Toxic relationship - Page 5

Originally posted by: naaznin

Just because Anupama married Anuj doesn't mean all her previous responsibilities ended. Kinjal is her her DIL n loves her dearly. She has to be there for her. Addition of new responsibilities doesn't mean old responsibilities should vanish.

If a girl is married ppl expect she should forget her parents responsibilities n only care about in laws. Why? Does a man do the same. NO.

Also it's Anupama's children n they hold equal right on her like Anuj. Just because she married second time doesn't mean her children should suffer. Though pakhi n Toshi doesn't deserve anyone.

Also Anuj is a rich man he can have many servants n nurses till he get better. He is just sick not disabled.

It's not like woman with sick husbands can't go to work or any where else.

Originally posted by: Harish111

1) there is a honeymoon period in every new marriage. Where you only and only pay attention to your spouse. It allows couple to grow closer and know each other. Without that period no relation will survive. If a wife does not spend that period only with husband that relationship does not last

Anuj apne honeymoon pe bacchi adopt karneka suggestion diya tha Anupama ko🤪I'm not saying Anupama completely gives Anuj the kind of attention he deserves, but Anuj too is responsible for this,he never stays true to his words of drawing a line,Anupama ka toh samjh mein bhi aata hai,voh hai hi aisi,but Anuj khud hi har baar apne relationship ko aisi cheezein karke tamper karta hai🤢

2) how on earth are grown children suffering? They are even married for gods sake. Do you know most working children in india live in different cities who cannot even visig their parents even once a year? Stop pretending grown married adults are babies. Anupama doesnt need to go to ex house to meet them, normal sane adult children will understand and visit anupamas house instead

3) VANRAJ AND BAA are NOT HER family. They are her IN LAWS.

4) dude 99% of women in India today have husband taking care of them after delivery in hospital or their own mom, no one expects mother in laws to be there overnight. Which world do you live in?

5) no one will complain if Anupama goes for her own work. But getting close to her ex husband is EMOTIONAL CHEATING! No spouse on earth will tolerate their spouses getting close to their ex

Originally posted by: Kabhi18

The issue is that Kinjal kept saying 'mujhe Mummy chahiye' over and over again. She's probably gonna keep saying that still through the baby's childhood lol maybe even when she's an adult. So Anupama's only job will be to cater to Kinjal's kid.

This is why it's frustrating that Anuj brought up the whole adoption thing with Anu in the first place. Dude can see she's barely managing her own life and isn't even completely independent but no let's just throw another kid into the mix where the kid is going to have to interact with the toxic Shah's. And now choti Anu wants to spend time with 'everyone'. Smfh. Stupidity on his part.

When Anuj first proposed the idea of adoption to her & she pointed out how she wasn't ready for it but eventually agreed, it was clearly seen that she didn't want to adopt her but did it just for the sake of Anuj.I wish makers would have actually made Anu say no to it,because her saying yes to adopting her is not helping at all.It is very much clear that CA is nowhere in her priority list.And I can't blame her completely for this,she didn't want it,at least not within 1 month of marriage, if anybody is to be blamed for this,it is Anuj,yeh jaante hue uska dil nahin hai usmein he asked her to adopt CA.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Originally posted by: ItsmeAzra

I know Anu is mahaan and she loves CA equally like her own children (at least that's what they are trying to show),but does it look like that?NO.

When Anuj first proposed the idea of adoption to her & she pointed out how she wasn't ready for it but eventually agreed, it was clearly seen that she didn't want to adopt her but did it just for the sake of Anuj.I wish makers would have actually made Anu say no to it,because her saying yes to adopting her is not helping at all.It is very much clear that CA is nowhere in her priority list.And I can't blame her completely for this,she didn't want it,at least not within 1 month of marriage, if anybody is to be blamed for this,it is Anuj,yeh jaante hue uska dil nahin hai usmein he asked her to adopt CA.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

But she still went through it

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

i didn't watch those episodes. Was Anupama really not interested😲

But she still went through it

Haan,Anuj ke liye karli adopt aisa laga dekh ke😆

Originally posted by: ItsmeAzra

she gave a whole list of reasons for not wanting to adopt CA & then she went like it's okay(no it wasn't)karlenge(jabki main nahin karna chahti)😃

Haan,Anuj ke liye karli adopt aisa laga dekh ke😆

I wanna watch those episodes now🤣

Originally posted by: ItsmeAzra

she gave a whole list of reasons for not wanting to adopt CA & then she went like it's okay(no it wasn't)karlenge(jabki main nahin karna chahti)😃

Haan,Anuj ke liye karli adopt aisa laga dekh ke😆

Personally, I think Anuj is kind of manipulative for springing this on Anupama a day after marriage. If he wanted a child with Anupama, he should have discussed it with Anupama before marriage. Honestly, the issue of children can be a dealbreaker for many couples. But here, by stating his wishes after marriage, Anupama would of course be compelled to agree with Anuj.

Tbh Anupama has very unrealistic expectations. She wants to be there for everyone but it's simply not possible. If she wanted to prioritise Kinjal's baby for a while, she should not have adopted CA now. If she wanted to prioritise CA, then she should stop promising so much of her time and dedication to Kinjal. Even Baa has said, if you can't handle the responsibilities please let them know, Baa or Kavya can step in. However, if because Anupama made the choice, a distance may appear in her relationship with Toshu and Pakhi, and she has to accept the fact.

