Toxic relationship

While i was watching vanraj and anupama relationship before her wedding to anuj i thought what a toxic relationship 

But now seeing Maan i truly feel its a very toxic relationship to anuj kapadia 

Because of marrying anupama anuj almost lost life and became paralyzed with brain surgery falling off cliff

But great anupama and spineless anuj made vanraj as God who saved anuj life 

Now we have to watch anupama sashaying with shahs on becoming a dadi with vanraj while anuj is paralyzed and helpless leaving that poor fellow with 6 year old kid anu and 75 year old GK and dangerus ankush barkha adhik

Its one very toxic relationship 

Actually if anuj did not get a palaysis by falling off cliff he would have got a stroke in future because no family member can see his spouse or parent giving more priority to ex hubby or grow up kids over 6 year old child in such critical stages of life

A child will get jealous as 10 year old if parent gives more time to 14 year old elder sibling and here anupama is running after 28-30 year old kids instead of 6 year old kid 

And instead of taking care of her suhaag anuj because of whom shes enjoying super rich luxurious life as business woman owner and getting respect in society shes running to ex hubby home always 

Does not vanraj hav a wife kavya? Whys anupama always in his house and with him every where? 

Little anu is behaving more weird instead of getting possessive of mother as 6 year old he wants to go meet mummys ex hubby and hug him every other day at Shah house 

Which normal 6 year old do that? 

In real life poor anuj kapadia kind of hubby would get stroke or heart attack in anger that his wife prioritizng ex hubby and his family over him and his child or would divorce such a wife 

No man will tolearte all this by wife 

Imagine anuj kapadia was married before marrying anupama and goes everyday to ex wife house and laughs cooks and sings with her and her parents etc will anupama tolerate it?

She would immediately say aapne mujhe dhoka diya no 

Problem with anupama is she has no gratitude that anuj kapadia gave her better life great life at 45 years or she would be targeted by societyand  her ex hubby ex in laws and even kids all life 

Anupama has no respect forkanhaji too and not thankful to god for giving her anuj GK little anu which issad 

Just because Anupama married Anuj doesn't mean all her previous responsibilities ended. Kinjal is her her DIL n loves her dearly. She has to be there for her. Addition of new responsibilities doesn't mean old responsibilities should vanish. 

If a girl is married ppl expect she should forget her parents responsibilities n only care about in laws. Why? Does a man do the same. NO.

Also it's Anupama's children n they hold equal right on her like Anuj. Just because she married second time doesn't mean her children should suffer. Though pakhi n Toshi doesn't deserve anyone.

Also Anuj is a rich man he can have many servants n nurses till he get better. He is just sick not disabled. 

It's not like woman with sick husbands can't go to work or any where else.

This content was originally posted by: naaznin

Just because Anupama married Anuj doesn't mean all her previous responsibilities ended. Kinjal is her her DIL n loves her dearly. She has to be there for her. Addition of new responsibilities doesn't mean old responsibilities should vanish. 

If a girl is married ppl expect she should forget her parents responsibilities n only care about in laws. Why? Does a man do the same. NO.

Also it's Anupama's children n they hold equal right on her like Anuj. Just because she married second time doesn't mean her children should suffer. Though pakhi n Toshi doesn't deserve anyone.

Also Anuj is a rich man he can have many servants n nurses till he get better. He is just sick not disabled. 

It's not like woman with sick husbands can't go to work or any where else.

Than why anupama did 24/7 seva for vanraj shah and her in laws hasmukh leela

But not ready to take care of sick hubby anuj and in law GK whose aged or little anu

Why shes treating two husband and in laws house with diff yardstick 

Nowadays daughters take care of parent more than son or bahu in most houses 

Yes before son was expected to take care of parents not in last 20 years 

kinjal has 8 family there anuj has one no adult to take care of him 

Little anu is small kid who needs adult to take care of her 

GK is 75 needs seva from his kids not them making him cook clean sweep and remove pott of his 45 year old son 

I will agree anupama has responsibility of her 3 kids if they left house with anupama after divorce only 

They never helped or went with her its anuj and mukku who supported her she has no gratitude 

anupama cannot have cake and eat it too

Its called emotional infidelity and betrayal as per law t new huuby anuj and even to kavya 

But anu can take kinjal to her house and do the seva she can handle both kinjal and Anuj then.

