Casting Blame | What Lies Ahead? - Page 2

Originally posted by: SummerRain7

You had mentioned in your post that different people react differently to this situation, some blaming the wife squarely, some, the husband and some heaping all blame on that third woman/man. Maybe the makers are also trying to tell us the same by making Zoya question Mauli in this manner? Or it could be Zoya's character speaking from her own experience.

The lack of remorse, as you say is mind-boggling. In yesterday's epi when Mauli was introducing Nandini to Chakor, the moment she spoke about trust, Nandini was shown to be very uncomfortable, which was a welcome change from the previous episodes where I felt that she wasn't even aware of what's happening around her. But Kunal was positively smiling when Mauli was saying how blindly she trusts Nandini. Is this an editing glitch ??? If not then, what on earth are the makers smoking??? ? Do they not understand human behavior?? How is he able to click selfies with the two of them so comfortably and do all that he did through out the course of yesterday's epi, with his wife just a few feet away from them??

And do not even get me started on the publicly secret Pooja. It was actually a laugh riot, because the people in the hall were not blind, they had just closed their eyes😆 Matlab Kuch Bhiii!!!

I think the makers wanted to show that Kunal is NOT one of those men who cheated on their wives but is always loathe to give any acceptance or even be seen wIth the cheating partner in public. And of course they had to show something for Chakor to see and voice out her suspicions to Mauli later. But in doing so, Kunal is now appearing as a seasoned cheater, who handles situations with wife and his cheating partner with practised ease.

And Nandini may not have have gotten into this relationship with any great expectations, but as is human nature, she is consciously or subconsciously wanting more and more with each passing minute. Kunal being close to Mauli is slowly starting to get to her.

And I am not sure what to make of Mauli's reaction. She was clearly upset , but she still may not believe that they are already in a relationship. With Zoya's line of questioning, she may feel that Kunal is getting attracted to Nandini and hence her dressing up like Nandini as shown in the promos.

Originally posted by: _goofyCat_

Wonderful analysis. Actually the story had a lot scope had the writers handled it maturely.. They went wrong in hurrying things and just showing physical attraction between Kunal and Nandini.. The reasons you explained for Kunal and Nandini to get attracted to each other make a lot of sense, but we never got to see anything of those explicitly even a single time in the show.. I don't think both of them have talked a single word apart from telling each other about how they 'love' each other which looks laughable in reality because we have never seen any deep routed feelings for them, neither it was shown why they got attracted to each other. And that is where the problem comes from.

I agree on the short lived happiness part. Kunal and Nanidni's happiness is momentary and they are just turning blind eye to reality because even they are aware that their relation has no future unless they gather the courage to openly tell about their family and society about it (which they will never do ofcourse).

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

It is excellent to read a likeminded post thank you so much TM

I am off the same mindset and I am sure when reality will hit sadly both kunal and Nandini will find themselves in a very difficult situation. The honeymoon period is great they are high on the new love but reality is completely different. Do correct me if I am wrong but I haven't seen either of them working since their affair - all I have seen is them acting on their urges which again as you would know very normal.

It appears that you are in psychiatric field as well? I in a way pity Nandini when the reality will hit because she is going to lose her only friend. Kunal I have no opinion on as I cannot get a read in him. His actions are so contradicting it is making it hard for me to understand his psyche.

Do you think transference may show its head later on for Nandini? She has not addressed her past trauma.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

now I haven't seen the full episode yet and the zoya scene but here is some thoughts -- I don't think someone asking you to analyze your relationship is necessarily a bad thing or victim blaming or justification of affair.

I remember reading this very interesting post from this lady in another drama forum where she shared about how she reacted after an affair. while her husband moved on and married another woman, she too found peace after she forgave her husband as well as herself. she stressed that while it was very difficult to hear from her counselor/psychologist, it took a lot of self-reflection to realize that a marriage is made of two people and she also had a role to play. while she was not responsible for his affair or his consequent actions, she was responsible for her actions during the marriage. anyway, she ended by saying that she learned a lot about herself and was at peace and happy with herself.

so it is possible that CVs wanted to communicate that kind of attitude and insight through zoya but as usual, may have bungled it up on execution.

Originally posted by: QueenofGreen

I absolutely agree with you. Someone simply asking you to evaluate your relationship is not suggestive of victim shaming, it's the precise dialogue that was used, in terms of looking at what is lacking or where the relationship might be failing. The writing is poor, simply put. Instead of advising Mauli to examine the flaws of her relationship, she should have told her to discuss with Kunal what their individual expectations are from their marriage and just how committed they are in fulfilling these expectations.

With all due respect to the woman you are referencing, every experience is different. I don't believe that both parties in a relationship are always necessarily at fault. In this particular scenario, where is Mauli's fault? It is that she does not spend enough time with her husband, because she's too busy being the bread-winner of the family as well as taking the time to attend to everyone's needs? Or is it that she does not recognise how powerless her husband feels because he's the one sitting at home, useless while his wife slaves away? Or is it her fault that she unconditionally loves and trusts both her husband and her best friend? In my opinion, I don't think that any blame can be imputed to Mauli here. If Kunal feels inadequate, then that's entirely his problem. It is his egoistic mindset that craves the attention and adoration of another woman. If you are not happy in your relationship, you do not seek pleasure elsewhere, you do the mature thing and discuss it with your partner.