Toxic relationship - Page 7

To main aur kya keh rahi hoon ki. Main. Bhi yahi to baar baat keh rahi hoon ko anupama agar kinjal ka sutak ke time 2,4 hrs care kar legi then it not big problem

Maine to yeh kaha hi nahin ki anupama poore 40 days tuk anupama ko shah mein shift ho jaana chahiye

I had talk anupama taking care of kinjal for only 2,3 hrs

Originally posted by: myviewprem

While i was watching vanraj and anupama relationship before her wedding to anuj i thought what a toxic relationship

But now seeing Maan i truly feel its a very toxic relationship to anuj kapadia

Because of marrying anupama anuj almost lost life and became paralyzed with brain surgery falling off cliff

But great anupama and spineless anuj made vanraj as God who saved anuj life

Now we have to watch anupama sashaying with shahs on becoming a dadi with vanraj while anuj is paralyzed and helpless leaving that poor fellow with 6 year old kid anu and 75 year old GK and dangerus ankush barkha adhik

Its one very toxic relationship

Actually if anuj did not get a palaysis by falling off cliff he would have got a stroke in future because no family member can see his spouse or parent giving more priority to ex hubby or grow up kids over 6 year old child in such critical stages of life

A child will get jealous as 10 year old if parent gives more time to 14 year old elder sibling and here anupama is running after 28-30 year old kids instead of 6 year old kid

And instead of taking care of her suhaag anuj because of whom shes enjoying super rich luxurious life as business woman owner and getting respect in society shes running to ex hubby home always

Does not vanraj hav a wife kavya? Whys anupama always in his house and with him every where?

Little anu is behaving more weird instead of getting possessive of mother as 6 year old he wants to go meet mummys ex hubby and hug him every other day at Shah house

Which normal 6 year old do that?

In real life poor anuj kapadia kind of hubby would get stroke or heart attack in anger that his wife prioritizng ex hubby and his family over him and his child or would divorce such a wife

No man will tolearte all this by wife

Imagine anuj kapadia was married before marrying anupama and goes everyday to ex wife house and laughs cooks and sings with her and her parents etc will anupama tolerate it?

She would immediately say aapne mujhe dhoka diya no

Problem with anupama is she has no gratitude that anuj kapadia gave her better life great life at 45 years or she would be targeted by societyand her ex hubby ex in laws and even kids all life

Anupama has no respect forkanhaji too and not thankful to god for giving her anuj GK little anu which issad

Word. Anuj need to set boundary and communicate realistic expectations to her.

Yes in a way its unhealthy relationship (not toxic) as both are givers who doesnt know how to communicate or set boundaries. He always told her to set boundaries but never had he said same in their relationship. He constantly gives and she constantly gives time Dhakan Family. Both in a way are abusing their relationship

Didn't she say 'don't be so mahan to him' in the past I think twice or more times. I want old Anu, Anuj plzzzzz give them to me and do WW I give a damn.

Anupama s hamartia is her inability to set boundaries for herself. She is deeply invested in Kinjal and treats her the same way as her other children. The reasons Paitosh is spewing justifying his infidelity is enough to give anyone a heartbreak. A post partum depression can set in and will require great compassion and inner strength to heal. None in Shah house or Rakhee Dave have the compassion to empathise and heal Kinjal. Things will get complicated when the news becomes public. Anupama will find it very tough balancing between her responsibilities and keeping a watch on the deadly trio living in Kapadia house. There will be more Tamasha in Tamasha House.

Anupama never showed such care for her real mother and brother. Never gave them a comfortable life even when she can afford it. Why didn't she get her brother married? she is so concerned her shah maayka that inspite of being a family of 8 people they can't manage anything but her real maayka has only 2 members but she doesn't think they need her.

Honestly who said its her responsibility to be everywhere as she keeps reciting(though we all knows she is always at one place only). Rakhi might be rude but she cares for her daughter and grand daughter deeply. Also if anupama keeps going gaga over traditions - DIL goes to her maayka after delivery in most parts of india, specially on her first child. But anupama will not let rakhi get the limelight.

Anupamaa is not a machine that she can take care of new mother Kinjal and ill Anuj and adopted Anu at the same time. Thats 3 major responsibilites at the same time. Along with dealing with Barkha & Ankush, Pakhi - Adhik, Paritosh EMA. Plus, looking after her dance classes, Kapadia business. In real life, a woman would have to choose between these. This serial propagates the regressive idea that a woman is some sort of super human who can look after a new born baby and message her husband to have medicines at the right time. Who can look after her ex's family, her real maayka and sasural along with her profession. Women, MAAs are human too. They deserve relaxation and me time too. Not running pillar to post to fulfill one responsibility after another. By making Anupamaa mahaan, she gets saved from making a choice or building priorities which is unrealistic and unrelatable.