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Miss-Behave

@Miss-Behave

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 6 years ago

We all know that EMA is not at all progressive whatsoever irregardless of whether the makers say that EMA happens very frequently in modern society. That just means EMA is a subject of contemporary relevance, not progressive, but seems makers don't know the difference between the two. But this show is in my opinion the most regressive portrayal of EMA to have been shown. Why? Because the show only cemented the idea that regressive/ conservative, traditional minded sections of society have always thought... That women should not work after marriage. Why? Well they showed the cheated wife being a strong career woman who was working to make her husband's dream come true when her husband started showing interests in another woman. The other woman was shown as a stay-at-home, simple, traditional and saree wearing girl who cooks for a man and dresses up etc. Stay at home, don't have a career, concentrate on cooking for your husband and in-laws and your husband will stay happy with you and not leave you for another woman. Conservative/ traditional societies have told women that always, now this show has too 👏

Edited by sammy17 - 6 years ago

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be_honest

@be_honest

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Posted: 6 years ago

Now, I dont even have a clue what this how is all about
is they stick to their point that in todays's world ema happens , people move out of their relationships or whatever utter crap the writers & actors utter for this show then why cant they show mauli according today's age n time.
in today's world, a wife will not tolerate a cheat husband & a cheat friend. She will kick out both & move out of such suffocating inlaws & husband.
But one thing is for sure, whoever have watched this show, this will always be in their memories for being the most utter crap ever happened on indian tv😆

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obstinatefemale

@obstinatefemale

Dazzler

+ 5

Posted: 6 years ago

I will like to add more points why this show is regressive although i know both kunal and nandini are wrong but it takes two to do tango but here in this show only another woman is blamed by wife and mother of the kunal when it was kunal who started this mess and started this so called love affair.He kept on persauing on nandini but after revelation both mauli and her motherinlaw is busy in cursing on another woman and ready to accept this lusty pig kunal why because he is male.This shows the mentality of writer.Suffering are only for both women where is kunal punished? In my view both kunal and nandini suffer equally

Edited by TheMockingBird - 6 years ago

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Anjali

@arshi_asya

Dazzler

Posted: 6 years ago

This show is regressive because it tried to convey how romance is the only thing to strive for in life, on how men are the only beings worthy to go after and prioritize while friendships should be considered literally nothing. It is regressive because it tried to prioritize romance over friendships even though romance is coming at the cost of the latter in this particular show. It is regressive on how only love of a spouse and a man is everything while all else stands nil in front of it even when spouse treats women like shit. It is regressive to mock the solidarity of women and friends on how women would and should chose men over friendship any time. It is regressive on how one should go after a man who treats you like an option even when you keep him on priority and how that is just fine to be treated like that.

Regressive on how women are the ones to be responsible for marriage while men get a free pass to do what the hell they want to do and still go unquestioned, unblamed and forgiven at the end of the day.

I don't hate Nandini for falling for Kunal but because she belittled friendship of 20 years to literally nothing jist because of attraction to that man. Even Mauli pisses me of when she is selective at how she is ready to forgive Kunal just like that and not Nandini. Just treat both the same, blame and punish Kunal for his marital digression. If Nandini doesn't deserve to be forgiven, Kunal too deserves it entirely.

There is literally nothing progressive about this show at the moment. Even Mauli is not since how easily she is ready to accept back Kunal just like that and compromise entirely on her self-esteem.

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Miss-Behave

@Miss-Behave

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: arshi_asya
This show is regressive because it tried to convey how romance is the only thing to strive for in life, on how men are the only beings worthy to go after and prioritize while friendships should be considered literally nothing. It is regressive because it tried to prioritize romance over friendships even though romance is coming at the cost of the latter in this particular show. It is regressive on how only love of a spouse and a man is everything while all else stands nil in front of it even when spouse treats women like shit. It is regressive to mock the solidarity of women and friends on how women would and should chose men over friendship any time. It is regressive on how one should go after a man who treats you like an option even when you keep him on priority and how that is just fine to be treated like that.
Regressive on how women are the ones to be responsible for marriage while men get a free pass to do what the hell they want to do and still go unquestioned, unblamed and forgiven at the end of the day.
I don't hate Nandini for falling for Kunal but because she belittled friendship of 20 years to literally nothing jist because of attraction to that man. Even Mauli pisses me of when she is selective at how she is ready to forgive Kunal just like that and not Nandini. Just treat both the same, blame and punish Kunal for his marital digression. If Nandini doesn't deserve to be forgiven, Kunal too deserves it entirely.

There is literally nothing progressive about this show at the moment. Even Mauli is not since how easily she is ready to accept back Kunal just like that and compromise entirely on her self-esteem.

