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I just saw the new promo and had to make this post...
Ishwari is telling herself to give her son Sona as a toy...
But for once I am not blaming her. Why? Let me explain.
In my house, we have a rule. There's nothing we buy (we as in my husband and I) that the other doesn't approve because the house belongs to both. So from decors to furniture everything is bought when both of us agree. Hence, if any of us go to store on our own and find something we like either we call the other with the picture or only buy it if it's returnable and we can get our money back.
The reason I shared this little example because Dev and Ishwari also partially follow this rule. Whatever he buys is subject to approval from Ishwari. And Ishwari needs Dev's constant admiration.
Now he picked Sona, a pretty little toy. He first did not get Ishwari's approval because he really really wanted to keep this just like my husband clutches onto his x-box games and doesn't want to take it back even though he hasn't played the previous three games he bought yet because he was busy or I clutch onto another pair of shoes even though it's impractical and probably will be sitting in my closet forever.
But his mother found out and showed Dev who is truly the boss. She did her manipulating and Sona got the axe. Dev did what any person does with a lifeless piece of toy that a family member does not approve, he got rid of it.
After he got rid of the toy, another kid decided he wanted the toy. But how can Dev watch his toy with another kid? So he created enough scenarios to get that toy back from throwing tantrums to screaming to crying until the other kid had to leave the toy behind. The toy liked Dev better anyway.
But because of all the drama, demand for the toy went down and the toy manufacturer faced loss because they lost their reputation in the market.
Here Ishwari realized that the string of her toy, her puppet Dev is coming loose because he is constantly stretching himself trying to reach for the toy. So she told him that he can get his toy back.
So off Dev went with his mother's approval slip to pick up the toy he discarded so carelessly.
But the toy turned out to be human being who refused to go to the same home as the puppet and the puppet master.
The reason I am not blaming Ishwari is because it's not her fault to think of Sona as a toy. Dev made her think that without her nod of approval, he won't ever accept Sona. He said that she wanted to know who Dev loves more, Ishwari or Sona. Now she knows that he loves Ishwari more. I was wondering had Ishwari asked who Dev loves more, his sisters or his mother, could he answer as confidently? Would the choice be as easy to make? Would he ask his sisters, they have no right on their brother because mother comes first?
Can you as a woman answer who do you love most? Your parents or your life partner? Would you discard your life partner for your parents? Why is it so difficult for you to answer when men answer this question so easily?
This is how we raise men and women. We raise women to always find excuses for being the bottom of the priority list of their men and we raise men to always put their women as an afterthought. Because we are woman. So we should understand men. They have so much responsibilities that the poor things are torn apart. After all, doesn't love means understanding?
Well yes. When you love someone, you try to be understanding. But is the man you love is being understanding to you? Is he thinking of you and your feelings as the same priority or concern?
P.S. dumping you at first sign of trouble isn't being understanding. Just thought I'd clear that.
Dev claimed he could not keep his new promises because of his old promises. But we never make any promises to our parents beyond to be a good human being. We don't promise to live our life according to their wish and we don't make promises to love, honour or cherish them and be with them forever because parents never stay in their children's life forever.
But we do make promises to our life partner. We promise to stand by them through thick and thin, through richer and poorer, in sickness and in health until death do us apart. But it seems men's promises in India comes with conditions apply.
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