I am surprised how people are saying anuj is not first priority for anupama shahs and her kids are as they are mayka

also people saying anuj is rich can keep servants

and little anu is big eough so she should take crae of anuj with GK when anupam aroams and enjoys with shahs is highly sensitive

if servants have to care for anuj than he should have married a maid instead of anupama no atleast she woud be there 24/7 for him both physically and mentally

when a human whether a husband or child is serious first priority of the wife or mother should be that hubby or child not others

kinjal is not anupama child rakhi is there for her

anuj has no parents or siblings with him nor little anu is 18 years above that anupama left anuj alone and went away to hospital wants to stay at night or goes party for baby namkaraan etc

Its best anupama calls malvika and hands over kapadia house and business to her

Malvika will take care of little anu and anuj and GK better than anupama as she has no other family

Its highly insensitive how anupama behaving with kapadias and anuj when they are so sick and need her most

Why has anupama married anuj if shes so much in love with ex hubby family and ex in laws etc

both her kids are useless never cared for her why shes prioritizing them over anuj

if this is reward for 26 years selfless love no need to love anyone

Honestly even a pet dog or cat will understand whose sick at home and sit by them full day till they get well and are worried for family than anupama is as human to her family members kapadias

even enemy ankush barkha understand how serious anuj is compared to wife anupama is sad part of llife

can you imagine if our family or parents or spouse behave like anupama will we accept we will raise hell

When do you need a family most when sick or old if anupama cannot support at that time why marry in first place she should have said no to anuj marraige proposal only

Do anupama expect 6 year old child and 75 year old to care for paralyzed brain surgery guy wthin weeks of serious accident

She could have left anuj in hospital only why she got him to home saying i will care? when she does not care?

anupama is responsible for anuj paralysis as vanraj was angry on his kids being close to anupama nad called him to atack but somewhere did not and turned hero withoit reason

for me vanraj is criminal and responsible for anuj health and condition

also if anupam acannot take care of him 24 hours why get him home let doctors take care brain surgery and paralysis is no joke as shown in serial its life and death reqquires lot of care to get cured for a year almost

after 2nd marraige why anupama trying to please ex hubby his parents and even bahu ignoring anuj

kinjal should have brain to say go to anuj he needs you more which bapuji told

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I am surprised how people are saying anuj is not first priority for anupama shahs and her kids are as they are mayka

also people saying anuj is rich can keep servants

and little anu is big eough so she should take crae of anuj with GK when anupam aroams and enjoys with shahs is highly sensitive

if servants have to care for anuj than he should have married a maid instead of anupama no atleast she woud be there 24/7 for him both physically and mentally

when a human whether a husband or child is serious first priority of the wife or mother should be that hubby or child not others

kinjal is not anupama child rakhi is there for her

anuj has no parents or siblings with him nor little anu is 18 years above that anupama left anuj alone and went away to hospital wants to stay at night or goes party for baby namkaraan etc

Its best anupama calls malvika and hands over kapadia house and business to her

Malvika will take care of little anu and anuj and GK better than anupama as she has no other family

Its highly insensitive how anupama behaving with kapadias and anuj when they are so sick and need her most

Why has anupama married anuj if shes so much in love with ex hubby family and ex in laws etc

both her kids are useless never cared for her why shes prioritizing them over anuj

if this is reward for 26 years selfless love no need to love anyone

Honestly even a pet dog or cat will understand whose sick at home and sit by them full day till they get well and are worried for family than anupama is as human to her family members kapadias

even enemy ankush barkha understand how serious anuj is compared to wife anupama is sad part of llife

can you imagine if our family or parents or spouse behave like anupama will we accept we will raise hell

When do you need a family most when sick or old if anupama cannot support at that time why marry in first place she should have said no to anuj marraige proposal only

Do anupama expect 6 year old child and 75 year old to care for paralyzed brain surgery guy wthin weeks of serious accident

She could have left anuj in hospital only why she got him to home saying i will care? when she does not care?

anupama is responsible for anuj paralysis as vanraj was angry on his kids being close to anupama nad called him to atack but somewhere did not and turned hero withoit reason

for me vanraj is criminal and responsible for anuj health and condition

also if anupam acannot take care of him 24 hours why get him home let doctors take care brain surgery and paralysis is no joke as shown in serial its life and death reqquires lot of care to get cured for a year almost

after 2nd marraige why anupama trying to please ex hubby his parents and even bahu ignoring anuj

kinjal should have brain to say go to anuj he needs you more which bapuji told

No, people like myself are saying your husband doesn't need to ALWAYS be your top priority because that's regressive thinking. I'm shocked some people on this forum are so adamant on the idea that a woman's world should just revolve around her husband. Those people are saying REGARDLESS of circumstances. Listen to that and how that sounds.

The ironic part if that some forum members also insist that Anupama needs to be independent and the show needs to display true woman empowerment. Pretty sure pushing the idea that nothing else matters except your husband isn't going to help push that narrative. 😂

Yes she should have dropped the Shah family long back. Yes Anuj needs her love, support and care, he's paralyzed and going through a lot mentally currently. Yes CA isn't getting enough attention either, especially as someone who just got adopted. Anuj saying that orphan children know how to take care of themselves isn't helpful, since her father can not care for her in the current state, Anu should be stepping in. Now that Kinjal has had her baby and the delivery went fine, Anu needs to be there for Anuj and CA especially with this bs new track of memory loss coming up.

Yanha log ek din ka soch ke hyper ho rahe hai aur ye 40 din ki baat kar rahi hain, Itne detail mein pregnancy koun dikhata h but jab Anupama ko SH mein rokne ki aayegi toh kya bharosa wo b dikha den, kyunki log dekhna bhi chahte hain, imagine apne pati ko brain surgery ke baad wheel chair par chodh ke with her 6 year old daughter and 70 year old man ek patni apni bahu ka khayal rakhe wo bhi 40 dino tak wo b tab jab uski bahu ke paas super rich mother, her husband, her accha fil, ek mil ek super supporting dewar aur not so bad sil moujood hai aur uske grand parents bhi jisme Baa ko toh doctors se b jyada knowledge h, koi sence h is baat ka.