Is What We Are Doing Right? - Page 5

Originally posted by: hansa2

u r right shaina im also feel the same but sometime i feel that im saying may be bcs of gopi vows that she is doing this to not do any sine

At the end of the day it's just a bit of spice the CV's have cooked up to make the serial interesting...it will be good to see how Aham the serial momma's boy overcome this Kokila.

I have been thinking how to phrase my thoughts ever since I saw this post yesterday but I just couldn't find the correct words! I was upset after watching Koki in the ME and when I rewatched it, it just fueled my anger, so I decided to wait and see today's episode before making any further comments, but I was once again disappointed!
I wasn't the biggest Koki fan in the beginning, she was shown to be over bearing and controlling from the get go and because of personal reasons I absolutely hate people like that who want everyone and everything under their control and are unwilling to give in to anything other than their own selves! She chose Gopi for Ahem without any consultation from either of them just because she knew from the second she saw Gopi that she would be able to keep her controlled under her thumb! She was extremely harsh at her in the beginning because she wanted her to know from the first day who was the boss and Gopi being the scared person she is became completely subservient to her, just like she wanted! In the beginning she truly did not care how the GoHem relationship progressed as long as she had both her son and DIL under her wing! Even when Ahem slapped Gopi (and that to because Koki decided to hide the most crucial truth about Gopi's education from him), she was less concerned about Gopi and more concerned about her image, she actually told Ahem to be careful not to leave a mark on Gopi, I swear when I watched that I felt like punching someone! We're living in the 21st century, who puts up with these days? Even when Gopi washed Ahem's laptop and Ahem decided to leave the house in anger, she made Gopi stand in front of the whole family and take back her vows! She did not release them from their marriage because she was terrified that it would ruin her reputation, but rather left both of them to suffer individually! She might have taken her vows back, but they were still legally married and neither could have moved forward in their life with that over their head! In the serial world things started working out after a while, but putting this in perspective in the real world, once again it does not happen!
But anyways, moving forward, it took a couple months, but Gopi's patience and suffering finally paid off and Koki started to realize that she had nothing to fear from her! Only once she was sure that Gopi was completely harmless, she started treating her like a human being and then eventually a daughter! Now, Gopi is my favorite character and even though she can be hair splittingly stupid at times, I sympathize greatly with her because of the deprived life she lived, and how she became a pawn in everyone's schemes and games that caused her so much hurt! So when Gopi-Koki relationship started getting better (when Koki feeds her after she faints during the Teej fast), I started liking Koki because I felt that Gopi had finally found a mother in her, and even if she can't get Ahem's love, at least she has something going for her! I started liking her more and more after that because she truly supported Gopi after that, and after Nani's departure when she finally started to try and get GoHem together, I felt that finally a saas that breaks the tradition, someone who is actually trying to get her son and DIL together rather than breaking them apart!
One of my absolutely favorite scene of hers was when before the Swiss track she was trying to convince Ahem to take Gopi with him. Now a lot of people are saying that Koki is angry at GoHem getting closer because it is going to start affecting his work, but this is also not within Koki's character, at least now the one the CVs were depicting a couple months ago. In the scene I am referring to, Koki gives Ahem the reference of Chirag. She tells him that she knows that he considers his kaka his guru in business, so why can't he do the same thing in his personal life. She asked Ahem to see how Chirag holds the business with one hand and Hetal with the other. For him one goes with the other, and that was how she wanted Ahem to become! The relationship between Chirag and Hetal have always been shown to be extremely close and comfortable, where they face things together and always have each other's back. In fact they mentioned during the Swiss track that Chirag used to take Hetal with him in all his business trips so she could see the world (one of the main reason Ahem wanted Koki to come with him, so that she could witness everything his father was never able to give her!). That made me fall in love with Koki all over again because that Koki was sincere. So what happened to her?
I get that she is emotionally withdrawn and doesn't really know what it means to be in a loving and healthy relationship with her husband, but doesn't that mean that she should want the complete opposite for her kids? What mother would want her kids to suffer the way in their marital life like she did? She should be happy and encouraging the growing closeness between Gopi and Ahem, but we're seeing the total opposite! Now she has a problem with them even talking to each other, let alone sitting together! I know it must be the hardest thing for her to let go of some of her control in Ahem's life, but did she seriously thing that GoHem will be spending the rest of their lives at odds with each other? Is that what she wanted? Because that way she could always have the upper hand? Is her control more important than her son's happiness? Ahem is no longer just her son, he is someone's husband and he has a responsibility to her! He is realizing it a year too late, but this is so long over due! Us viewers have waited 1.5 years for this closeness, that's a really long time, and then to find someone who we thought was our supported become the biggest roadblock in our way? It's a really bitter pill to swallow, especially because Koki's motives just aren't consistent with the character she is supposed to be portraying!
I think the first time we saw the saas coming out of her after the initial months was when Ahem stood up for Gopi for the first time during the education track! That was the first time he went against her wishes and favored his wife, and that stunned her! The flame I think was lit all the way back then, but it turned into a full blown fire after the accident when all of sudden Gopi became Ahem's entire world! I don't think Kokila ever imagined them getting this close to each other, maybe she truly doesn't understand what it really means to be married, I don't know...but her disapproval over the change in Ahem's attention became glaringly obvious day by day!
And everything came to a blow during the ME where she literally questioned, taunted and disapproved of everything Ahem did. What is so wrong in wanting to sit with your wife for a couple hours? Or going out and getting a bottle of water with her? Or talking to her? Because she seemed to have a problem with all of these! I mean even if she thinks that they're hiding something from her, she should trust them both enough by now to know that they will let her know once they feel the time is right, and even if they don't, they're a married couple, they're allowed some secrets of their own! I just don't understand the backward flow of her character. Where is the woman who we thought was above all this pettiness? Are the CVs suffering from selective amnesia where her character is involved because this is all entirely way too annoying and confusing!
And to make things even worse, the upcoming kite cutting episode will be coming up this week, and from the little bit we saw in SBB, Koki will be losing even more brownie point with us! Because no matter what the situation is, you do not yell at your 27 year old about being incompetent and careless in front of your whole neighborhood, especially not over some stupid kite competition, seriously no one will stand up for that! And then there are rumors/tips flying about her sending Ahem away, and even though I was hoping against hope till last week that it will all be a ploy to bring GoHem closer to each other, now I am not sure about it at all! She truly seems against the idea of them getting closer to each other, which seriously hurts me!
I know that this could be a huge misunderstanding that the CVs are trying to create in our head and might throw us all off by bring back the old Koki again, and I am still kind of holding out for that miracle! For the first time I won't mind being wrong, in fact I'll even take a "I told you so" from all the Koki lovers if it means that she'll go back to being her kick ass character, and doesn't try to intentionally distance GoHem! Honestly I started watching this show for them, and I think for all of us it is high time we're given something concrete when it comes to their relationship...they've seriously faced more than enough hurdles to last them a life time!

