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Pallavi

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Posted: 15 years ago

#91

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

Arrey no yaar Pallavi...😛..i read your views about me..... thankx a lot jaan..... u understood me really well....😉..... i referenced that to our sweet appu.... another posting i have done to our sweet vish also as these 2 are doing my badnaami here...😭.. they don't know i am besharam only in bidaai forum.... in SGP... i am supposed to be decent....(i don't know for how long....)🤣

Dont say anything to Appu. Waise bhi she is in a fix now. Whether to call Vish's spade a spade or my spade a spade. I dont have any problem if she calls Vish's spade a spade, but Vish seems to be happy whenever Appu presses LIKE button or supports her 😆

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#92

I present one experience of mine in sync with the above discussion...😛.. infact there has been a difference in the POVs here between me-husband and my MIL in this matter.... I have been brought up in an environment where charity to the needy has been addressed as the first punya karya.... then the normal poojas r done for the welfare of the family and the charity to the pandits etc.... so i have been always of this view ... but in my inlaws place ... the observation is a bit on the other side.... the priority is first charity to the pandits during the poojas and then the needy.... which myself and my husband find it a bit odd to digest....😕

I would relate an experience for the same.... my husband had brought many kellogs small packs , milk cartons and juices as were on the pilgrimage tour.... on the way...we halted for sometime .... it was pouring heavily and i saw some children of around 5 to 8 years were wandering there fully drenched possibly in a hope... expecting something from us..... at that time my son was sipping a drink .... we distributed some juices and milk packs to those kids and also some khakras and theplas which we had taken with us.... my MIL who is very very generous otherwise acted a bit selfish and showed disinterest in parting away with those juices and milk and said not to give that as there are other kids back home who will love those too...( the other grandchildren of hers) Hon. i felt very bad as just the sight of hungry, drenched children brought tears to my eyes and i could not possibly remember about anything else at that moment.... i thought somewhere people's emotions to their dearest ones grip them totally in some circumstances and the selfishness overshadows the realism....

Luckily myself and my husband share this thought of charity for the needy first while the elders in my house first believe in quenching the needs of our house people then the needy.... they believe charity begins at home and we often have our clash of views here... though i have to be on the passive side...😭... my husband voices his opinion and lands in trouble most of the time....🤣..

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#93

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

I present one experience of mine in sync with the above discussion...😛.. infact there has been a difference in the POVs here between me-husband and my MIL in this matter.... I have been brought up in an environment where charity to the needy has been addressed as the first punya karya.... then the normal poojas r done for the welfare of the family and the charity to the pandits etc.... so i have been always of this view ... but in my inlaws place ... the observation is a bit on the other side.... the priority is first charity to the pandits during the poojas and then the needy.... which myself and my husband find it a bit odd to digest....😕

I would relate an experience for the same.... my husband had brought many kellogs small packs , milk cartons and juices as were on the pilgrimage tour.... on the way...we halted for sometime .... it was pouring heavily and i saw some children of around 5 to 8 years were wandering there fully drenched possibly in a hope... expecting something from us..... at that time my son was sipping a drink .... we distributed some juices and milk packs to those kids and also some khakras and theplas which we had taken with us.... my MIL who is very very generous otherwise acted a bit selfish and showed disinterest in parting away with those juices and milk and said not to give that as there are other kids back home who will love those too...( the other grandchildren of hers) Hon. i felt very bad as just the sight of hungry, drenched children brought tears to my eyes and i could not possibly remember about anything else at that moment.... i thought somewhere people's emotions to their dearest ones grip them totally in some circumstances and the selfishness overshadows the realism....

Luckily myself and my husband share this thought of charity for the needy first while the elders in my house first believe in quenching the needs of our house people then the needy.... they believe charity begins at home and we often have our clash of views here... though i have to be on the passive side...😭... my husband voices his opinion and lands in trouble most of the time....🤣..

Good to know that your husband & u share similar thoughts.

Btw, what I mentioned about "charity begins @ home" is a totally different issue. It is about sponsoring complete education to needy children, doing some service @ old-age homes etc. As we (women) are busy for the time being with other commitments, these things may not be possible in a full-swing. And if we take up this service as a main priority, then we will be ignoring our children and family which is also not right. Though we can help those in needy (like the example given by you) regularly, we may not be able to do give majority of our time to social service now as we have some other commitments.

I know you understand what I have said before, still I have explained it again as I dont want this topic to continue till 150 pages. 😆 150 pages is good only for light-hearted comedy just like Vasindu club.

Edited by reguser - 15 years ago

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#94

@reguser

Good to know that your husband & u share similar thoughts.

Btw, what I mentioned about "charity begins @ home" is a totally different issue. It is about sponsoring complete education to needy children, doing some service @ old-age homes etc. As we (women) are busy for the time being with other commitments, these things may not be possible in a full-swing. And if we take up this service as a main priority, then we will be ignoring our children and family which is also not right. Though we can help those in needy (like the example given by you), we may not be able to give 100% time for that as we have some other commitments.

No dear..😛.. Pallavi u have mistaken... my analysis was done totally with reference to my experiences in this matter... i agree with your posting... def. we need to cater to our needs before thinking of doing charity like sponsoring children etc...if we are not in a position to do so currently that does not mean selfishness acc. to me...

