Idiocy and Insensitivity to the max

There are a few things I want to put out:

1. Mona cooking Gujju food: Before ordering Mona to cook Gujju food, why didn't the Gandhis ask Mona if she knew how to cook Gujju food? I mean they know she's a Punju so she might not have ever heard of theplas (I only know of from Saas Bhi kabhi Bahu thi!). And why didn't one of teh Gujju ladies stay in the kitchen just to give some company, and assist Mona a bit? I mean in even at our place & community (I'm Bihari btw), when a new bride cooks for the first time, she has someone giving her company in the kitchen. The aim of this is to help integrate the new family member, not to ostracize & isolate her. That kind of behavior will just make the bride hate her in-laws and she will never mingle with them.


2. These days it is quite common to have girls who don't know how to cook, let alone coming from a diff community. I agree with a lot of forum members who say that one should know the basics to avoid being taunted at. One of the brides that came in my family is an Oriya by ethnicity. When asked to do her first rasoi, she asks her MIL to order GITS mix for Gulab Jamun. Everyone was shocked that she didn't know even know how to cook a simple sweet dish like halwa on her own. And there were a lot snickering remarks about! So peeps try to avoid to it. As for me, I have learnt how to make ha;wa and kheer to avoid that kind of embarrassing situation after my wedding (which is next month btw!)

they left her alone to "test her" more like embarress her! remember nobody likes her!

I live in Trinidad and I want to know, Do the other family members really pass comments like they do in Indian serials when a family member does something a little different or are they more modern? I'd really like to know. I think it's cool that you learnt to prepare the kheer and halwa before the wedding. Congrats and all the best for the big day!

Originally posted by: Shas3

I live in Trinidad and I want to know, Do the other family members really pass comments like they do in Indian serials when a family member does something a little different or are they more modern? I'd really like to know. I think it's cool that you learnt to prepare the kheer and halwa before the wedding. Congrats and all the best for the big day!

Firstly Congrats for your wedding... but the comment issue you know I seriously haven't come across anybody making remarks about it. My cousin's wife came from Sikh household and we're hindu, but you know my aunts(her mother-in-laws) helped her out learn our family rituals, and my bhabhi was willing to learn...today I say she is the best bhabhi in the world.

In many Sikh families the bahu is not supposed to enter the kitchen the first year. They want the young couple to enjoy their togetherness. Cooking is not given any great importance. I didn't know how to cook when I got married and it was not a big deal..I learned along the way. Many of many friends don't know , how to cook very well"

What is Sajaal doing in her Maikaa..Why is she interfering abusing her brothers daughter-in-law.