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Copy pasting my reply on Reema's post.. sorry for the long essay..
Thank you Reema for talking about the essence of the scene and its impact on their love story rather than the blame game.. who was wrong ? who was right? I for one, am very happy with the whole treatment of the love making scene.. Why? Because it focused more on what led to it and its repercussions rather than the act itself.. This actually goes to show that the scene was put not to garner TRP's but to achieve something important as far as the storyline is concerned.. It added very key elements to the story and has placed the plot in a very interesting point, from where it could go anywhere.. A lot will be put to test , the characters individually and their ways of dealing with it... all the promises made to each other and their respective parents about trust being the basis of relationships, about supporting each other at all times.. self introspection, their individual take on love and relationships. will be under self scrutiny... '' Mardo ko moh ka shraap hota hai aur aurton ko maryada ka vardaan '' the different perspectives of a man and woman..will they understand each other's view point... ?? we'l see in the coming days..
Now coming to the scene itself..., Kumud putting the garland on him in my opinion, triggered the whole scene.. Saras was just expecting an affirmation but exchanging garlands on the auspicious night of full moon, took the whole thing on another level... Her washing his foot with her hands and wiping it with her dupatta was the next trigger.. i didn't feel it regressive at all.. if he can take her injured foot on his lap and tend to it as if he was caressing a flower, why is it regressive if she does it for him..? It is the willingness of a highly self esteemed woman to serve her man out of love that comes across through this scene for me..she made Saras feel that he has a special place in her heart..Loved his expression.. he was too overwhelmed to even stop her.. Wife touching her husband's feet is not regressive for me.. its just a gesture of respect from the woman's side for her man and if it gets reciprocated by the kind of love Saras has for Kumud, why should it be regressive.. I find it very beautiful.. I thought that scene was very SLB.. The effect that gesture had on Saras was like a point of no return... He viewed her in a completely different light from there on... His intentions very pure and very clear... he wanted to savour her, feel the emotion of loving and being loved.. '' her ehsaas, her jazbaat ko mehsoos karna chahta hoon'' he wanted to make love to her...he took her permission for that..When he was caressing her arms, it felt like his body was aching to make love to her... How could she resist those gentle caresses and those longing eyes.. she gave in...
Her remorse next day, all that crying and bitterness towards Saras was NOT an act of accussing Saras.. AT ALLL !!!! It was only and only the guilt of not being able to hold herself back and having that so important self -restraint that is instilled in her value system.. Kumud is progressive, bold, educated, modern and everything but the righteous girl brought up in a house where maan maryada is an asset that you are expected to protect at all times, is bound to judge her own actions.. Her father proudly says that they have drawn a line that they know she is never gonna cross.. wouldn't those words ring in her ears? She herself takes pride in saying that her father may not have earned a lot of money, but he has earned a lot of respect in life.. Wouldn't she fear that her act can jeopardize his respect in the society , if god forbid anyone comes to know of it..? More than anything else, she blames herself for not having the self control ..for turning the boon of ''maryada'' into a curse.. She doesn't blame Saras.. In her mind, men giving in to desire is permissible... but women doing the same is not permissible... Saras coming near her is agonizing her more because it reminds her of her own folly... She trusts him and his love immensely.. Its her own self that she doesn't trust... especially around him.. I feel bad for Saras.. he was in no two minds.. For him, the act of making love to her was as sacred as offering prayer in a temple.. he can never associate the word ''paap'' with it... I hope he tries to look at things from her point of view.. only he can at the moment.. she is too drowned in self remorse to see anything straight or even cherish the most beautiful moment of her life..
Thank you Reema for talking about the essence of the scene and its impact on their love story rather than the blame game.. who was wrong ? who was right? I for one, am very happy with the whole treatment of the love making scene.. Why? Because it focused more on what led to it and its repercussions rather than the act itself.. This actually goes to show that the scene was put not to garner TRP's but to achieve something important as far as the storyline is concerned.. It added very key elements to the story and has placed the plot in a very interesting point, from where it could go anywhere.. A lot will be put to test , the characters individually and their ways of dealing with it... all the promises made to each other and their respective parents about trust being the basis of relationships, about supporting each other at all times.. self introspection, their individual take on love and relationships. will be under self scrutiny... '' Mardo ko moh ka shraap hota hai aur aurton ko maryada ka vardaan '' the different perspectives of a man and woman..will they understand each other's view point... ?? we'l see in the coming days..
Now coming to the scene itself..., Kumud putting the garland on him in my opinion, triggered the whole scene.. Saras was just expecting an affirmation but exchanging garlands on the auspicious night of full moon, took the whole thing on another level... Her washing his foot with her hands and wiping it with her dupatta was the next trigger.. i didn't feel it regressive at all.. if he can take her injured foot on his lap and tend to it as if he was caressing a flower, why is it regressive if she does it for him..? It is the willingness of a highly self esteemed woman to serve her man out of love that comes across through this scene for me..she made Saras feel that he has a special place in her heart..Loved his expression.. he was too overwhelmed to even stop her.. Wife touching her husband's feet is not regressive for me.. its just a gesture of respect from the woman's side for her man and if it gets reciprocated by the kind of love Saras has for Kumud, why should it be regressive.. I find it very beautiful.. I thought that scene was very SLB.. The effect that gesture had on Saras was like a point of no return... He viewed her in a completely different light from there on... His intentions very pure and very clear... he wanted to savour her, feel the emotion of loving and being loved.. '' her ehsaas, her jazbaat ko mehsoos karna chahta hoon'' he wanted to make love to her...he took her permission for that..When he was caressing her arms, it felt like his body was aching to make love to her... How could she resist those gentle caresses and those longing eyes.. she gave in...
Her remorse next day, all that crying and bitterness towards Saras was NOT an act of accussing Saras.. AT ALLL !!!! It was only and only the guilt of not being able to hold herself back and having that so important self -restraint that is instilled in her value system.. Kumud is progressive, bold, educated, modern and everything but the righteous girl brought up in a house where maan maryada is an asset that you are expected to protect at all times, is bound to judge her own actions.. Her father proudly says that they have drawn a line that they know she is never gonna cross.. wouldn't those words ring in her ears? She herself takes pride in saying that her father may not have earned a lot of money, but he has earned a lot of respect in life.. Wouldn't she fear that her act can jeopardize his respect in the society , if god forbid anyone comes to know of it..? More than anything else, she blames herself for not having the self control ..for turning the boon of ''maryada'' into a curse.. She doesn't blame Saras.. In her mind, men giving in to desire is permissible... but women doing the same is not permissible... Saras coming near her is agonizing her more because it reminds her of her own folly... She trusts him and his love immensely.. Its her own self that she doesn't trust... especially around him.. I feel bad for Saras.. he was in no two minds.. For him, the act of making love to her was as sacred as offering prayer in a temple.. he can never associate the word ''paap'' with it... I hope he tries to look at things from her point of view.. only he can at the moment.. she is too drowned in self remorse to see anything straight or even cherish the most beautiful moment of her life..
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