Originally posted by: hotdogg
A disclosure
... I have a dear cousin who walked out of a mini - Pramad type relationship (no infidelity, but almost entirely the rest of the fun stuff incl. marital rape)...and then lived through death / acid threats phase...in a tier 2 town in Gujarat...
...Full disclosure of her marriage condition to the community went a long way...And that's the way it typically works for people who have gone through this both in metros or tier 2 towns...unless you are in some backwaters, in which case you won't even make it out alive...
...So I am very much appalled by this track and what it stands for...It puts the monkey back on Kumud's back couched in the sophistry of TRP requirements, that's what happens in real life, Indian culture is like this only etc.
...Neways...I will still condone it...Brought some memories back...This is not the way she or us behaved...If we had she would have lost everything...
p.s.
My cousin is now happily married & settled...and that's all that matters...Show to chalta rahega..
p.p.s.
The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves, that we are underlings.
Hgg, that's what families often do, stand by their children and protect them. And it gives so much courage to me as a mother when I hear about girls who fight their abusers and make a new start.
But there is another ugly truth also, that we saw in the two cases I am going to talk about.
The so called samaj ke thekedars, the ones who have umpteen followers and clout and who thus have a high social responsibility were the ones who made statements that were completely callous.
One was the nirbhaya case that happened in Delhi and to date haunts us. And the famous Bapu who stated that she could have avoided it if only she had humbly folded her hands and requested the rapists not to rape her and called them bhaiyya and tied a rakhi.
Implying that it was because she resisted and fought she invited the brutality, or the people who implied that after all she was alone at night (9pm) with a boy...
The second case is of the journalist - a young girl who was robbed and murdered on her way back from work from a late night shift. And the essence of the press releases given by CM was that girls should not work late nights and should be back home on time.
The fact these esteemed speakers have quite a few supporters also is shocking but true. The market scene to me represented these type of people.
All families can do is let these people talk, but stand by their own children and support them. For today fortunately in our society we also have enough people who do realize that it's the abusers who are at fault and not the victim, and it's them that need to be punished and not the victims,
And that marriage on any terms is the only way to exist for a woman is a thought that is no longer acceptable for more and more people.
Edited by Arshics - 11 years ago
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