Sanskaar commands respect! - Page 4

Originally posted by: Kamala05

Kavya , I respect your opinion but I am afraid I can't agree with it.

We need to understand that Sanskaar madly loves Swara now BUT he's engaged to an another woman.

The only thing which makes me believe that Sanskaar loved Swara and perhaps still loves her is because of beautifully executed scenes from Sanskaars love confession till the Malkins track , during and post Malkins track the scenes were loosely executed and if we judged Sanskaar love for Swara based on his recent action I would have confused and questioned that whether he ever loved Swara . The execution is flawed.

Him hugging her, giving flowers to her, trying to make her happy while being miserable himself truly commands respect in my eyes.
I don't have any problem in Sanskaar giving flower to her or with the Holi prank , he can do whatever he want , he can genuinely take efforts to make his wife to be happy as he is committed to her , Kash in between they have showed a glimpse of sadness or yearnings for Swara.
We as SwaSan fans would be really delighted if Sanskaar blasted Kavita off for her childishness, rebuffed her & made her cry, I won't lie I would've been on cloud 9 if that happened but then think it from a real life scenario. Would you really appreciate a guy being unnecessarily rude, condensing & annoyed at his fiancee? Would we really applaud him? Won't we term him a jerk of the highest order who's so inconsiderate to someone he's about to marry? Will it be fair to Kavita that her fiancee is being aloof & annoyed at her for no fault of hers?
Infact I am already annoyed with his notion of sacrificing his love and he believing that he will make Kavitha happy by the sacrifice. Didn't he know that love cannot be forced?


This is the reason I did not want the engagement to happen & was terribly angry at Sanskaar for agreeing to it cos an engagement with Kavita would only justify those Kav----Kar horror that we endure while making SwaSan scenes look a bit immoral. Swara is Sanskaar's ex-wife now & he's committed officially to Kavita now which means it would surely be pleasing but definitely leave a bitter aftertaste in our mouths after Sanskaar tries going close to Swara, hugging her, pinning her on a road side stall, going close to her etc even unintentionally. Thank god they aren't dragging it further & the horror ends tonight.
In my mind he is still Swara's husband , that might be the reason that I hate his recent actions. We know the circumstances which led to divorce ,we know that Swara is duped . And the possessive Swasan fan in me cannot bear the fact that he preferred Kavitha .
On the other hand, we have Lakshya who goes ahead & sleeps with a woman to get his property back (if they consummated which I think they did) kind of cheating her & faking love. IDK what to say cos at one hand I want Ragini to be punished in the worst possible manner & at the same time, the approach for revenge is just so goddamn wrong. Well then I also think that what if Ragini managed to get her HAQ & consummate her marriage with Lakshya while he was unaware of the truth before her revelation?
Laksh and Ragini's matter is something else . The foundation of their relationship is a lie. Cheater wife , cheater husband . Ragini deserved punishment , but if he gave her HAQ by faking love then it is wrong. It makes him vicious than Ragini .

Originally posted by: Vaibhi.

Hats off Kamala...👏 so sensible post... I really respect you for your unbiased and logical thinking...

CVs did not give any justifications of Sanskar's actions during divorce drama, and so I stopped wasting my time in searching justifications for kav---kar track...

But people like you make a forum beautiful... Your words are strong , logical and so to the point...👏

Originally posted by: Nikkk

Yes Sanskaar commands respect for unnecessarily sacrificing his love.
Yes Sanskaar commands respect for getting engaged to one girl n at the same time thinking about other girl.
👏 👏 👏

I don't know why I'm not able to respect Sanskaar 😆
And I'll not like it if Sanskaar behaves rudely with Kavita seriously I'll not like it.
Kavita is behaving childish bcos she feels Sanskaar loves her n he himself said he is the same old Sanskaar n I'm sure she will not behave this way with anybody else.

Coming to Sanskaar, Sanskaar is doing wrong by getting engaged to kavita n thinking about Swara all the time. I understand he is not able to suppress those feelings for Swara n at the same time he wants to help Kavita.
But he can help her as a friend right.
And what is he going to do after getting married to kavita ?? Will they stay as friends forever ??? or is he going to see Swara in Kavita everytime they do IT?? or he thinks he will be able to love kavita back ??? if he thinks he will be able to love Kavita back then fine.
I don't understand why Sanskaar can't help Kavita as a friend

And this is just my opinion I don't know if I'm right or wrong.
And secondly sorry for hurting u guys
And thirdly I don't want to fight with anyone bcos of these fictional characters.

Originally posted by: Nikkk

Yes Sanskaar commands respect for unnecessarily sacrificing his love.
Yes Sanskaar commands respect for getting engaged to one girl n at the same time thinking about other girl.
👏 👏 👏

I don't know why I'm not able to respect Sanskaar 😆
And I'll not like it if Sanskaar behaves rudely with Kavita seriously I'll not like it.
Kavita is behaving childish bcos she feels Sanskaar loves her n he himself said he is the same old Sanskaar n I'm sure she will not behave this way with anybody else.

