Is What We Are Doing Right? - Page 3

Originally posted by: tangam

@ bold but she was also bigining to understand may be she does not ...ie send Gopi with the flask on his jog and it backfired she voices her doubts iether to herself or Parag (dont remember)

Besides this reflects every parents dilema esp moms as they give their all and the child is so dependent and then suddenly the are adult...and this child who you helped walk has disided he preffers running after all...It is a journey where child pulls away adn mom lets go...a happy medium needs to be found some fail some succeed.

i agree a happy medium needs to be established...ahem needs to sort himself out first...only then can they go forward and find a balance...

Originally posted by: shaina.sharma

yeah i have got another point too..

remember at the start..

koki trying to dominate gopi in the start to show that she controls her son..

i think koki got used to dominate both the persons..her son nad her DIl

and all of a sudden both are started rebelling against her and starts to hide things from her.

Yes. And Gopi and Ahem hiding something from her is totally new. Also Ahem seems to be missing work and he seems to give a damn about it. This is worrying her.

but koki should understand that they cant share everything whats happining in their life..they are a married couple.

She will. Very soon. But this is just the beginning where Ahem himself has not confessed to his feelings. So to Kokila it just looks like something fishy.

i think koki got used to get to know everything in life that she is not getting adjusted to their new lifestyle.

Agree.

Let it be that she is curious of the secret...but hellow so what if they are maintaining a secret...

she trusts her son a lot..and cant she think that if he is involved then it must be something good, and not any rashi kalakari.

Ahh.. I beg to differ. She trusts Ahem to do what she says. She knows that Ahem does not know about Rashi and that Gopi is now seen with Rashi all the time. She is worried that Gopi may do something and cause problems between herself and Ahem. Koki will never want that.

the way she said to them that why are they standing here leaving the movie..infact she shoudl be happy that both are intrested in spending time with each other than seeing a dumb movie.

and also what i dint get is..whats the big deal in sending them to sit with the family...

Seriously i need explanatipn for that ..i mean who wil ask a young couple to go and sit beside family leaving their privacy.

Even baa had the sense that young couple deserves some privacy then why did koki dint caught that.

Is curious about their secret makes her make them sit with the family..what is the logic in that.

Her mind is now crowded with the fact that there is something going on and all her actions are colored by that. She wants to keep a watchful eye on both 😉

she should be glad that they are happy sitting sepeartely..and also the way she dropped btween raji...

She too knows that they are going in a rough patch...even hetal was worried for raji..even though she was angry at rashi too..because sshe knew that those are the two who should spend their lives together.

cant koki give her a chance to sit with jigar, and make their misunderstandings clear.

Again, Koki is not trusting Rashi still. She will not want Rashi to get into the good books if she is not changed. Moreover it is not fair to Jigar. Now that Hetal seems to be melting, it is only Koki who can make sure that her nephew has a good chance at his marriage.

it may show that koki is curious about sceret..and i agree that she may be curious..but even curious behaviour do not justify some acts of her.

This is my POV...

i just dont want cvs to ruin koki character...she is a great actresss...and she looks good in a non partial way..

she should learn that she already did a damage to ahem life..no need to add more

Originally posted by: soapbubble

I would rather look at situations and see clearly what is happening rather than align myself with one character whether they're right or wrong. IMO this is misplaced loyalty and does no one any good.

I was against Ahem when he was mistreating Gopi.
I was against Rashi when she tried to mess with Gopi's life.
I am against Urmila for her self serving selfishness.
I am against Koki when she lets her ego and her insecurities take priority over what should be a very natural desire to see her son and DIL happy.

I don't hate her, naturally. Koki is a complete package - ego, fairness, peremptoriness, unpleasant, rude, arrogant, just, kind, loving -- all this is rolled into one person. But she behaves so immaturely we HAVE to say it, right?

Bubble

Originally posted by: shaina.sharma

and also what i dint get is..whats the big deal in sending them to sit with the family...

Seriously i need explanatipn for that ..i mean who wil ask a young couple to go and sit beside family leaving their privacy.

Originally posted by: -Predator-

Hi Shaina!

No need for sorry babe, we're all here to discuss what has been happening in the show :)

I understand what you mean, and how you're concerned regarding Ahem's unusual childhood. But Shina, you know why Kokila did this? She did it, because her own husband, is out of the family business, he doesn't know anything apart from music and buying kites.

Kokila therefore didn't want Ahem to turn out the same way as his father, and she remained strict with him for his good.

I totally agree that Ahem didn't get a loving childhood because he didn't play Ludo (LOL). But we also know how much Kokila loves Ahem. In the past episodes, we have heard Baa and Hetal complementing on how much Kokila used to take care of Ahem, dress him and blah blah.

Personally, I feel Ahem has has the right childhood. He got to be a little free, and he had to concentrate on his studies too. With his mother's pressure, he had to do it more, because he has his father's genes too, which without Kokila's pressure, would make Ahem go down.

Indeed, I respect Kokila in all senses for what she has done for Ahem to date.

Ahem should always love her the way he has till now.

Again, regarding the whole Ahem-not-accepting Gopi thing, then it's definitely clear how much effort Kokila put to bring Gohem close. We cannot forget that Kokila has had a different life. She has lived a life full of traditions. Not of young age love. She does not majorly have the knowledge of how to play cupid between a love couple. She tried her best to give in, but it didn't work out. And knowing how stubborn her son was, she didn't want to hurt him more. (First she hurt him by getting him married to a girl he didn't want to)

Shaina, I am definitely sure that Gopi-Ahem will understand Kokila's plight, rather than misunderstanding her that she is against their love relation.

no no...goehm wil never misunderstand her. I really appreciate ahem for thinking about koki feelings..when she went away...he trulely loves his mom and i want him to continue that.

ahem is the only support for koki to live in.

and i know that due to parag she have been strict on ahem but i wont agree that she should keep him so burderend in work.

all ahem wil see now is just work and disciplane in his life now..what if at some point he gets frustrated with his life..

i know that koki did it for ahem and his life...but a little happiness should be deserved in his life too.

if she dint get the respct from parag then ahem too ding got a father love.

