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Sabhayata

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Posted: 6 years ago

So now that the show is ending I mean season 1,i wanted to make a post about another important character, Nandini. I think she would be one of the most disliked characters of the show along with Kunal ( may be even more because well she is a female character) I wanted to write my perspective

1) Nandini as character went through a lot of in life , lost her parents and went thorough traumatic marriage and abuse. I wish writers had done justice with this story line rather than rushing it or using it as a whitewashing tactic.I think initially a lot of us felt Nandini's pain but once writers' started using it as a whitewashing tactic it just lost its impact. Nonethelss that one is on the writers as a character I would say that she went through a lot and endured a lot .There is no doubt in that.

2) Which is why somewhere i understand why Nandini indulged in the EMA. Dont get me wrong it was absolutely wrong and selfish as Nandini was doing it to an innocent girl who had nothing but love for Nandini. But if I see both the people Kunal and Nandini, I can say I never understood why Kunal indulged in it.Kunal's reason seemed superficial but Nandini I can . Its again writers who tried to give it a divine or true love touch instead if they would have shown Nandini just as an abused and battered woman who just needed to be loved and caressed by a gentle and kind person I would have understood where she is coming from . Not about right or wrong but for Nadini I can still understand why she did and what she did. Was it selfish ? YES but I understand that selfishness. With Kunal I could never understand.

3)Her character never got a chance to redeem herself like Kunal did. But now at the end of everything when the family has forgiven Kunal for everything , there is still no forgiveness for Nandini at least in Dida and Radhika's eyes .Mauli has forgiven her. If you can forgive Kunal and accept their daughter then why not forgive Nandini also? Is it because she is woman hence her mistakes become more unforgiveable because we do forgive men easily? There is no indication of there being a problem in Nandini and Kunals' marriage .It seems like she was good wife and a good mother till the time she could be. Now that every one had forgiven every one and moving on I hope Nandini is forgiven as well and accepted as deceased member of the family rather than an elephant in the room who shouldn't be named. I didn't like how Kunal didn't defend his deceased wife today just because he wants to get back to Mauli. Kunal also loved her dearly and she is mother to Kunal's child.Kunal could never stand up for Mauli hope he does that for Nandini. Now that everyone is moving forward I hope Nandini does get her rightful place as the actual deceased daughter in law of Malhotra's and Pari's mom. She has not done anything worse than Kunal to deserve getting disowned by her husband and her daughter.

Infact I think Kunan would have gotten there much required respect had Kunal stuck by Nandini even now.He should have accepted what he did with Mauli was wrong and treated Mauli horribly but yet stood by Nandini saying she is and will remain his Manzil and true love. Kunal changing his tune just to get Mauli back doesn't only reflect badly on him but makes Kunan what we were saying all along just an attraction. I think even Nandini deserves better than this.

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Indira

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Posted: 6 years ago

So was Kunan just lust more especially on kunals side...did he not love nandu..most married men's lust is satisfied after bedding the woman...they don't give up their wives and families for years just for lust...they sneak around and hope not to be caught ...and when the wives threaten them with divorce then they dump the other woman...But Kunal didn't want Mauli at all after he met nandu..and he still craves for nandu ,.sarees and kheer etc. I think kunan hasn't been explained properly ..did kunals lust last so many years ...I think they had decided a long time ago that Mauhaan is the end game that's why they didn't bother explaining kunan post leap..beCause THE MALHOTRAS regard nandini as kunals mistake..Is Kunal such a shallow man that he wasn't capable for loving either woman deeply..They've reduced kunal to a very shallow man who basically can't be taken seriously by any woman as he's fickle no consistency to him..Also what I found hilarious today was when Dida told Mauli that she can promise her that Kunal won't make a mistake again..So is Dida in charge of kunals hormones now lol..that really was quite ridiculous 😆

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looseseal

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Posted: 6 years ago

I personally hated her be she is an awful person. No ifs and no buts. She has horrible life but clearly that made her into a selfish person. But i hatrd her just asuch as I hated kunal except for few episodes. The first two were onesfrom during and right after the revelation: kunal actually looked broken. He looked guilty, he looked sad and broken even. Nandini was still saying stupid dielogues ike: dont make choose between love and friendship...like what??? And then that awwful deewali(?) Episode where she runs to see if Kunal and Mouli were actually dancing together, the possessiveness was just as ugly as Kunal's would be in the future.