Completely agree with your point that mauli should either forgive them both or not forgive either. I get this completely, however, suppose she forgives kunal and like you said, it would only be fair to forgive the other woman as well if you can forgive your cheating spouse, it's also only fair that forgiving nandini doesn't mean she automatically invite nandini back into her life and be buddies like before. It's one thing to try and restart your marriage post an affair by trying to overcome the affair and make things stronger with your husband, but to expect the wife to invite the woman who your husband had an affair with back into your life just like before around your husband and stuff is something a wife should not be expected to do and neither is it a good thing. I would not expect mauli to go back to being the same best friend as before with nandini where she allows nandini to be around her husband and family. That would be stupidity. Wish nandini the best of luck for her future and advice her and if needed say to her that when you really need me I'll be there for you like a best friend should, but I and no other person can expect mauli to invite nandini back into her life and home like before. It just isn't possible.

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anmirza

@anmirza

Dazzler

Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: TheMockingBird
I will like to add more points why this show is regressive although i know both kunal and nandini are wrong but it takes two to do tango but here in this show only another woman is blamed by wife and mother of the kunal when it was kunal who started this mess and started this so called love affair.He kept on persauing on nandini but after revelation both mauli and her motherinlaw is busy in cursing on another woman and ready to accept this lusty pig kunal why because he is male.This shows the mentality of writer.Suffering are only for both women where is kunal punished? In my view both kunal and nandini suffer equally

I completely agree! They're both cringeworthy not just Nandini! I don't want or expect her to forgive Nandini so she shouldn't be forgiving Kunal either because he's been more than just disgusting!

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@pamk06

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Posted: 6 years ago

Adding to the above, the show is also regressive because they are using a baby as a point to reconciliation. Divorce couples share children all the time. Second, a mother is not questioning her son at all and automatically blaming the other women.Also the family thinking as if the man is not at fault , he is a kid who got lured by chocolates and hence not responsible for his actions. They keep asking the other woman to give him back as if he is a commodity instead of talking to the man himself and finding out what he wants. Lastly showing that women need men to survive and this applies to both women.

Both are wrong here and both should be blamed, Kunal more than Nandini as he is the one who has broken the vows and is responsible for his family, not Nandini who is the only one getting blamed here.

Edited by pamk06 - 6 years ago

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Charu

@Krinya

Trailblazer

+ 8

Posted: 6 years ago

All this plus i never liked that every silsila that happened was due to an external trigger and not because one feels that way or characterized. This is nothing to do with regressiveness but i could never connect to it because of this reason .now mauli had a 360 degree turn only because dida said kunal will be back because of the brahamastra , he will give a second chance to their marriage n just listening to her , she decieed to become a doormat. Just a rant

.but i agree with the above points.

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SiddJ

@SiddJ

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: arshi_asya
This show is regressive because it tried to convey how romance is the only thing to strive for in life, on how men are the only beings worthy to go after and prioritize while friendships should be considered literally nothing. It is regressive because it tried to prioritize romance over friendships even though romance is coming at the cost of the latter in this particular show. It is regressive on how only love of a spouse and a man is everything while all else stands nil in front of it even when spouse treats women like shit. It is regressive to mock the solidarity of women and friends on how women would and should chose men over friendship any time. It is regressive on how one should go after a man who treats you like an option even when you keep him on priority and how that is just fine to be treated like that.
Regressive on how women are the ones to be responsible for marriage while men get a free pass to do what the hell they want to do and still go unquestioned, unblamed and forgiven at the end of the day.
I don't hate Nandini for falling for Kunal but because she belittled friendship of 20 years to literally nothing jist because of attraction to that man. Even Mauli pisses me of when she is selective at how she is ready to forgive Kunal just like that and not Nandini. Just treat both the same, blame and punish Kunal for his marital digression. If Nandini doesn't deserve to be forgiven, Kunal too deserves it entirely.

There is literally nothing progressive about this show at the moment. Even Mauli is not since how easily she is ready to accept back Kunal just like that and compromise entirely on her self-esteem.

Its really hard to treat both the same.. cos husband is definitely above other relationships in life..Here mauli has reiterated it several times how much she loves him, he might have let go of her.. but its still hard for her to let go.. even when a break up happens, the person moving on does it easily.. but the person getting dumped has a hard time letting go..

Where as usually friends are not kept in the same league as spouse , so she might not wanna forgive her.

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CoffeeCake

@CoffeeCake

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 6 years ago

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I think there's no show on Indian TV which is not regressive.

There's no normal content on Indian Tv... Even if they bring something realistic, it gets rejected by TRP viewers as there is no loud bg music and annoying zoom in and zoom out faces.

This show is not any different or unique.

There was no basic foundation. Root of this show was weak from beginning. Shakti who is much better in acting failed to convince even 1 neutral viewer that Kunal has right to fall out of love with Mauli. They have made mockery of domstic violence and marital rape as well by presenting victim like a model and she has interest only in dressing up 24X7 and cooking kheer for others husband. Do they know the meaning of 7 f**king years of abuse and rape? They are showing a woman who was beaten and raped by a man is only interested to get another man in her life, have sex, dress up and eat kheer.

And now making Mauli as doormat and double standard woman who is ready to forget bang leela of pati is final nail in coffin. RIP silsila.

Edited by Metis - 6 years ago