. but as vish rightly said.... i would not give it a thought in a situation if i have to feed a hungry stomach ..... I will prefer remaining hungry and feed that child first.... for me the question of quenching the hunger of someone is more important than satisfying my hunger at that particular moment....that is doing things within our means.

my MIL is very generous and does lots of social service for the needy... but that moment when she saw us feeding those kids.... she did lay back in her thoughts as then for her, her grandkids's needs prioritised and not those drenched hungry kids.... so in a way i related to the situations how our selfless nature do turn selfish at times.... which is not required at all...

Pallavi this discussion has been really healthy yaar so far..😆... and i will be happy if we can share such thoughts till 150 pages too without any bashing....😉..

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#95

Originally posted by: laxmi_s
@vishmewell
No. She will be very happy to press the Like button very diplomatically 😆😆😆. That way she doesn't have to indulge in taking sides... 🤣

😲.....😲.....😲......I was shocked.......😭...😭...😭... then i was hurt..... dhi.... u told me diplomatic.....????😭....😭....😭..... U know i always sincerely sit back and read each and every post of yours , pallavi's, appu's and Bani's discussion as i love them immensely as each of u bring out a beautiful shade of your thoughts in your discussion.... sometimes it so happens that i partially agree with yours , partially with Pallavi's or partially with Bani's..... but at the end of the day i just love them , i enjoy reading them when the discussions are so friendly and light..... but...😭...😭...😭... u said i diplomatically press the like key?????😲...😲...😲

@Bold - Totally agree with this. No one can be totally right or totally wrong. But the best part is you see the positive side of every one. That is something very appreciable. I too want to learn this but at times I fail

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Aparna

@*dewdrop~pearl*

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Posted: 15 years ago

#96

@ Laxmi :

Haila Laxmi, yeh mein kya sun rahi hoon 😲...mein tho sirf mazaak kar rahi thi yaar...I dint mean to make you badnaam 😭...Tum mujhe galat samajh rahi ho 😭...what I meant was you had started this topic on a light note, on Suhana's roti making skills aur hum log yaha aake, we started talking heavy duty stuff which ruined ur sweet topic. So since you cannot ask us to 'get out' from ur topic so as not to disappoint us, like how Pallu said, you are liking all our comments 😳. I dint say it a negative note yaar, mazaak mein bhi mein teri taafeef hi kar rahi thi, Pallu just elaborated what I actually meant on a funny note 😳. Arre hum to tumhare hi PM hain na, aur PM ka sense of humour tum to jaante ho na, ab ke jo tumne 'warning' diya hain, I will refrain from such humour 😭.

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#97

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*
@ Laxmi :

Haila Laxmi, yeh mein kya sun rahi hoon 😲...mein tho sirf mazaak kar rahi thi yaar...I dint mean to make you badnaam 😭...Tum mujhe galat samajh rahi ho 😭...what I meant was you had started this topic on a light note, on Suhana's roti making skills aur hum log yaha aake, we started talking heavy duty stuff which ruined ur sweet topic. So since you cannot ask us to 'get out' from ur topic so as not to disappoint us, like how Pallu said, you are liking all our comments 😳. I dint say it a negative note yaar, mazaak mein bhi mein teri taafeef hi kar rahi thi, Pallu just elaborated what I actually meant on a funny note 😳. Arre hum to tumhare hi PM hain na, aur PM ka sense of humour tum to jaante ho na, ab ke jo tumne 'warning' diya hain, I will refrain from such humour 😭.

goodness appu..... haila..... u know me so well na.... i am a pucca besharam yaar....aur main aise hi tum logon ko ched sakthi hoon...😭.😭.😭.... warning and all r big words.... not suitable for our relationship........🤣...!

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#98

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*
@ Laxmi :

Haila Laxmi, yeh mein kya sun rahi hoon 😲...mein tho sirf mazaak kar rahi thi yaar...I dint mean to make you badnaam 😭...Tum mujhe galat samajh rahi ho 😭...what I meant was you had started this topic on a light note, on Suhana's roti making skills aur hum log yaha aake, we started talking heavy duty stuff which ruined ur sweet topic. So since you cannot ask us to 'get out' from ur topic so as not to disappoint us, like how Pallu said, you are liking all our comments 😳. I dint say it a negative note yaar, mazaak mein bhi mein teri taafeef hi kar rahi thi, Pallu just elaborated what I actually meant on a funny note 😳. Arre hum to tumhare hi PM hain na, aur PM ka sense of humour tum to jaante ho na, ab ke jo tumne 'warning' diya hain, I will refrain from such humour 😭.

He he....no need to refrain from humour. Laxmi also is kidding.

She just doesnt want SGP viewers to know how besharam we all can be (though in Bidai forum everyone knows). 😆

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#99

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

goodness appu..... haila..... u know me so well na.... i am a pucca besharam yaar....aur main aise hi tum logon ko ched sakthi hoon...😭.😭.😭.... warning and all r big words.... not suitable for our relationship........🤣...!

@Laxmi, Aparna,

Actually, you both are quite sweet and try to see the positive part in every message (Had already told about this aspect of Laxmi earlier). So your LIKE buttons show that u try to see the positive part in that message. And the posts will not be totally wrong or totally right. So u r doing the correct thing. I too try to instil this quality in me, but at times I fail.

@Appu,

You go through each and every post from where u have stopped, and u will understand what I really mean.

Ok, its become too serious. Lets get back to humour mood. 😃

Otherwise, like someone in Bidai, Laxmi & I too have to start asking "Where are u Appu, are you angry with us?" 🤣