Ruhaan's feelings - Page 8

Originally posted by: TandraB

The word is not 'soul', its 'personality'. When we spend time with someone, we get to know them as a person, their likes, dislikes, nature, qualities. You fall in love because their nature appeals to you and you like the way they connect to you.

You can't fake for long, if you grow close to someone then you will know what kind of person they really are.

And I think you're confusing infatuation with love. If you don't know someone but only fall for their beauty then how can that be love?

i am saying this again not everyone will fall for someone's personality. Someone's falls for someone's beauty, someone falls for someone's sense of humor. Someone's sense of justice, someone's maturity, someone's sensibility. There is always something that makes you attracted toward someone. they becomes someone special in your life. That one quality which you like about someone and you drawn to them, than after that you starts to understand them. You start to noticing that what kind of that person is it. There like, dislike, nature and quality. Sometime that drawn quality is not enough for falling in love sometime your feeling get deeper and deeper. You couldn't control your emotion anymore. Just because that drawn quality is beauty that doesn't make your love cheap and shallow 😃

Originally posted by: TandraB

Attraction can happen to someone who is ugly also. You can be physically attracted to someone because of their personality, charm and certain qualities. I had a professor who was below average in appearance but he had a striking personality and a magnetic charm, so I was attracted to him.

It's not necessary that attraction should happen only from physical beauty.

Bold: Exactly what I'm saying. So you agree that when Ruhaan saw Mishti it was only attraction. My question is, why he did not control that attraction and prevent it from growing into love after he knew she was Veer's fiancee?

Every attraction does not grow into love, does it? So Ruhaan could've easily controlled himself

Bold: Maine iska answer apne phale wale post me dediya hai 😆

Blue: because jab control karne ka time aaya tab tak he has already cross that attraction period 😆 He tried to control but couldn't so he let himself go with flow 😉 jab pata hai control nahi ho raha tho bina baat ke kud ko suffer kyu karana 😔

Originally posted by: TandraB

Bold: I never denied that attraction is necessary for love; obviously you have to be sexually attracted otherwise its just friendship.

But what I'm saying is, that its not necessary that attraction comes from only beauty. Sexual attraction+emotional attachment is love. That emotional attachment bit comes from knowing the human being.

And looks like we agree that only attraction itself isn't love. So cheers. :)

Bold: This is something I wanted to explain to you, I am not saying only beauty factor can lead to attraction what I am trying to say is beauty can also trigger to the attraction. Just because beauty is trigger point to the attraction that doesn't mean their love will be shallow.

Originally posted by: TandraB

Bold: I never denied that attraction is necessary for love; obviously you have to be sexually attracted otherwise its just friendship.

But what I'm saying is, that its not necessary that attraction comes from only beauty. Sexual attraction+emotional attachment is love. That emotional attachment bit comes from knowing the human being.

And looks like we agree that only attraction itself isn't love. So cheers. :)

Bold. U yourself are saying attraction comes from beauty as well, so what is the point of argument if here attraction was based on beauty?

Second thing u r saying sexual attraction + emotional attachment is love. Aren't MisHaan emotionally attached, if u care for the other person more than yourself that's not emotional involvement? If u feel each other's pain that's not emotional attachment? If u r ready to destroy urself for someone, that's not emotional attachment?

Originally posted by: TandraB

Kaise? You yourself said that one can start with attraction but you fall in love only after getting to know someone. Attraction is only the first stage.

Ruhaan got to know Mishti was veer's fiance immediately after he was attracted; he didn't know anything about her till he came to live in her house; so when and how did he cross the attraction stage?

Yes, when Ruhaan get to know about Mishti being Veer's would be wife. he was in attraction period only. He was upset, sad and little bit heart broken when he get to know about it but he accept it and tried to move on. he shift to mishti's house, spend time with family, getting to know more about her from Pari, ansh, dadi. He starts to understand her, her fear, insecurity behind the masks of rudeness. He respects her for fulling all her duty as grand Daughter , big sister. He starts to admire her rudeness too because he could see how strongly she is trying to hide her self, her weakness. These all this incidents trigger his heart again. He tried to control himself. He makes himself remember that it's not correct ruhaan, you can't feel like this. When he get that dream he get reality check, he wants to leave but when he saw mishti, he couldn't. he understand that now he couldn't control himself anymore. So he let himself go with flow. he knew that it won't be easy to see as someone's else bride but still he wants to be there for her, wants to make memory with her. Take away all her pain and give all the happiness. For me that love ❤️

Originally posted by: TandraB

I'm arguing that attraction itself is not love. Get the point.

Bold: They are emotionally attached NOW maybe. But Ruhaan was behaving like a crazy possessed person even when he was just attracted and nothing else. Nobody falls in love only by seeing someone's face. You can start love with attraction to beauty, I'm not denying that, but Ruhaan behaved funny when he knew nothing about Mishti. That itself makes this 'lowwe story' unpalatable.

When did he behave funny? Did I miss something 🤔

Originally posted by: TandraB

I'm arguing that attraction itself is not love. Get the point.

Bold: They are emotionally attached NOW maybe. But Ruhaan was behaving like a crazy possessed person even when he was just attracted and nothing else. Nobody falls in love only by seeing someone's face. You can start love with attraction to beauty, I'm not denying that, but Ruhaan behaved funny when he knew nothing about Mishti. That itself makes this 'lowwe story' unpalatable.

Okay, nobody here is saying only attraction means love. They are saying love can happen at first sight as well as they have seen some live examples, not due to attraction only but because they felt a connection at the first meeting itself.

So if CVs are implying Ruhaan felt in love at first sight what's so unpalatable about that? Love isn't always about conversing with the other person and getting to know him, u can have a soul connection as well.

Originally posted by: TandraB

Even in that attraction period, he was flirting with Mishti. That is improper. Again, when he thought of leaving, he got weak. Didn't try to control himself.

Love is something that grows with time, so we can control it and get over it if we try hard enough, That's how we get over heartbreaks, right? Ruhaan knew that his feelings can destroy his friend's life, but still he did not make the effort to go away. That makes him a bad friend in my eyes.

When was that? If you are taking about engagement, when he asks her about should he marry a girl like her if get one? For me it's look like he is disappointed that the girl who felt so special for him is already belongs to another. Mere ko woh disappointment lagi flirting nahi and next scene when he said relax! that's just a kiss, he was trying to clam her down.

Originally posted by: TandraB

Soul connection cannot happen without knowing someone. The idea is like fairy tales.

And my love just like fairy tales are imaginary this show is as well 👍🏼

Originally posted by: TandraB

Keeping the lipstick mark, banging on walls etc when he didn't even know Mishti that well. He looked almost psycho then.

Keeping the lipstick marks is attraction and another emotion is jealousy, which can happens in attraction too. people do behave like this when they saw their crush kissing her boyfriend. Ruhaan thought that he control his emotion but when he feel jealously he couldn't understand why he is feeling that emotion when he already control his attraction 😆