Other than these instances I hated her just as much as I hated Kunal. With passion, but equally for both.

And for me personally it doesbt matter whether their love was divine or not. I didnt judge then because I thought their wasnt pure enough. I hated them in their so called true love they didnt mind destroying someone else. So it doesnt matter whether Kunal loved her or not or Whether she loved him or not...the very idea that they think their affaire is pure and others are being mean by not accepting it shows how entitled and selfish they are. Thats what destroyed them as characters (at least for me)

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Indira

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: looseseal
I personally hated her be she is an awful person. No ifs and no buts. She has horrible life but clearly that made her into a selfish person. But i hatrd her just asuch as I hated kunal except for few episodes. The first two were onesfrom during and right after the revelation: kunal actually looked broken. He looked guilty, he looked sad and broken even. Nandini was still saying stupid dielogues ike: dont make choose between love and friendship...like what??? And then that awwful deewali(?) Episode where she runs to see if Kunal and Mouli were actually dancing together, the possessiveness was just as ugly as Kunal's would be in the future.
Other than these instances I hated her just as much as I hated Kunal. With passion, but equally for both.

nandini was not a nice character no doubt about it...she was selfish, immoral and ungrateful. She had a jerk of a husband ..saw that her friend who treated her like a sister and who had done so much for her had a good husband who treated her well...and she wanted him and as soon as he showed some interest she grabbed him with both hands. They did not write nandini well. Women who've been through a lot in their lives Become humble and caring ..they don't want others to go through what they went through ...so nAndus trauma doesn't make sense, she .should have become a better person after what she went through ..she knew what it was like to be ill treated by your Husband ..she wouldn't have wanted mauli to go through the same.,but at the end of the day ..both she and Kunal are despicable characters..😕

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Nushrat

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Posted: 6 years ago

Thank you so much for writing this article. 🤗

As you have mentioned, even I can't support her but also understand from where she was coming.

I have genuinely loved watching the first 38-39 episodes. It gave us a lot of information regarding Nandini & frankly, there were many layers to her character. A girl who had her own opinion but never could voice them out; first in her parents' house & then in her husband's house. A friend who amidst her horrible life would rejoice seeing her best friend thrive. Also a sensible person who could understand even before Mauli that she was coming between a couple & she needed her own wings as she didn't want to hurt anyone.

No one can tell when or with whom we fell in love. A lot of times it's not even in our control. And as much as we make fun of it, I do agree with the tagline that JAZBAAT SAHI YA GALAT NAHI HOTA. It's basically our principles, our situation & out rationality that guide us through the phrases & we try to take the right decision for us & everyone related to us.

There was this dialogue in a Thai movie between the third angle & the protagonist's aunt where the girl said she didn't want anything. She just wanted to stay close & watch her love happy. And she had questioned whether she was wrong to fell in love. The aunt had an amazing reply that it was no one's fault. But it was time which was too slow & she came later. So all she could do was wait & try to keep all her emotions inside without hurting anybody. But the truth is, it's excruciating when you see two people in love & realize that you are the intruder here & have to cope up with the pain silently.

The very first promo had actually given me such an idea. A woman who knows her stand, who wants to conceal her feeling & is entangled in an impossible situation. Frankly I don't even think SILSILA was supposed to be about EMA. For me, it was about three individual fighting with their feelings & doing the right thing.

But even before the first episode aired, people had already had their opinion & the writer instead of building up the story, went with the flow.

I do give Nandini some credit because even though weak, she had tried multiple times to walk away. More than anyone else, Kunal had to persuade Nandini herself because she always felt guilty for hurting Mauli.

But Malhotras have easily forgiven Kunal but still choose to ignore her existence. They have love for Pari as she is their GHAR KI BACCHI but I doubt whether anyone other than Mauli loves her as Nandini's daughter. I have always found the bond between Mauli & Pari genuine. It was even before the CD came out in play. Mauli genuinely adored a young motherless girl & Pari was amazed watching how doting Mauli as a mother was. She kept on saying WOW even after she had returned home with Kunal.

Plus we saw how happy Mauli was in the initial episodes when she got to know about Nandini's pregnancy. I guess, she doesn't see Pari as a product of her ex-husband's infidelity but as the AKHIRI NISHANI of the person she loved most.

It definitely has a lot to do with DD's exit as they can't show her POV. But I really wished at least today Kunal would stand by his decision but also acknowledge that he was wrong to cheat Mauli.

