Why does Laali always keep Shekhar out of the loop

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Why does Laali always keep Shekhar out of the loop?

In the current episode we see that Laali is depressed about her showing in the election campaign. Loha belittled her in front of the villagers about her ability as a mother. She starts questioning her own self on the matter too. If she can't look after her own son, how can she look after the villagers and their concerns, she says.

Then we see a very upset Shekhar. He is rightfully upset. Obviously, he didn't know that his wife had gone dancing. And nor had Laali bothered to tell him even after she had returned from her dancing trip.

That is the least she could have done after she had returned. Granted she didn't want to tell him when she left to earn her money in this style.

But as a wife who is supposed to love her husband, why does she continuously keep him out of the loop? Poor Shekhar, he has to know about his wife's dancing jaunt in front of the entire village.

He didn't even have the chance to keep the shock out of his face.

Well, for now he has gone somewhere to do something. We don't know where is gone for the moment.

When Jamuni awoke Laali to tell her about the letter someone had given her, Laali didn't bother looking around for her husband. That he was gone was obvious. But she didn't even show any unease about his whereabouts. Maybe she thought he had gone to the loo!


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telenovelle thumbnail
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I felt the opposite and was mad at Shekhar for getting so mad at Laali.

She did not want to tell him because she knew he would be upset as he was. That is what he did.
She was only being a good mother and trying to fight for her son. I do not think Shekhar should be mad about that. He should be happy that she tried so hard to get the money.
At least she did something. Even though she did not tell him right away, I think it would have been a good idea to tell him at some point. But no big deal had to be made about it.
That I agree with. She should have told him later instead of having him find out from other people.
Yes he had a right to be mad, but not extremely mad. He should be happy that Laali tried to find some way to get the money. Sigh their life is so complicated because of stupid Loha...😑😑
Sometimes hubbies do not have to know everything right away. I am not saying that the wife should not say anything. That is wrong. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰
Maybe she did not tell Shekhar because of his delicate mind. She did not want him his mind to shrivel up...πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Shekhar baby has been out of the loop so much and for so long these days. It is nothing new.

He is no longer a strong feature of the show. He is just there for nothing. Laali and Shekhar have not been a true couple for a long time. They seem more like friends or brother and sister. There is no intimacy between them like there used to be. Remember the hot romance scenes? We do not seen any of that stuff, the CVs had done such a disservice to Shekhar. 😑😑😑😑They won't even listen to my idea of the brain transplant...😭😭😭😭😭😭....
Sigh Laali is married to a doorknob these days not a husband.πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜‘
WHY OH WHY has the Shake been kept in this mental state for so long? Can you tell me???πŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Sometimes hubbies do not have to know everything right away. I am not saying that the wife should not say anything. That is wrong. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰
Maybe she did not tell Shekhar because of his delicate mind. She did not want him his mind to shrivel up...πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

I agree that husbands do not need to know everything. I have been watching this show for a long time and the thought that crossed my mind even back then was that Laali kept too many important things from Shekhar... and that is where all the misunderstandings arose. When the water rose above the head, then everything was dumped on the hubby, who had no idea how all this came about.

We always see things from Laali's point of view, how self-sacrificing she is, and she is doing all this to help everyone.

Laali then comes out looking like a saint, and the husband comes out looking like the devil.

In this case, I think Shekhar was justified in being upset. He had told Laali that they both would figure out a way to earn money together. Instead Laali took off with Gangiya. I understand that (it was a quick and easy way to earn a lot of money). She danced in front of leery, drunkard people. I understand that as well. But she should have come back and told him what she had done. Not heard it from Loha, in front of an entire village, many days later.

Remember, Shekhar always did not have a "delicate" mind. However, she has been doing this all the time, it is not the first time. Every time she comes out looking like a saint. Even now.

I think Shekhar was more upset about her not telling him, than of her dancing.


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Posted: 15 years ago
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I have noticed from the various indian serials that wives tend to keep A LOT from their husbands.. A LOT... its like they want to be one superwoman who can handle everything without consultation with her life partner.
Although i accept that you keep certain things from your husband but in the serials they keep way more things from their husband than justified. You notice neither the wife nor the husband sits and discuss things with their spouse - i note discussions happen between spouses when they are not the "hero and heroine" of the show. I guess being a hero or heroine, you are expected to handle all things youself?!! yah?!!
Anyway, the serials do portray indian wives as being very secretive and does lots of things without the husband's knowledge...not a very nice portrayal though... it would appear that indian husbands are not tolerant of their wife's being independent; it would also appear that husbands and wives do no discuss things over. If they want to stop their spouse from doing something instead of talking it out, they give ultimatums without giving explanations... that's the impression i get from serials.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: Neela10

Sometimes hubbies do not have to know everything right away. I am not saying that the wife should not say anything. That is wrong. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰
Maybe she did not tell Shekhar because of his delicate mind. She did not want him his mind to shrivel up...πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

I agree that husbands do not need to know everything. I have been watching this show for a long time and the thought that crossed my mind even back then was that Laali kept too many important things from Shekhar... and that is where all the misunderstandings arose. When the water rose above the head, then everything was dumped on the hubby, who had no idea how all this came about.

We always see things from Laali's point of view, how self-sacrificing she is, and she is doing all this to help everyone.

Laali then comes out looking like a saint, and the husband comes out looking like the devil.

In this case, I think Shekhar was justified in being upset. He had told Laali that they both would figure out a way to earn money together. Instead Laali took off with Gangiya. I understand that (it was a quick and easy way to earn a lot of money). She danced in front of leery, drunkard people. I understand that as well. But she should have come back and told him what she had done. Not heard it from Loha, in front of an entire village, many days later.

