her.
So she makes her final mistake. This one born of desperation, fear, outside pressure, a sense of failure that she has never entertained before in her life. The confident girl, the "truth machine", the person known world wide for personal integrity has been reduced to a cheating, conniving, lying s**t for all the world to see. So she apologizes. In public. And in doing so commits the sin Rob may be least able to overcome. She takes their relationship public at the worst possible time and in the worst possible way.
I will point out that she apologized only for a momentary lapse and I think that occurred when she let Rupert violate her personal space and touch her in a way he shouldn't have at the park. But I don't really know what was in her mind then. She may have even assumed responsibility for what happened. She may have convinced herself she led him on. People think all kinds of crazy things in situations like this.
I'm just going to recap my main argument here, devoid of specific details:
What am I most likely to believe:
That a person who to every possible scrap of evidence is of the highest personal integrity, who is completely, obviously in love with a man she lives with and has been with for four years, who has a professional career and reputation of the highest caliber, who has hundreds of people depending on her credibility for their livelihood and has never done anything that would negatively impact that credibility, who would rather suffer the taunts of press and "fans" rather than present herself in a way she thinks is not authentic, who has hidden the details of her love life from the most incredible scrutiny I have ever seen would, on a whim, throw it all away to kiss a married man on a public street in a light industrial area of West Los Angeles.
Or
That a recently minted big-time movie director, fresh out of directing commercials, where the talent is throw-away, who has a reported history of possible marital infidelity, who is known not to spend much time with his family might decide to use her for his own agenda in changing his marital status and prospects.
So here is where I try not to get sued by stating that I am not accusing Rupert Sanders of doing anything I have postulated here. I am simply offering another interpretation of the events. Given that US Weekly has repeatedly run stories that were not true or that stretched a fact into some conjecture that was wildly inaccurate, I think it is highly possible that there are elements of mis-statement, over-statement or just plain old truth-twisting in their story. I'm also not accusing US Weekly of being part of any possible conspiracy. They were just eager to run a sensational story and sell magazines.
By this time, you're either shaking your head and feeling sorry for my poor deluded state or you're mad as hell. If it's the former, I am too deluded to convince you otherwise. If it's the latter, what do you want to do about it? I want to know why the legitimate press apparently isn't interested in the truth. Why we just can't have broad demand that all the frames be produced along with any video. Let's just see what the response is to that. I predict it will be telling.
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