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Posted: 6 years ago

first of all I don't understand why to create sympathy for nandini in first place and then created hatred for her

I never want nandini character to turn in this way. yes I want nandini happiness after so much abuse by Rajdeep but never wanted nandini happiness in this way

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Nushrat

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: surabhi01
first of all I don't understand why to create sympathy for nandini in first place and then created hatred for her

I never want nandini character to turn in this way. yes I want nandini happiness after so much abuse by Rajdeep but never wanted nandini happiness in this way

They have made a mess out of a lot of things which could have been meaningful.

Physical abuse isn't the only type of a bad/unsuccessful marriage. There are typical educated, modest human beings who in their house treat their wives as their property & mentally abuse them. A lot of things can go wrong between two people which can scar one for life. But the writer wanted to do everything instantly. As a result, destroyed everything.

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Posted: 6 years ago

one question comes in my mind is love is more powerful than friends ship.? that is if someone fall in love he or she does not require friend ship?

is love is so strong feeling that is it impossible for a person to get over it and one don't care to whom he or she is marrying and even don't care about society and family

is love is so strong that it can change person nature with in second and even create misunderstanding?

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sweet_tania

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: surabhi01
one question comes in my mind is love is more powerful than friends ship.? that is if someone fall in love he or she does not require friend ship?

is love is so strong feeling that is it impossible for a person to get over it and one don't care to whom he or she is marrying and even don't care about society and family

is love is so strong that it can change person nature with in second and even create misunderstanding?

Love is very strong feeling surabhi and more powerful than friendship too.

I can leave my friends for my husband 's sake is pure love . I can destroy my best friend's marriage to get love of my life is selfish love .

Indeed love is most precious thing to get in life but if you snatched it from someone than its called selfish love and karma will always hit you back for selfish love.

If person is weak than selfish love can completely change them , their personality and can destroy their ethics too . That's why it's said one should have grip on their emotions because emotions can't be right or wrong but person can be .

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prettywomaniya

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Posted: 6 years ago

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thank u for writing this post..

😊

like dil se thank u..

i was wondering how will i cover so many things tomorrow but this post have covered both nandini and kunal's important characteristics..

i said the similar things when ema happened..

nandini's attraction towards kunal was fir bhi justified (not her actions though) but i never understood kunal's pyaar..

nandini as a character was selfish, weak and CREDULOUS..

yes she was a person who could be easily manipulated.. kunal told her that she is the sacha pyaar of his life, their pyaar is pure, they are not doing anything wrong..

i know she wasnt a child to get manipulated by kunal but thats how she was..

jisne jo bola uski baat man li..

thodi si budhu i should say.. bewkoof ladki jo iss pyaar ke chakkar me fas gayi aur apni aur mauli ki zindagi barbaad kar di..

anyways that was history. i really wanted kunal to say that he loves nandini , no matter she is dead or what.. but i knew that he will end up saying i am ready to reconcile..

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now kunal is na ghar ka na ghat ka.!!

i so so loved thr last paragraph (3rd point) pf ur post.. ditto feelings..

had kunal taken her side or had said few words in her support or in his "sache pyaar" ke support mein then he would have gained a little bit respect in my eyes..

i didnt like the fact that he made nandini a witch in everyone's eyes.. it seems like he had nothing for nandini.. he says "main purana waqt sametna chahta hun" i am like lekin kyu?? give me a reason dude..

what about his love for nandini??

had he forgotten about nandini and her memories??

will he not celebrate her birthday ever??

will he not do pooja on her barsi?

wont he be sad on her barsi??

what will pari call mauli?? what will she call nandini?? will pari never talk about nandini ?

aise jane kitne questions hain jinka jawab mujhe kunal se chahie.. but i am waiting for his final reaction..

i know he cant be redeemed at this stage..

but if he doesnt sulk and is happy for mauli then i will forgive him too.

i forgave nandini when she died.. nobody deserves death as a punishment for ema.

and since makers have made it look like a punishment for ema (dida and radhika's dialogue about punishment) then kunal toh definitely doesnt deserve mauli as he was also involved in ema..

nandini got cancer and kunal can get mauli..

naahhh!!! impossible..

galti dono se hui.. maafi bhi dono ko mili.. leki saza toh sirf nandini ko mili naa..

kunal's karma is calling..

he doesnt deserve mauli..

i just want him to not sulk and let mauli go witha smile on his face..