Originally posted by: smrth
Arshicritic,
Good post and dissections of each one's guilts. But I disagree on one point. She has not wronged Saras. She has wronged her own convictions which are based on certain fundamentals that her upbringing has set for herself. To judge them 'outdated', 'orthodox', or even 'hypocritical' (in face of her ready love), is not this in itself tad bit judgemental from a lofty shelf of a modernist view? Why may she not believe in her values even if they appear traditional? Have not same 'traditional' values served her well so far? Growing into a confident, compassionate and a well rounded personality? A personality who can clearly see in the motives and drivers of a person in rejecting her own self, and then, humanely empathises with him? And then, same 'outdated', 'traditional' mindset repairs that fecund modern mind...nourish and restore it to a road of its full potential as a great man? Even now, affording him pinnacle of full manhood, which earlier, he was prepared to renounce altogether as banal and base? In the consequence of this, if her entire consciousness is torn apart between her sense of betrayal to her own 'convictions' and her deep love for this man, who is now required to calm this deep agitation? Whose turn now it is to help her see 'modern' flexibility of a value system that may hold valid even with that accidental flourish because it occurred within the frame of an existing love? He attempts. But is it enough? To say twice, while she was barely listening, is enough? Or 'relapse' is a birthright? Immediately getting prepared for 'Saza' is enough manhood? If so, then who is wronging whom? And here she is not even blaming HIM, she is majorly blaming her own self!!
Smrth
Agree with you on she has wronged herself and does not blame him
But looking at it from his pov he has been wronged
Iwill draw the parallel of his rejection here he rejected her due to his own demons
I had nothing to do with her but it was unfair to her
She still stood by him supported him and helped him to change and love
Similarly I agree it ishis turn
He feelswronged her volte face the next dayis unfaif to him
But now its his turn to pull her out of this