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Hey all,
If you opened the post after reading the title, I do thank you 😳
At this point, yes Aditya is wrong, he is bad, he is border-line evil. He is acting like a full-fledged villain, with all the smartness and the evil tactics of an adult. I agree with all that, and I shudder when I think of such a child in real life. BUT, Aditya Bhalla is a 'problem' that has been 12 years in the making. Everyone (on the show) is expecting that problem to be fixed overnight. The child is purely a product of the influence around him, and by influence I mean the various enablers he's had for his current personality & actions.
1) Shagun: Her prime motivation in life has been her own self. I would like to think she has some maternal instinct in her and maybe 0.1% of her heart actually has a place for Aditya if not Ruhi. However, in her quest for the material pleasures of life, she's been enabling Aditya. She's used him as an 'excuse' to leave Raman, she's poisoned Aditya to the extent that the child actually said/believed he was abused by his father. Right from his infancy, Aditya has been told by his mother that he can get what he wants. AND what he wants is always right. The worst part of it all is that she has put on a perfect mask of maternal love. Which makes Aditya think that anything he does is justified, as long as it makes his mother happy.
2) Ashok: He initially accepted Aditya, because he came as a bundle-offer with Shagun. He's financially supported Aditya and has fulfilled every wish of the child. At some point, Adi became another weapon in his artillery. He had found something that could hurt Raman more than taking away Shagun did. He's enabled Aditya's misdirected sense of right and wrong.
3) Raman: I know everyone says he's blinded by his love for his son. I slightly disagree. Raman is blinded when it comes to Adi, yes. But I dont think it is just love. Raman is more driven by the lack of love from Aditya's end. And in this quest to 'gain' Aditya's love, Raman is enabling him too. He fails to see that his child could have any sinister side. Even during the accident track, it took Aditya's proclamation (that his father would always save him) for Raman to see what his son had become. That should have made Raman smarter and alerted to him that when Aditya is around, things may not always be as they seem. This lack of realisation from Raman actually strengthens Aditya's actions. He doesnt see a disciplinarian in his father.
4) Ishita: She is one of the reasons I got the title that I did. Ishita's frame-of-reference of a child are kids like Ruhi and Shravan. She's also now in love with Raman. All that makes her think she can handle Aditya and she can fix him overnight. She tried to "solve" Aditya by using quick-fix measures thinking being nice and good always works. It took Aditya's story-telling to shake her belief. But she hasnt acted on that knowledge yet. She's neither reprimanded Adi nor discussed this with anyone else. Aditya's confidence is only increased by this. He sees Ishita as a weak opponent. Ishita hasnt been around long enough to enable his personality, but I think she sure is enabling his actions today.
PS: Toshiji: I didnt mention her as an enabler because we dont see her interacting with Adi directly too much (her Chiraag-jaap is reserved for our ears, not Adi's)
My post is not intended to gain any support for Aditya (a bit of empathy maybe). But I think every adult around him has failed him. We can debate endlessly about the degree of culpability of the 4 main enablers, but that doesnt change the fact that they are all responsible for Aditya as he is today. And if Raman and Ishita don't do something soon, they may end up being worse for Aditya than Shagun and Ashok. If Raman and Ishita intend to be Aditya's parents or guardians for life, then they need to find a real counsellor soon.
I found this quote symbolic of something in the show right now...
"All of us have moments in out lives that test our courage. Taking children into a house with a white carpet is one of them. "
- Erma Bombeck
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PS: I am very cautious (and a bit sensitive) when it comes to children. So I request you to be kind when criticising the character of Aditya and not use hurtful words. And please, no comments on the actor playing the role.
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