Ahem and love: wanting more of her - Page 2

Originally posted by: sbp1971

Res.

Fantastic analysis Swasthi.

Agree with you completely. AHem was so excited to show her off, and when she gave the reason that she also wanted to meet his friends for changing her mind, he was the happiest at that moment.

Only thing is in his excitement he forgot the true nature of his wife. He forgot that his wife is naturally shy, and has never even met his friends before. It was fine for him to expect her to be excited as him, but he does need to realize that Gopi is made differently from other girls.

Yes his frustration was very justified, and his anger is legendary. He let his temper get the better of him and ended up hurting her in this anger. Had he been cooler he might have been able to get his point across calmly and she in turn would have voiced her own fears to reassure him that she did want to be with him and go to the party with him.

Is it okay to want more from his wife? Yes most definitely okay, but he has not said this in words, he shows that he cares and wants to be with her only, but he hasn't communicated his wants and needs more clearly. He assumed she would understand, but he also needs to understand that Gopi needs to be told what exactly he wants from her.

Can she not be there for him? To this I would say that she is there for him more than anyone else, but that is to make his day go smoothly. His wanting her in more ways than just a dutiful wife, again he has not voiced this yet.

Once he was calm, he realized this also, but things are already muddled enough, but now his anger and Gopi's tears are being taken advantage of by the third person and it will take more than just "Sorry" to bring her back to the comfort level they have achieved with each other.

The biggest problem in this relationship is lack of communication between husband and wife, and once this is realized things will become more clear and they will be able to voice their wants, needs and fears to each other.

Once this bridge is crossed nothing will separate them again.

Agree, Nazim was at his best today.

Excellent swasthi, shilpa!!! Loved your analysis..

he is more concerned that she is not spending time with him, and alredy anitha is hovering him like anything, when ever he looks for her, she is more likely giving to family needs..

he got angry, may be later he would have said sorry to her,, but damage is done, the Psycho entered.. I don't how this to goingo to close the communication gap b/w them, if they find solution for that there would be no more tears for gopi..

Originally posted by: Aish3003

Yes, he has every right to demand her attention... If only he hadn't screwed up the ending... the rant was so dreamy...

he told her to go and take care of everyone as they are more important... He was angry because he wanted her to himself... for one evening and she didn't give it to him. Again Idiot Gopi. As Rashi was shown to say to herself "How do I explain to Gopi, that she is being a fool" well..

If only, he hadn't said the last two sentences, it would have been perfect. Honestly... even after the second last sentence I had hope but then he ruined it.

And yes, Nazim was fab today.

Thank you👏

Originally posted by: doc4ever

Wonderful take on the episode today Swasthi...👏⭐️

Your comparison between the two scenarios of him showing his anger towards his loved ones was very well described...reflects his comfort level with each of them that he is able to behave like this with them...it was justified in both cases...one for the worry of his brother...and the other for his wife not giving him enough time and attention...today was definitely a beginning of Ahem starting to communicate his feelings towards Gopi...just a PoV...😳

His comparison between Anita and Gopi was arguably not the best thing he did...then again, Anita played her game very well today...she cornered him...one thing will give Ahem credit for and that he did not entertain Anita's sorrows too much, he left her after telling her to control herself...

Gopi, arguably, again, did not do the best thing either by not giving attention to her husband...agreed she was hesitating as she was insecure whether she would be able to fit in or not at the party, but considering she and Ahem have also become really close friends in their marriage...shouldn't she have voiced her fears to him and told him how she was feeling?

Again, it's just a PoV...😊

The lack of communication is what led to this misunderstanding...😕

Koshi's planning hereafter is going to aid Gopi in helping her keep a balance between her family and her husband and also teach Ahem how life without Gopi would be like...A very clever game being played here...😉

Yes, Nazim's acting was fantastic today...👏

@Shilpa: Beautifully interpreted too! ⭐️

Originally posted by: swasthi

Our pleasure.

Agree with your points raised too.

The coming days play out will be interesting to watch. Ahem will have to eat his words and actions for not allowing Gopi to pack away his jacket or make him his green tea. He will find her natural and deliberate, by Koshi, distancing from him will be hard to deal with as we know he cannot live without her. Hope this spurs him on to bursting point.

Originally posted by: varshu27

fabulous analysis swasthi...today was an example of what gohem lack as a couple...communication...if they had talked to each other and let the other know their fears and needs...none of this would have happened...and anitha would not have been able to do anything...hopefully this will be a lesson learnt for both ahem and gopi in the future...

Brillant analysis as always!!!amazingly well put together!!

Originally posted by: -neela-

Excellent analysis Swasthi ⭐️ 👏 And Shilpaben, great reply ⭐️ 👏

You both have outlined to a perfect T what Ahem and Gopi both are feeling and needing. They just need to communicate with each other not just through their eyes but by voicing them as well...

Originally posted by: sbp1971

Res.

Fantastic analysis Swasthi.

Agree with you completely. AHem was so excited to show her off, and when she gave the reason that she also wanted to meet his friends for changing her mind, he was the happiest at that moment.

Only thing is in his excitement he forgot the true nature of his wife. He forgot that his wife is naturally shy, and has never even met his friends before. It was fine for him to expect her to be excited as him, but he does need to realize that Gopi is made differently from other girls.

Yes his frustration was very justified, and his anger is legendary. He let his temper get the better of him and ended up hurting her in this anger. Had he been cooler he might have been able to get his point across calmly and she in turn would have voiced her own fears to reassure him that she did want to be with him and go to the party with him.

Is it okay to want more from his wife? Yes most definitely okay, but he has not said this in words, he shows that he cares and wants to be with her only, but he hasn't communicated his wants and needs more clearly. He assumed she would understand, but he also needs to understand that Gopi needs to be told what exactly he wants from her.

Can she not be there for him? To this I would say that she is there for him more than anyone else, but that is to make his day go smoothly. His wanting her in more ways than just a dutiful wife, again he has not voiced this yet.

Once he was calm, he realized this also, but things are already muddled enough, but now his anger and Gopi's tears are being taken advantage of by the third person and it will take more than just "Sorry" to bring her back to the comfort level they have achieved with each other.

The biggest problem in this relationship is lack of communication between husband and wife, and once this is realized things will become more clear and they will be able to voice their wants, needs and fears to each other.

Once this bridge is crossed nothing will separate them again.

Agree, Nazim was at his best today.

Originally posted by: Sandy914

Excellent swasthi, shilpa!!! Loved your analysis..

he is more concerned that she is not spending time with him, and already anitha is hovering him like anything, when ever he looks for her, she is more likely giving to family needs..

he got angry, may be later he would have said sorry to her,, but damage is done, the Psycho entered.. I don't how this to going to close the communication gap b/w them, if they find solution for that there would be no more tears for gopi..