Casting Blame | What Lies Ahead? - Page 3

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

yea, every experience is different but I remember that lady's post because she was such a cheerful person and in such sharp contrast to expectation and others experience. part of that was she had accepted herself and her past, living very contentedly and was not afraid of the future.

one of my cousin is a psychiatrist and she has lots of patients who approach her when they are thinking of a second marriage. they are afraid if the past will repeat itself and so analyzing a past relationship helps them see if they could have done things differently, what are areas they need to work on for personal growth. blaming the ex for everything does not get them anywhere.

we can agree to disagree on this but I don't see mouli as without flaws. yes, she is a good person but I also do think that there were areas in her marriage which may have needed a little tweaking. sometimes it is not about whether a need is irrelevant but if it is relevant to the other person, then the spouse needs to address it head on in order to make a marriage successful.

so I agree with you 100% that kunal has a saviour complex. the irony is that mauli herself is a vulnerable woman and has lots of insecurities. if she had let kunal in and let him do some of the heavy lifting, then he would have realized that mouli also needs saving. so was she wrong in taking on everything herself? not necessarily but she underestimated kunal's saviour complex. now is she responsible for kunal's affair? no. those were his actions. but she is responsible for her actions in her marriage because they were the two in it.

in every relationship (whether it is friend, family or even colleague), we need to pay attention to a person's emotional needs. we may think it is a simple irrelevant matter but it may not be to someone else.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@summerrain7 -- caught up on the episode and I had to chuckle at rajdeep. the actor seemed to have a ball of time wriggling his eyebrows. the way he delivered his lines really was kind of funny and his little dance on seeing kunal and nandini all drunk on baang, had to laugh...

so on your question on kunal -- the guy remains as confusing as ever. what I found strange is that one minute, he is in happy infatuated bubble with nandini and the next minute, he is giving mouli a hug and is silently aware that she seems troubled by something. but his behaviour at the celebration is having everyone's eyebrows up but I don't think people will jump immediately and draw the conclusion that it is affair.

the problem is his niceness. we don't expect nice people to do stupid and hurtful things and so give them a longer leash in some ways. whereas characters like rajdeep are troublemakers and so first sight of problem, we look at them.

am finding it strange that the train wreck is speeding up so fast...

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@summerrain7 -- yea, keeping the abuse aside, rajdeep is hilarious and I think it is just the actor. maybe he takes inspiration from other comic villains who can be super diabolical one minute and then wryly amusing in another scene...

the other eye rolling + exasperated giggle moment for me is the colour co-ordination. aiyoo!!! it is like they have to prove that kunal and nandini are destined and so have to dress them in the same colour. please!

also, was reminded of another literature classic where the cheater fella turns out to be mr. nice guy but utter coward. so have you read/heard of the book "scarlet letter" by nathaniel hawthorne? maybe kunal or nandini is built on such kind of characterization.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

LOL.. @pamk06 -- you are not the only one that saw sparks between rajdeep and mouli in that scene. he was hilariously funny and she was getting so exasperated with him -- it was really fun to watch.

if he wasn't an abusive, manipulative jerk, it would really be a funny pairing, especially, if mouli turned a bit grey and decided to take revenge on the love birds. I would have sat back and laughed and giggled if that was the direction of the drama...

but alas, rajdeep is a real villain. but we need more comic lines from him. all these stares and silences are too much for me -- I need some masala! 😆

@summerrain7 -- we really need some dialogues from kunal to know what he is thinking. ok the actor is good looking but there's only so much we can guess from looking at his face. we are not exactly face readers here! 😉

and what drives me nuts about the colour co-ordination is the ones between mauli and nandini -- at least get some interesting print and different stitching/design if you are going to have a budget cut! 😆 at least with nandini and kunal, they are sticking with colour and not design -- well at least not yet! 😆

Originally posted by: pamk06

I wish, he was not abuser, then I would have totally rooted for them.

Gosh, how I need the dialogues, but I guess, as soon as Kunal open his mouth, he gets bashed either from Nandini or Mauli supporters. So may be the silence and expressions is a safe bet for him, because then its becomes "Maine kaha kuch bola". 😆.

@bold: Small mercies that they are not doing fabric co-ordination, or else in Ishqbaaz, it was the same fabric across the board, men or women, different style of-course. Its used to drive me nuts.