Ek Roti ka kamaal......lajawaab - Page 11

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

I present one experience of mine in sync with the above discussion...😛.. infact there has been a difference in the POVs here between me-husband and my MIL in this matter.... I have been brought up in an environment where charity to the needy has been addressed as the first punya karya.... then the normal poojas r done for the welfare of the family and the charity to the pandits etc.... so i have been always of this view ... but in my inlaws place ... the observation is a bit on the other side.... the priority is first charity to the pandits during the poojas and then the needy.... which myself and my husband find it a bit odd to digest....😕

I would relate an experience for the same.... my husband had brought many kellogs small packs , milk cartons and juices as were on the pilgrimage tour.... on the way...we halted for sometime .... it was pouring heavily and i saw some children of around 5 to 8 years were wandering there fully drenched possibly in a hope... expecting something from us..... at that time my son was sipping a drink .... we distributed some juices and milk packs to those kids and also some khakras and theplas which we had taken with us.... my MIL who is very very generous otherwise acted a bit selfish and showed disinterest in parting away with those juices and milk and said not to give that as there are other kids back home who will love those too...( the other grandchildren of hers) Hon. i felt very bad as just the sight of hungry, drenched children brought tears to my eyes and i could not possibly remember about anything else at that moment.... i thought somewhere people's emotions to their dearest ones grip them totally in some circumstances and the selfishness overshadows the realism....

Luckily myself and my husband share this thought of charity for the needy first while the elders in my house first believe in quenching the needs of our house people then the needy.... they believe charity begins at home and we often have our clash of views here... though i have to be on the passive side...😭... my husband voices his opinion and lands in trouble most of the time....🤣..

Originally posted by: reguser

Dont say anything to Appu. Waise bhi she is in a fix now. Whether to call Vish's spade a spade or my spade a spade. I dont have any problem if she calls Vish's spade a spade, but Vish seems to be happy whenever Appu presses LIKE button or supports her 😆

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

@reguser

Good to know that your husband & u share similar thoughts.

Btw, what I mentioned about "charity begins @ home" is a totally different issue. It is about sponsoring complete education to needy children, doing some service @ old-age homes etc. As we (women) are busy for the time being with other commitments, these things may not be possible in a full-swing. And if we take up this service as a main priority, then we will be ignoring our children and family which is also not right. Though we can help those in needy (like the example given by you), we may not be able to give 100% time for that as we have some other commitments.

No dear..😛.. Pallavi u have mistaken... my analysis was done totally with reference to my experiences in this matter... i agree with your posting... def. we need to cater to our needs before thinking of doing charity like sponsoring children etc...if we are not in a position to do so currently that does not mean selfishness acc. to me...

. but as vish rightly said.... i would not give it a thought in a situation if i have to feed a hungry stomach ..... I will prefer remaining hungry and feed that child first.... for me the question of quenching the hunger of someone is more important than satisfying my hunger at that particular moment....that is doing things within our means.

my MIL is very generous and does lots of social service for the needy... but that moment when she saw us feeding those kids.... she did lay back in her thoughts as then for her, her grandkids's needs prioritised and not those drenched hungry kids.... so in a way i related to the situations how our selfless nature do turn selfish at times.... which is not required at all...

Pallavi this discussion has been really healthy yaar so far..😆... and i will be happy if we can share such thoughts till 150 pages too without any bashing....😉..

Originally posted by: reguser

@Bold - Totally agree with this. No one can be totally right or totally wrong. But the best part is you see the positive side of every one. That is something very appreciable. I too want to learn this but at times I fail 😭

Originally posted by: vishmewell

@ Laxmi - Let me first start posting from this one coz I found something I can relate to and use as an argument in my defense 🤣

@ red - Isn't that true all the time??? I can empathize with your husband coz I am like him 🤣 My husband keeps advising me that I must change and learn to be diplomatic and not displease anybody. There's a saying in my language that one who doesn't get hurt and doesn't hurt others' feelings are the wisest.. My husband quotes this every time. You are a wise person so you are able to be on the passive side. Looks like you don't like that role as you are tearing in your heart hence you chose that emoticon. 😭 I wish I could take that passive role and not get in trouble.

But it is not for everybody. I have totally a different philosophy in life. Although I am a great strategist, planner, and perfect executor (according to my husband), I live my life like there is no tomorrow. There are no guarantees that I will return to this forum tomorrow. This could be my last day of life. Death is the only guest that doesn't announce its arrival. Knowing our life is so temporary, why should I throw it away by not telling the truth? Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. This is Law of Physics and can be applied to philosophy too... by not telling the truth, you are indirectly harming someone else plus, you are boosting the person who is wrong. Is that not a sin? If one is truly god fearing, how can you face god every day when you offer prayers? How do you reason with your concision? Because my soul is dependent on my body to do good or bad deeds, why should I sin and malign my soul?

You have seen what happened to me in Bidaai forum for speaking facts and scientific evidences. People can't accept the facts and indulge in personal attacks. So the point I am going to make here is, I can either chose to identify myself with my soul or identify myself with my body and react to become one of them and burden my soul by committing that sin, or spare my soul by leaving and telling myself that it is my body they abused.

It is good to be diplomatic... don't take it in the negative way 😃 to me it is AAALLLLLLL positive. Loved by all, accepted by all, people bless the ones like you 😃

I think that since Suhana made roti for the first time.. it really impacted Ishaan on how he now views Suhana.. First it was all about her.. but for the first time she decided to help his family members. And how she views and respects the family members.

Originally posted by: *Aman_I*

I think that since Suhana made roti for the first time.. it really impacted Ishaan on how he now views Suhana.. First it was all about her.. but for the first time she decided to help his family members. And how she views and respects the family members.

Thankx Aman...😃... it was a very sweeeet reminder .....😉......about the topic ROTI......😆 ..... maafi chahthi hoon...... hum bhatak gaye the..😭... I henceforth will abide by the rules of the forum....😃..... and will control my temptations from getting blown away from the topic...😃..(aadat se majboor hai bhai....kya kare....🤣...)and yes will chat only in the PMs..... is there any other way to have general healthy discussions like these in the forum????? just a bit inquisitive.........