Originally posted by: FruitToasty
Or we are complicating a very simple thing, Nandini is supposed to be flawed, why look for reasons to see her as flawless?
If Nandini witnessed only bad marriages and for the first time she saw a marriage which wasn't bad but doesn't Kunal's love for her shatter the image of a good wedding? How easy it was for Kunal to forget everything he had for Mauli in matter of a month, if it was about not seeing good marriage, Kunal and Mauli's marriage isn't exactly good and the problem is not Mauli, it's Kunal so why would Nandini fall for a bad husband?
Or she just picks men over women, she picked Rajdeep over Mauli now she picked Kunal over Mauli, the problem isn't that kunal was a bad husband because that's not even a thing, Kunal is good to Nandini, if Kunal had cheated on Mauli with nurse in his office, on whose side do you think Nandini would have been? Mauli's right? Now Kunal cheated on Mauli but he cheated on her with Nandini, so she doesn't care, that's the flaw
Don't we all live with people? Nandini is not mogli, your interpretation would have been apt for mogli, a woman, who was brought from jungle and married one man who beat her and kept her in isolation then she witnessed Maunal
I don't think writer is trying to say that or this is even a gap, it's crystal clear that Nandini is a flawed character
I disagree. Yes she is flawed and what may seem like justification to you is people simply trying to understand where she is coming from. People have motives and feelings and like others have said Nandani is not a cave woman, she knows the meaning of friendship so why would she do this? I am trying to understand exactly that. Almost everyone here knows that what Nandani is doing is wrong. I am not giving reasons as to why I think it's right that she's doing so but I'm trying to find reasons as to why Nandani would think what she did is right. I am trying to put myself in Nandani's shoes and get her perspective.
You can argue till you're blue in the face that she shouldn't have betrayed Mauli at all and that is the end of it. However, I feel like that is too black and white way of looking at the situation especially because we are given SO MUCH to work with. Nandani and Mauli is literally the only two interesting characters in the show for me. Kunal cannot stand his own ground and if not as a husband, he should have told Mauli as a friend of 7+ years that he can't reciprocate his feelings anymore.
Anyways, back to Nandani, I appreciate that we are given a character that has gone through heaps of trauma, trying to get out of it with the help of some great people, getting feelings for her best friends husband, and now trying to make sense of it all while her PTSD, depression, anxiety and what have you is still high up there. That is a lot for one person to go through, we all know it is. And I'm gonna be a social worker so this is literally gold mine for me in terms of "ecological perspective" lmao. Super interesting theory, look it up. But I'm going to go into Family Systems for the most part.
We learn from what we see. When you're a child and you repeatedly see something, you tend to fixate on it and hold it as true, it's all very superficial to them. They think you're literally not there when you're playing peek-a-boo. If one thing is wrong then it is interpreted as wrong in every scenario when thats not feasible in real life. For example, running a red light is illegal but children would assume that you would go to jail for it. All or nothing. But as we grow up and have experiences of the real world, and understand that it's not as simple as breaking a law or not. Everything has a context to it. 20 year old drinking alc and 7 year old drinking alc is both illegal but the parents of 7 year will probably hear from DCF. The context is important.
That was a base of what I'm trying to explain in terms of ecological perspective which explains why people do what they do. And it takes into account a person in their environment. lmao, sorry this is gonna be long.
Nandani, although not a child, has been in the midst of a bad marriage since she was born. Her parents barely spoke to each other, that's her first introduction. Trust me when I say, growing up in a household with bad marriage leaves so many issues that you didn't even know existed. And then you end up in a bad marriage yourself and Nandani doesn't question it too much because she thinks its normal. The argument of her leaving her house to find a happy couple is not strong because she doesn't care about those couple or those marriages. She's going to care about the ones that she will have to live with and hear about and subconsciously learn about her worth through.
When she sees Kunal and Mauli together, after livining in their house, she thinks to her self that wow I never realized marriage also meant happiness. She doesn't have any real life examples she's been part of that tells her otherwise. So no she's fixated on Kunal because she is overcompensating from all the times she didn't have this bond. That's why it's interesting to me because she could have gone the other way just as well but she didn't. People don't always make the right choices. But we still have to treat them like people and want them to get better. I want Nandani to get out of Kunal and Mauli's life and make an identity of herself. You can shun her and say she doesn't deserve shit after what she did to mauli and that is your right but I want Nandani to live a fully functional life.
wow I'm getting way too heated over a fictional character and I was ranting at parts but I hope this made sense. This is literally the first time that I found a character to be this interesting and three dimensional.
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