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I wanted to post a separate topic discussion here about the concept of purity of love in an extramarital relationship. This topic was touched on in another post but I think we may flesh it out a little more here. I feel there is a great misunderstanding about the nature of the actions taken in this EMA (and others). I have seen some posters argue that Kundani's affair could have been written as more pure if it had not turned, grotesquely, physical. It's almost as if the emotional cheating that led to the physical cheating is okay. It most certainly is not. No woman wants her husband pining in silence for another woman and acting as if he is making some great sacrifice being with her and not his mistress. Which woman won't be disgusted knowing he's thinking of another woman when he's with her and checked out. You know, like some great sadhu, making the ultimate sacrifice.
I think it's still pretty disgusting. Emotional cheating is very destructive as well and here is why. IT IS BECAUSE OF THE LYING. The cheaters are still lying about their actions/feelings, etc. They are robbing the woman being cheated of an actual chance to make another life. If the cheater wanted to show how pure his love is, he would confess his true feelings for his wife and FREE HER. Free her to choose if she stays or goes. Free her to start anew and find the real love of her life because the love of your life wont' love another. So, it's the lying and the selfish actions that is at the heart of the issue, not just the nasty sex...
Arjun