Coming to Sanskaar, Sanskaar is doing wrong by getting engaged to kavita n thinking about Swara all the time. I understand he is not able to suppress those feelings for Swara n at the same time he wants to help Kavita.
But he can help her as a friend right.
And what is he going to do after getting married to kavita ?? Will they stay as friends forever ??? or is he going to see Swara in Kavita everytime they do IT?? or he thinks he will be able to love kavita back ??? if he thinks he will be able to love Kavita back then fine.
I don't understand why Sanskaar can't help Kavita as a friend

And this is just my opinion I don't know if I'm right or wrong.
And secondly sorry for hurting u guys
And thirdly I don't want to fight with anyone bcos of these fictional characters.

Originally posted by: Vaibhi.

Hats off Kamala...👏 so sensible post... I really respect you for your unbiased and logical thinking...

CVs did not give any justifications of Sanskar's actions during divorce drama, and so I stopped wasting my time in searching justifications for kav---kar track...

But people like you make a forum beautiful... Your words are strong , logical and so to the point...👏

Originally posted by: tootiefrootie11

Fab post sis!! I have much to say but Im at the start of a ridiculous work day with back to back meetings that are very serious so I'll reluctantly reserve for now and be back.

Unres:

Before I go to meetings otherwise would have been even more detailed! Basically I love this post, thank you for saying this Kavya. I agree with most of what you say and certainly agree with the parts about a man who decides to make a decision no matter at what personal cost to himself and then tries to really live it through deserves respect. I have always loved Sanskaar and not because of VKs undeniable good looks or his acting, both of which are fab, but because to me Sanskaar represents a different and refreshing brand of hero. Where I slightly disagree is our individual analysis of his reasoning behind accepting Kavita. BUT more importantly, that in no way diminishes for me the respect angle. I think Sanskaar is misguided and wrong in having gone the "Swara" way of sacrificing his personal wishes and having accepted Kavita. A lot disagree a lot will agree- it matters not- that is MY take on what I see as Sanskaar's character. I have said before that I think that to fit various tracks in the CVs there slightly compromised with what I expect Sanskaar to do. Which was to say "damn you all" and walk away but this is a show and we cannot have that so I totally get that. And if you see the sequence after Swara herself again refuses to accept them being together, he decides to make at least someone happy and goes for the option he does. I don't like that, heck I actually detest it, and I think he is totally mistaken and inadvertently doing wrong to himself and Kavita BUT do I understand it? Yes I do. This is a human character, something I have always loved about Sanskaar is his all to fallible nature. He can take steps that may seem harsh, sometimes even extreme. Here it was that he took a step that is long term clearly misguided but I can understand that as we are not always rational in love or pain. How it can be compared to what Ragini did is beyond me but I don't want to get into all that.

Then I come to the crux- whatever it is, right or wrong, Sanskaar is sticking to his decision or trying his best to and not being horrible to the girl he has compromised with. I respect him and even salute him for that. I hate men who use the "other" woman as a pawn and then are abusive to them and show their frustration in that way. It may make us as shippers happy but as a woman I think it disgusting and is not an indicator of manliness. Also the measure of a man for me is his commitment and if he can commit like this to someone he isn't in love with but loves (in a different way), I admire that.

I also want to specify that this isn't about Sanskaar vs Swara and it hurts me big time to see that recently this forum seems to have turned into a war zone over this issue whereas we are all SwaSan fans (I hope!). Everyone who knows me knows I'm a dyed blue SWASAN fan and through my writing and posts have always put forward both sides or tried to be fair. I relate with Sanskaar more, but have always also supported Swara if I thought her right but here it isn't about Swara at all. It's about whether Sanskaar deserves respect for the stand he's trying to take. As for his overwhelming love for Swara- of course he weakens with her, they're soul mates and being torn apart. That doesn't make him worthy of disgust.

We all have views and opinions, that's what makes this forum fun. Anna and Yukhti and I disagreed on the points I made about Sanskaar and Kavita (different point but this is just to illustrate) and we had a very interesting debate. I still don't agree 100% with them on some angles but I get where they are coming from totally and I (hope) they understand and respect my stand on this. I just cannot stand fighting on this issue. That is why along with mad work schedule and personal commitments I have stopped coming to the forum so much. I am sorry for saying this on this post and if you want I'll edit it but please can we all understand that we are in this show shipping together so let's try and see the other persons viewpoints and have reasoned debates, it's so much fun that way! Sorry to digress!

But overall lovely post and I really enjoyed sharing my view after so long, I hope it will be taken constructively.

Love to all xoxo

Originally posted by: Vaibhi.

Hats off Kamala...👏 so sensible post... I really respect you for your unbiased and logical thinking...

CVs did not give any justifications of Sanskar's actions during divorce drama, and so I stopped wasting my time in searching justifications for kav---kar track...

But people like you make a forum beautiful... Your words are strong , logical and so to the point...👏

Originally posted by: hasinig89

Believe me Vaibhi I was and I am still bit biased to Sanskaar , but the Sanskaar fan in me is not blind to find reason and justification in his each and every action.
Omggg Kamala...I should say dear u always write so maturely & sensibly stressing the main point with out going off topic.For me its always a pleasure to read ur comments ... I just say I agree with each & every point u had mentioned...

Respect is Earned not demanded ...
It is pertaining to the characters right ? There seems to be MU regarding this sentence .Sanskaar earned respect during fake marriage track till the malkin track But now IMO he is behaving like a Mahaan unfortunately I cannot respect this Sanskaar . By doing this he is spoiling his life, Swara's life and Kavitha's life. If Kavitha become a Ragini part 2 , Sanskaar will be the main reason .

This is my POV ...