Joint family vs Nuclear family.... - Page 11

Originally posted by: reguser

@Bold - Totally agree with you. For me joint/nuclear (whatever) family is like my husband, son, my parents, my in-laws and myself. I am happy staying with all these together. Being an only daughter, I have resp towards my parents and I understand my husband's resp towards his parents. So it is our duty. Even I dont prefer staying with all other relatives. It is not the question of privacy but I feel there will be unnecessary and unhealthy competitions (mainly between kids). I am saying like this seeing the real people. But, I dont know what I would have done if I would have got a family like Ishan's. They are just wondeful. Not just because they are fun loving but because how each one tries to forget their past (even though it bothers them at times) and try to live life in a self less way. So I definately wouldnt mind staying together with such a family. But, havent seen one like this in reality though 😆

You are right, parents dont mind taking care of their grand children while their daughters/daughter-in-laws are busy with their work. Nothing wrong in that. Infact, they love to spend time with their grand children.

But there are some girls (I have seen many such) want their mom-in-law to come only after the baby is born. Before that, they dont welcome them (though they dont stop them from coming). I feel this nature is like taking advantage of grand parents' love, which is not healthy for any relation.

Oh ya, tell me about competition between kids and stuff! That was soo common in our families as well, infact me and my sis were saved cos we werent in India. But all my other cousins were brought up in India. So there was lot of tension going on as far as children's results, especially during 10th & 12th board exams. Can you believe there was cold war going on between real sisters and brothers, just bcos of the issue of children's marks ? If one brother's son excels in 10^th and his photo comes in the news paper for being school 1^st, 2^nd or 3^rd, the rest of them starts putting pressure on the smaller kids to overtake that! At the end, its just about parent's ego. And to be frank, all my cousins were scholars with their pics coming in the paper for 10^th & 12^th board exams. Aur isse RACE mein meri sis aur mein kahin nahin the 😆! Thats y perhaps no one had any problems with us 😆!

Originally posted by: -Veena-

**** Hey guys.. the forum rules are not to be quoting more than 3 times as it takes long to for the pages to load. Just thought I'd let you know.. 😳

Thanks Venna. I wasn't aware of that rule before. Will keep in mind now.

Originally posted by: t-akhter

Well I value joint family because there u can learn so much from others and elders. you don't have to think much about ur children as there are others who also take good care of them, u don't have to do much of the housework 😆 but the family member has to be cooperative like Ishaan's :p.... and lots of other advantage as u all mentioned

But one disadvantage is u don't get privacy, u won't be able to romance with ur spouse whenever or wherever u want 😆

my boyfriend belongs from a joint family and he has clearly stated that he will kick me out of the house if i ever want to move to a nuclear family but as long as he stays in abroad I will not have to worry about living in a JF 😆

@ red - 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ok ok... got the point yaar... 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: vishmewell

Actually there's a research article on mating intelligence by a professor from New Mexico. In that he discusses how a romantic behavior is driven by deep logic and also talks about how human minds have evolved to wrap reality....

I wish I remembered which journal it was so that I could share with you... 😛 sach mein yaar, I am not kidding... 😆😆
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Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*

... And am thankful to her for the way she brought up me and my sister, and the way she inculcated Indian culture and values in us.

...The truth is, in todays world there is no value for NICENESS, the more nice you are, people just take you for granted and expect more from you. Only after seriels like BBB & SGP, we ever thought of these JF perspectives.

Good or bad experiences are ones own perception. Someone on this forum wrote "When life throws a lemon at you make a lemonade".

Appu, your mom is a wise woman not to see her experiences in a negative light, instead she made best use of them to learn important lessons of life and instill those good values in you and your sister.

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*

I just love the way you have analysed and presented your entire view point using science👏! Even though I agree with what Pallavi said, after reading the above I am like 😕! Pls forget I talked about sun rising from west and stuff, now I dont want to be convinced about that 😆!

