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Originally posted by: FruitToasty
I for one expected a complete breakdown of Mauli, because if I put myself in her place and think about love of my life dying, it would have broken me completely..
I have few theories on her reaction -1 Too much pain - I have noticed that Mauli has become very meek and submissive after she was asked to leave Malhotra house, losing your husband, your family then your daughter refusing to go with you is painful, if it was someone else she would have committed suicide, everything that has happened to her is so depressing, then she gets the news that kunal is dead, basically she has a mental block which is protecting her from the pain2 It's a TV show, Maunal are soulmates, everyone is telling her that he is no more but she does not feel it, I remember reading a novel where female lead gets into an accident and male lead says that she isn't dead, his friend asks him about it, he says if she was he would have felt it.. So he was obviously worried and scared but he couldn't feel it3 She has to stay strong, we have always stated that Mauli is a strong woman, during Kunal's bridge collapse accident, Mauli was so scared, she wanted to cry but she had to show that she is strong, later she went to Nandini and cried her heart out, in today's episode she was trying to find a place to cry but she couldn't because she has to be strong, it's either she controls herself or she'll lose it completely, but she can't do it as she has to be strong for Pari, Dida, Radhika and Mishti too.. It's like when the leader of the house does not cry because he has to arrange everything, I saw this when my grandmother passed away, my father was obviously in pain but couldn't lose himself completely as he had to arrange everything...4 Gajra told Aditi "Kuch bhi kar lo", she was so tired of writing she did not give Aditi and idea of what she has to do, so she told Aditi that do anything, cry a little not too much because MauHaan fans will be upset and don't laugh on Kunal's death because Maunal's fans would be upset, so Aditi is crying here and there not too much and not too little..
Hi.I am usually a silent reader of the forum and rarely do I participate in discussions but the topic of Mauli's reaction to Kunal's death piqued my interest as I study human communication. I also expected Mauli to have a complete breakdown simply because I assumed Kunal to be the love of Mauli's life.
However, the episode got me thinking. Did Mauli for once since post-leap say that Kunal is the love of her life? Yes, she was uncomfortable when he returned. She started considering what ifs' during the camp track and fell weak because they have a history as well as a child together and she got confused and muddled up because people's feelings can get muddled up, but the fact is that this man cheated on her with her best friend, this man broke his marriage and abandoned her along with his family and unborn child and this man has not been a part of her life for six long years. She is not habituated to him in any way anymore. So why would a moment like oh my god, he is dead, how will I live without him?' come to her? He has not been a part of her world for a significant amount of time so why would the world feel empty for her without him?
I think as his ex-wife,Mauli is being as human as any other human can be. She is sad at the death of the person she deeply cares for, she is crying as we can see, what else are we expecting her to do? I feel her depth of feelings for Kunal at this moment is irrelevant because he has been absent in her life for so long that the fact regarding his permanent absence has not hit on her at all.
Maybe she is over Kunal,maybe she is not. If she is not,once she is done feeling and being responsible and taking care of everyone, the reality will hit her. The ache of Kunal's absence will be felt by her for sure. If she is over him, then it's actually very like Mauli to be pained at other people's pain. So after a lot of thought, I think for me, Mauli is well within her character.
If we expected a breakdown scene like that of when she found out Kunal was dead, well, she broke down back then because her world fell apart at that time: what she knew as real wasn't real anymore, love, friendship, marriage, everything turned out to be a farce. Sge realized the man she woke up to see first every morning was not the person she thought he was. Well, do you need to be as much in love with your husband as Mauli was to have reacted that way? To have had that breakdown? I don't think so. I believe a woman loving her husband lot less would have completely blown off the handle in that situation too because her whole world would have come crashing down. In comparison, what has changed in Mauli's world because of Kunal's death? Nothing. Her world is intact, the way it has been for at least three years now with Mishti and Ishaan.She is more concerned about Pari's world changing because Kunal was all Pari had.
Human beings are strange creatures. We have emotions, we love and we hate. But how much a person matters to us is not really determined by our feelings for that person but more by our interaction with, dependency towards and need for that person. I was a bit disappointed at Radhika's and Dida's calming down so soon but then I think they have also made a world of their own without Kunal in it. They love him,yes,but Kunal has been absent from their life for six long years, so even for them, his immediate absence may not be felt that strongly. It will probably seep in later.
I think we should cut Mauli some slack. Kunal has put her through so much that it almost feels criminal to me to expect her to have even an ounce of feelings left for him. If she had chosen to refuse to even rush when she heard about his accident, could she be blamed? Who is he to her now? Her long absent ex husband and thr father of her child who the child does not even care about much. Kunal had left her to fend for herself and for years did not even bother checking up on her. He didn't even know or care if she was dead or alive, did not bother keeping a track of her at all and we are hoping she would break down at the news of his death? She didn't matter to him when she was his wife and we are expecting her to faint and lose sense for a man who has been nothing to her for six long years.
I am not any couple's shipper by the way. I love Mauli because she seems so human to me. The only time I didn't like her was when she accepted her mistake at hiding about Mishti to Kunal because technically she had no lied, he had believed her to have trapped him and confronted her to which she responded as she should have. Absolving Kunal of the responsibility of Mishti not growing up with father's love is something I did not like, Mauli alone was not responsible for it alone. I don't judge Mauli for going ahead with her relationship with Ishan and I won't judge her if she gives Kunal another chance after he apologizes and accepts for everything he has put her through. But if she goes back to Kunal without him apologizing not just for the EMA but especially for the mistreatment and humiliation he dished out to her from the time his affair came out in the open up until he left them all.I wasn't too happy that his mother gave him a free chit the moment he returned and told them that he missed them. You literally abandoned two elderly, dependent women,your only family,hoping that your ex-wife who you thought was ammoral enough to lie about her pregnancy would take care of.
I am sorry but I don't think Nandini dying and Kunal seeing Pari grow up without mother's love can somehow compensate for this absolute abandonment of his family. People's spouses pass away, it's unfortunate but not necessarily a punishment. Neither is working hard to get your ex wife to marry again a punishment. Also,the fact that he was so obsessed with fulfilling Mishti's wish once again completely disregarding Mauli's, pissed me off big time. Getting shot again, is very sad but it's not really a punishment for his deeds.Of course he does not deserve to die for cheating on his wife, abandoning her and his parent and grandparent. He is not a criminal. But again,him getting shot should not be a oh you got shot,so let's forgive and forget' situation.
I want him to acknowledge the wrongs he has done towards Mauli, apologize for mistreating her, misunderstanding her and abandoning her. If he realizes he loves her, he should ask for a chance and let her make the choice respectfully. If he doesn't, well, he should still apologize for what he has done.
Anupamaa
