mistis imaginary pain... - Page 8

Originally posted by: FruitToasty

Please understand the context sweetie ..

@Bold 1 - It was an example as the scene came in my mind where Ruhaan hit her really hard. I am not saying that she will react like this, all I said was that if she starts reacting like that it will not make sense to us, because she didn't know about Rajdeep and Nandini's history.

Similarly they haven't shown when Mishti got to know the truth about Kunal, so we have to imagine everything and that's what the TM is saying about Mishti's pain being Imaginary.

@Bold 2 - Not really, a random guy came took her pictures opened her hair and she didn't react at all. Some other woman would have lodged a complaint to make sure her pictures are not being misused.

I am not saying what characters should do or not but there's no proper build up for Mishti. I need FB scenes to make Sense of Mishti's fear

Originally posted by: ProfMcGonagall

I'm sorry but no. I don't follow the show anymore, but I still like visiting this forum once in a while and just no.

Mishti and Pari both have real pains.

I saw the promo and Mishti spoke about commitment. Think about it from a child psychology point-of-view. Mishti grew up in her formative years without a father. She had Ishaan, but even as a 3 yo to 6 yo, she understood that Ishaan wasn't her real popsie. She probably went to playschool and then regular school and saw kids whose fathers and mothers lived together and were "married". She would have questioned Mauli on the same and learnt that Ishaan wasn't her real father. Then as she got older, she saw Mauli's pain and refusal to Ishaan. She learnt at an early age that Kunal had deserted her mother. She may or may not have known the full details at that time, but rest assured she found out later. But think about it at a formative age. At a formative age, your mother has problems and pains with getting married. She has major commitment issues. Then you learn why. Now, more than love, you're going to want commitment and stability in life. But you're also going to be in pain because you don't want to commit and get hurt when the other avoids commitment. In psychological terms, Mishti has fearful-avoidant attachment insecurity. In layman terms, Mishti wants a committed and loving relationship, but she's afraid she'll get hurt like Mauli did. That's why commitment is so important for her.

Pari also has a real pain. Hers is just more obvious. She grew up without a mother. She wanted Mauli as her mother and didn't get Mauli either. She knows what happened and realizes that love leads to pain and suffering for the lovers and their families. I mean think about it. She saw her father and mother suffer. Then after her mother's death, she saw Kunal and Mauli suffer. Then she learnt the truth and realized why everyone is suffering. Hence she's got commitment phobia.

I just don't feel you can call someone's pain imaginary. They both have pains. One's is just more obvious, while the other's you have to really dig deep.