Btw one thing, can you give any scientific logic for why Ishan agreed to marry a girl like Suhana inspite of knowing everything about her, her past relationship with Sid, her nature and behaviour 😳? Ishan knows every member of his family very well, so dint he think how difficult it will be for them to adjust with a bahu like Suhana (who is totally different from Rajni & Disha) and how a girl like Suhana will adjust in his lifestyle 😳? Iss par bhi kuch science, logic vagaira shed karo pls 😆.

Arree yaar Appu... 😆Opposites attract!!! That's simple Physics yaar... 😆😆😆
Suhana had BF - Ishaan had none; Suhana short tempered - Ishaan cool headed; Suhana childish - Ishaan is matured; Suhana rich - Ishaan middle class; Suhana is pampered - Ishaan is down to earth and adjusting vaigaira vagaira... Aren't they opposites? 😆😆😆 Physics actually works in Love!!! 😆😆😆



Appu here are my answers for your uncle:

1. If he believes that God doesn't exist, he should also believe that electricity doesn't exist. Ask him to show you guys Electricity and then will you show him God.
Nail him down until he answers this Q.

2. First ask him if he believes in actions. Then tell him Karma = Actions (good or bad) and Actions have consequences.

3. Astrology = advanced math. The basis of astrology is Astronomy. It is all about the planetary positions and the calculations are based upon the time each of them take to complete one whole circle around the sun. Each planet maintains its own magnetic field, gases and generate certain energy (which is associated to certain mood of human brain) which impacts the planet earth (coz we dont know about other planets). The impact is measured by the distance from earth. So the astrologers predict moods/events ( more an intelligent guess). This is just a general idea. Astrology is complex . I recommend "Astrology A Cosmic Science" by Isabel M. Hickey

4. There is archeological evidence to prove Ramayan is real. Ask him to either go to NASA website or googleon "Adams Bridge".

There is archeological evidence that the city of Dwarka did exist.

I would suggest that he reads this book "The cradle of Civilization" by Georg Feuerstein, Subhash Kak, David Frawley... that will answer lot of his questions.

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*

Mating intelligence...wow, that sounds interesting 😳. Actually I havent heard of it before, would love to know more about it. What is it actually 😃?

It is Psychology... 😆😆

OMG...
I like your topics haar baar dear...
Will come soon and reply..
Im too sleepy now..
Soo I res....

Originally posted by: shwetha.spring

i was thinking may be suhaana's father thought suhaana knew abt the boy and family cos...

when suhaana's father brought so many other proposals for her..the kind of boys that she likes..she totally denied...and when she showed ishaan she quickly accepted...

now when a girl who was completly against getting married agrees to get married to a boy...he din think of anything else...

this is wat i feel...

KK never thought his daughter would measure everything with money. That's where his calculation went wrong.

Originally posted by: ~*simran*~

Thanks vishmewell

There have been numerous studies done in Swiss about mating intelligence; the positive mating vs. the negative mating etc.

Though I'm in med, I do hate it when they put everything into logic lol. In genetics there has also been a gene discovered by our Swiss scientists that say takes part in a man's infidelity actions. Though they say the woman carries it, it is rarely expressed.

Lol, sorry I digress ji.

Well... we must thank science, because they making every unexplainable, explainable. Until science confirmed cloning is possible, (the western world called Hindu scriptures as Mythology and still does) we have no evidence other than our own belief that Lord Krishna during Raas Leela he cloned himself to dance with all Gopikas at the same time...

In Ramayan they talk about guided missiles and nuclear weapons which western world never believed.

The Airplane of Ravan called "Pushpak" according to Ramayan had the capability of remote sensors to your mind, number of people on board to expand and contract accordingly, etc. Did western world even believe in Airplane until Wright Brothers thought they invented the airplane? In fact they only discovered in part the airplane technology.

Few years ago, NASA discovered that there is a bridge under sea connecting India and Sri Lanka which only proves Ramayan is not Myth but truth.

So it is good that scientists are attaching everything to logic and scientific evidence to make them eat their own words.