Because of her behaviour today he dint consider parag in his life at all. i know that parag is a careless guy but it doesnt mean that his right as a father should be snatched away from him.

well all i say is u are looking from koki view and i am looking from ahem view.(eee i never thought i would look from ahem view in my life..what more worst can happen)😆

but koki playing cupid could have worked more if she remained strict with ahem..like she is doing now...even then she was worried about his work more than his personal life and even today she is doing the same

Great post 😃

Okay let me get my opinion in here. As I see it most of you are of the opinion that Koki is against GoHem's growing closeness and that this is the reason she is behaving in this way. Well I don't see it like this. In my opinion Koki has noticed that something fishy is going on in regards to Rashi. She has been unwilling to get her back from the outset and then had to do it because she promised Gopi. Now Rashi is back in the house and Koki knows best what Rashi did to distress and ruin her sister's life and how Gopi has never seen that and still tried to help Rashi with everything. So for her the fact that Rashi is sticking so close to Gopi and Gopi is doing the same is more then enough to get suspcious. Also I am sure that she has noticed the fact that even Ahem seems to be into this Rashi business. It was more then obvious that Ahem lied about Jigar's meeting being chanceled and the whole Mandir and Cinema thingy was fishy in this regards as well. She might not have been against it, if she hadn't suspected Rashi being involved in the whole thing and also she didn't wanted Gopi to go, because she is still not well. I mean seriously. The doctor in the hospital told her to bed rest for a months and by all love for the SNS timeline wonder I don't think a month has passed yet. She was scolded for being to careless with Gopi and now she is scolded because she is careful with her, this is getting silly.

Before the whole Rashi business kicked off and it was about her behaviour towards Ahem taking care of his wife and not taking his working responsibilities serious. Well Koki has always said that work should become all else, which might not be the best way to see life but better then other options. She didn't have a problem with ahem caring for Gopi but with the fact that he did not trust her and Hetal to take care of her. In his innoncent gopi-focused way he actually insulted her slightly. She told him more then once that she would look after Gopi's every need while he is working and by him coming home early, going to work late and calling 10times inbetween he actually implies that she can't. No wonder Koki got pissed off with that. If he would have worked normal office times (not overtime or anything) and came home for doctor appointments only then she surely wouldn't have made such a fuss about it. Ahem needs to learn to balance his private (Gopi) time with his work time and everything will be fine.

Also I agree that Koki is worried for her DIL and son in the moment. Especially her DIL because she is not well. Also as we pointed out she does not know how close Ahem has really gotten to Gopi and what reason stand behind it. She is properly worried as I am that he will mess it up and break Gopi's heart yet again, while doing so. You all asume or are sure that Ahem loves Gopi, well I won't disagree, but I will say that I don't believe for a second that he is aware of his changed feelings or will accept them so easily. So still something to look out for.

@Shaina regarding koki's attemps to bring Gohem together in the past. I don't agree with your opinion dear I am sorry. I think if Koki would have really tried to push Gopi onto Ahem, Ahem would only have resented her more. Koki knew that Ahem very well. And lets be honest if Koki would have pushed Ahem to spent more time with Gopi he would have snapped at Gopi and blamed her for the distance in his and his mothers relationship. Ahem was a total mummy's boy and therefore Koki had to balance her trying to get Ahem to spent time with Gopi and spending time with him herself to keep him happy. (if that makes sense because somehow I don't find the right words to describe it).

Also regarding Ahem's childhood. Well we are assuming that the only thing he did is learning because of a few statments. I agree that such a attitude can be harmful to a child and that this shouldn't be done!!! However I am not yet convinced that Koki did more then put schoolwork before fun, meaning that after the schoolwork was done Ahem could play as well. And just because he doesn't know Ludo doesn't mean he didn't play other games.

I would really be intrested to learn about Ahem's and Koki's past. I am sure something must have happened there to result in their behaviour.

Great post but i disagree completely...sorry but koki is acting childish..always comes in between goham...our aham hasn't done anything so far romantic till date, but koki still kept annoyingly close watch over her son...why? aham is her son, a man who has physical emotions and who got an independent individuality...koki should respect this..i know koki is strict because parag was a failure in looking after family, but aham has come this far..how is koki thinking that aham will go crazy over his wife in just few months?koki is no child and she should know that husband wife need privacy and if they kept on getting disturbed at every other second, they will react..

i don't know whether the above made any sense st all, but koki is making me cry...

@ Kristin was wondering where you were at when Koki has the forum on fire😎

Originally posted by: tangam

@ Kristin was wondering where you were at when Koki has the forum on fire😎

😆 to be honest I couldn't be bothered to reply in all of the threads bashing my heroine. Knowing myself I sure would have written an essay (like I did now) on why they are all wrong. So deceided to only do it a little. Soon if the cv's are willing and not hell bend on pissing me off majorly they all will understand what Koki is really doing in the moment

Originally posted by: d-luna88

😆 to be honest I couldn't be bothered to reply in all of the threads bashing my heroine. Knowing myself I sure would have written an essay (like I did now) on why they are all wrong. So deceided to only do it a little. Soon if the cv's are willing and not hell bend on pissing me off majorly they all will understand what Koki is really doing in the moment