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Posted: 9 years ago
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It's good to know a man's point of view. Thanks for sharing. Your mother gave you excellent advice. Without respect a relationship can't last.

But my thoughts on Dev's break up is slightly different. Maybe because I am a woman. If Dev had shared his concern and pain with Sona and asked her help to deal with Ishwari's insecurities (because trying to commit suicide just because you don't like your son's girlfriend is not normal), don't you think it would be a better solution?

When Dev decided to make Sona his life partner, then does not she have equal say on a decision that involves her?

Why is discarding one's love at the first sign of family's disapproval is even a consideration? Discarding one's family because of one's love is not that easy a solution.

A woman leaves her entire life and family behind for a man and makes him her first consideration. Should not men do the same? Isn't that equality?


Originally posted by: Jade0001

Interesting post ,


Firstly Dev ending his relationship with Sona was a wrong move but I certainly don't blame him maybe even I would have done the same as Dev facing that type of situation but the fact is he took Sonakshi for granted without a second thought he let her go taking the easy way out .
My mum just few days back had again told me and my two brothers before falling in love with any girl first learn to truly respect her once you can respect her it will be easy to respect her family then fall in love if hurdles comes your way you would be able to withstand it together .

Dev is complex but his mother too had never really thought him strength of relations and that is the reason he can throw Sona out of his and when his mother says bring her back he does so .
He has to learn now and realize a lot
Ishwari thinking of Sona as some toy even me as a guy was totally disgusted with her thought

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Posted: 9 years ago
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You are right. He is scared. Unfortunately Dev is still dependant on his mother's approval which makes him unsuitable for marriage.

Let's take a business example.

Let's say we want to do a merger with a company. Would we do the contract with an employee of the company who has no authority to make any decisions or directly to the owner who can make all the decisions on his own without anyone's interference?

Would we sign a contract with someone knowing that he can back out anytime if his boss refused to honour the terms of the contract and thus make it null and void? Would we invest our entire money on the basis of such contract and risk bankruptcy anytime regardless how much we love the product they are selling?

Would we even get into such contract for iPhone 7, the most talked after and covered phone right now?

That was the point I was trying to make. Nothing is worth investing your life with someone who is dependent on someone else and hence unreliable.

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Great post once again tia..I Am really so glad that dev doesnt remember what he said to ishwari when he was drunk.. If he did, he wiuld have ruined everything bu running to mommy in the morning and falling at her feet and asking for forgiveness.. And ishwari would have tied the blindfold once again and ignore all he said..

Dev should know that he should not ask for forgiveness for wanting something ir loving someone or speaking his mind. For dev i feel he is scared of ishwaris judgement more than loving her as mother

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: tia.o

It's good to know a man's point of view. Thanks for sharing. Your mother gave you excellent advice. Without respect a relationship can't last.

But my thoughts on Dev's break up is slightly different. Maybe because I am a woman. If Dev had shared his concern and pain with Sona and asked her help to deal with Ishwari's insecurities (because trying to commit suicide just because you don't like your son's girlfriend is not normal), don't you think it would be a better solution?

When Dev decided to make Sona his life partner, then does not she have equal say on a decision that involves her?

Why is discarding one's love at the first sign of family's disapproval is even a consideration? Discarding one's family because of one's love is not that easy a solution.

A woman leaves her entire life and family behind for a man and makes him her first consideration. Should not men do the same? Isn't that equality?



I totally agree with you had Dev respected his girl enough he would have spoken to her , not make his decision now again he does not speak to her he just talks telling about his mother's approval, Sonakshi stands nowhere everything revolves around Ishwari and that's one reason I want Sona to really make Dev realize his faults otherwise she'll truly become his toy .
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Exactly. It's about time he became an adult and if he continues to be a child for his mother, well, child marriage is illegal in India.

Originally posted by: rose4ever

You are absolutely right. I was disgusted to see the promo, felt sick that a woman could reduce the value of another woman to a toy which she thinks she can get for her son.But then her son never made the woman in question seem more than a toy in front of his mother, did he?Dev proved to his mother that he ddin't and never will love anybody more than her.

. But can we ever really compare and answer who we love more or respect more when it comes to the most important relationships in our life? Can we ever say that we love our mother more than our father or vice versa, or we love our siblings more ,or even best friends. Every relationship has a place in our heart, has its own importance,is an inseparable part of our life.

But Dev puts aside one relationship because the other one was not happy about it.. He let his mother question Sonakshi's love, her professionalism, her character and values and stood silent. He never even tried to fight for his love. he made his mother think that she was not important enough to even have a conversation about. Mother doesn't like her, she will have to go.Now she does, she can come back. In future if she again disapproves her, says anything against her, he will again throw her out of his life like a used toy with no value? Saying that men don't understand and its their nature is not the solution. So does that mean that since Dev can't understand emotions of other people well, even in future he will never even try to understand or balance?All the adjustments must be done by Sonakshi?Why should sonakshi marry a man who will never stand by her side, will wait for his mother;s permission?

So as much as Ishwari is a character who has done many wrongs. Dev has been the one encouraging her by not speaking up.Ishwari needs to change but so does Dev.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Good luck for your surgery Tia.Wish you a speedy recovery. Will be waiting for your wonderful insights.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Thanks. Leaving in a couple of hours.

Originally posted by: rose4ever

Good luck for your surgery Tia.Wish you a speedy recovery. Will be waiting for your wonderful insights.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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standing ovation and a round of applause too. I👏

bang on post. I second it..

I just waiting for this episode that Sona cant conceive. I will stop watch watching the show.

They should show that Men are impotent.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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I'd love to see Dev being impotent, but that's something an Indian TV show will never portray.

Originally posted by: telly_buff

standing ovation and a round of applause too. I👏

bang on post. I second it..

I just waiting for this episode that Sona cant conceive. I will stop watch watching the show.

They should show that Men are impotent.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: tia.o

I'd love to see Dev being impotent, but that's something an Indian TV show will never portray.



let krpkab be the first serial where they can portray that Men cannot bear children. i would like to see ishwari reaction then. or maybe that is the reason she didnt want Dev to get married.


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