This content was originally posted by: myviewprem

Than why anupama did 24/7 seva for vanraj shah and her in laws hasmukh leela

But not ready to take care of sick hubby anuj and in law GK whose aged or little anu

Why shes treating two husband and in laws house with diff yardstick 

Nowadays daughters take care of parent more than son or bahu in most houses 

Yes before son was expected to take care of parents not in last 20 years 

kinjal has 8 family there anuj has one no adult to take care of him 

Little anu is small kid who needs adult to take care of her 

GK is 75 needs seva from his kids not them making him cook clean sweep and remove pott of his 45 year old son 

I will agree anupama has responsibility of her 3 kids if they left house with anupama after divorce only 

They never helped or went with her its anuj and mukku who supported her she has no gratitude 

anupama cannot have cake and eat it too

Its called emotional infidelity and betrayal as per law t new huuby anuj and even to kavya 

Anupama is not taking care of vanraj but Anupama has accepted hasmukh and leela as her parents so it's her duty to take care of them in old age. Though leela doesn't deserves it. 

N being a MIL it's Anupama's duty to care for her Kinjal n her grand kid.

Choti anu is not so small n like I already said AK is capable of having many servants. It's not mandatory that a woman should only care for her husband n children. Many women go for work don't they hire servants for their kids.

Anupama was with Anuj in his sickness n kavya was with V.

If a person has so many responsibilities than her dependents too should understand that the same person cannot be available all the time. Such conditions happens in ppl doing second marriage n another reason why ppl fear going for second marriage.

This content was originally posted by: naaznin

Just because Anupama married Anuj doesn't mean all her previous responsibilities ended. Kinjal is her her DIL n loves her dearly. She has to be there for her. Addition of new responsibilities doesn't mean old responsibilities should vanish. 

Kinjal has her mother, husband, baa, Bapuji, Samar, Pakhi, Vanraaj, Kavya, doctors, nurse by her side. Anuj has a kid and an old father. Any sane person will tell Anu to be by Anuj's side at this time. He and CA needs her more now than Kinjal. If Kinjal was all alone, then her being with Kinjal leaving Anuj and CA would not have mattered. 

If a girl is married ppl expect she should forget her parents responsibilities n only care about in laws. Why? Does a man do the same. NO.

Lol when did Baa and Bapuji be home her parents. They are her ex in laws. She has a mother whom she does not even invite to her house in festivals. 

Also it's Anupama's children n they hold equal right on her like Anuj. Just because she married second time doesn't mean her children should suffer. Though pakhi n Toshi doesn't deserve anyone.

When did she let her children suffer? How are being with Anuj and CA would have harmed Kinjal? Kinjal has a mom who is more than willing to take care of her. Don't tell me only AnupaMaa can take care in this world. 

Also Anuj is a rich man he can have many servants n nurses till he get better. He is just sick not disabled. 

It's not like woman with sick husbands can't go to work or any where else.

If Anuj can have nurses, then Kinjal was surrounded by nurses and doctors. Nurses can give Anuj only physical support not mental. And Anuj is disabled. He can't walk on his own. 

Why can't anyone other than Anupama feed nutritious food? Is AnupaMaa the only one who can cook in this world? Is Kinjal's mom dead? And someone must be cooking for Shah household. Why can't that person cook for Kinjal? And I have given birth. It's not like you turn paralyzed after giving birth. You don't need to be surrounded by 50 people after delivery. Only one helping hand is more than enough. 

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Just because Anupama married Anuj doesn't mean all her previous responsibilities ended. Kinjal is her her DIL n loves her dearly. She has to be there for her. Addition of new responsibilities doesn't mean old responsibilities should vanish. 

If a girl is married ppl expect she should forget her parents responsibilities n only care about in laws. Why? Does a man do the same. NO.

Nowadays Men also take responsibility of Inlaws and Infact not considers themselves as son-in -law, they fulfill their responsibilities as son. Daughters also take care of their parents and even help financially also. Percentage may be less but time is changing. 

Also it's Anupama's children n they hold equal right on her like Anuj. Just because she married second time doesn't mean her children should suffer. Though pakhi n Toshi doesn't deserve anyone.

Also Anuj is a rich man he can have many servants n nurses till he get better. He is just sick not disabled. 

It's not like woman with sick husbands can't go to work or any where else.

I agree with each point. 

Nobody, not husband, not wife, not son, not daughter can sit with a sick person. 

but in case of  Anupama why double standard?

she can judge emotions of everyone but Anuj whom she claims to love very much and says she cannot take a breath without him.

when shahs were her Sasural, Her priorities were shahs -  Baa ho, baapuji ho ya Mishter Shah. Reasoning was ek aurayt ko maayke aur sasural mei batna padta hai.   Never gave a second thought. preference was shahs

Now shahs are her maayka, then why maayka is more important for her now.  Here, RD is also there ,does not kinjal have all the facilities. Does not a girl go to her maayka for delivery or post-natal care.  If kinjal's mother or no one were there, we could  understand  that a woman should have been there.

if it's Vannu in the palace of Anuj, would she ever step outside?  

My point is - why this type of attitude?