Remember, Shekhar always did not have a "delicate" mind. However, she has been doing this all the time, it is not the first time. Every time she comes out looking like a saint. Even now.

I think Shekhar was more upset about her not telling him, than of her dancing.


I think this behavior has become so normal for Laali that she does not even realize that she does it. She goes on automatic pilot and just does the "saintly" thing..a bit too much for me. She comes off as too sweet and no one is that sweet and forgiving. That is one of my pet peeves about her.
You are right that Shekhar was not always delicate but hot and hard headed. He also kept
things from her, so both are to blame in this case.
Well if Shekhar was more upset about her not telling him about the dance...the way she can make it up to him is by dancing in front of him.πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜† Did you ever think that he might be jealous that she did not dance in front of him? πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: zeezee55

I have noticed from the various indian serials that wives tend to keep A LOT from their husbands.. A LOT... its like they want to be one superwoman who can handle everything without consultation with her life partner.

Although i accept that you keep certain things from your husband but in the serials they keep way more things from their husband than justified. You notice neither the wife nor the husband sits and discuss things with their spouse - i note discussions happen between spouses when they are not the "hero and heroine" of the show. I guess being a hero or heroine, you are expected to handle all things youself?!! yah?!!
Anyway, the serials do portray indian wives as being very secretive and does lots of things without the husband's knowledge...not a very nice portrayal though... it would appear that indian husbands are not tolerant of their wife's being independent; it would also appear that husbands and wives do no discuss things over. If they want to stop their spouse from doing something instead of talking it out, they give ultimatums without giving explanations... that's the impression i get from serials.

I think they keep things from the husband because:
1. the husbands will not let them do certain things.
2. bad communication between the couple.
3. the women are not allowed to say certain things and are seen as homemakers only.
4. the men control eveything and this might be away for them to have control.
5 husbands do not need to know all.....
the communication between most of the couple sucks I think. They are not always truthful, but then this is TV. Some are pathologic liars like Gangiya.πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I have noticed from the various indian serials that wives tend to keep A LOT from their husbands.. A LOT... its like they want to be one superwoman who can handle everything without consultation with her life partner.
Although i accept that you keep certain things from your husband but in the serials they keep way more things from their husband than justified. You notice neither the wife nor the husband sits and discuss things with their spouse - i note discussions happen between spouses when they are not the "hero and heroine" of the show. I guess being a hero or heroine, you are expected to handle all things youself?!! yah?!!
Anyway, the serials do portray indian wives as being very secretive and does lots of things without the husband's knowledge...not a very nice portrayal though... it would appear that indian husbands are not tolerant of their wife's being independent; it would also appear that husbands and wives do no discuss things over. If they want to stop their spouse from doing something instead of talking it out, they give ultimatums without giving explanations... that's the impression i get from serials.

Very good observation zeezee55! πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘ I agree with you on almost everything you said. Yes, once and twice I can understand the need to keep things from the spouse, but every time gets seriously annoying.

About spouses discussing things ... I raised that up also in an earlier post where I also observed that spouses, and even family members are never seen to discuss anything. I think it is the way the CVs write their storylines .... I suppose this is their idea of creating an aura of mystery and suspense - the less communication between the people the better. So even when you are lying in bed beside your partner, you still don't tell them anything!!!

On American serials, the characters are seen to be discussing the pros and cons of any given situation and sometimes in great detail. This could be with co-workers, spouses, friends, family members, etc. That is why such serials seem to be more fullfilling. (No empty spaces where the characters stand around, rooted to the ground, with various kinds of expressions on their faces - these kinds of facial expressions you only see in comic books!)

Edited by Neela10 - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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He is no longer a strong feature of the show. He is just there for nothing. Laali and Shekhar have not been a true couple for a long time. They seem more like friends or brother and sister. There is no intimacy between them like there used to be. Remember the hot romance scenes? We do not seen any of that stuff, the CVs had done such a disservice to Shekhar. 😑They won't even listen to my idea of the brain transplant...😭....
Sigh Laali is married to a doorknob these days not a husband.
WHY OH WHY has the Shake been kept in this mental state for so long? Can you tell me???


I agree that the romance of Shekhar and Laali has gone cold. So cold, that they are no longer communicating very much with each other on many levels. They don't even cuddle up to each other in bed .... see the way they were sleeping in bed -- as far away from each other as possible. πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

As for Shekhar's character, I would take the eraser and rub him out of the serial. 😑😑 He has fulfilled his purpose as her husband. They don't need each other anymore.

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: Neela10

We always see things from Laali's point of view, how self-sacrificing she is, and she is doing all this to help everyone.

We see It in way Bcuz We shown It in way Neela From Cvs And Writers...Laali is Main Lead of show..Its her Lifes story so Focus Will be always on her..And Regarding this Topic..As such I see From both of them Point Views πŸ˜›(Actully I see only both of them in ShowπŸ˜†πŸ˜‰)..and I dont find anyone to Blame as such ...Since at the end both wanna take all trouble on one self to make relief for other...But Its so unfortunate that all time Circumstances are Wrong with them...I blam their fate..They both does all to make each other happy..But always something wents Wrongs and Spoils Every moments..circumstances they got put in are Worst..and it spoils all....
this time Laali hide the truth bcuz if she told May shekhar would not let her go..When she came back..Again May she could tell..But got stuck in Sumi's death Fiasco and than this Election Drama..and at the End her attempt was fail and Money made wasted by Loha She may wanted to Keep unaware Shekhar..Bcus that's Good only ...Now no meanting to discuss on..Shekhar would get more angry on Loha on What he did and It goes on...
and Main Point is AJ goes in so Speed and so much High tension drama..there is no pause ,no relief ,No life for Shali to have Happy ,Loving and Peaceful Moments..Where they can talk their heart ...And I Blame cV's for it...

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