And this has become a whole blown essay, I seriously apologize for that, feel free to ignore my babbling because I am not even sure if they make any sense, but I just felt like I needed to get my thoughts out! And for those few who actually made it all the way through, well, you're awesome! :)

nice post

@kamjal and Allbut1 sorry dears I care to disagree

I don't think that Koki has a problem with losing some of her control over Ahem and Gopi, because lets be honest the first person they would asked and look for aproval is Koki and will always remain Koki. Her problem is that Ahem is unable to keep balance in his life. Caring for Gopi is not the problem in Koki's eyes. You could see that she didn't have the slightest of problem with the time Ahem spent in the hospital looking after his wife. Her problem is that he seems unable to understand that Gopi is better now. She is at home and cared for by family members, giving him the oportunity to do his work, which he didn't. Making her angry.

Now Koki knows that something is going on and that Rashi is involved. We shouldn't forget how much of Rashi's past deeds she knows and the fact that Rashi has been more then willing to set Gopi up for distruction. So as a worried mother she can't just let things run. She is worried that Rashi is again using Gopi and that Gopi will be the one, who pays the price for it in the end. That Ahem has deceided to help the whole thing isn't sitting well with her and I get it. Its a really stupid thing to do!!! I mean trying to force someone to care for their wife again. There is no misunderstanding between Raji. Rashi has tricked her way into Jigar's life and Jigar has found out about it. He has found out that the only reason the woman, who he loves, is married to him is his money. So he is heartbroken and angry and he wants her to make up for her mistakes alone, so that he sees that she is serious about it. But Rashi can't do it and gets Gohem into things or better Gopi, who got Ahem into it.

Also lets not forget that if gohem's marriage really works out in the end, Koki will be the winner. She has said from the outset that Gopi would be the perfect match to Ahem and of they fall in love and have a real relationship she will be proven right!!!!

Regarding Koki's pushing Ahem so hard just because of the industry share he holds. I mean are you serious? Koki is a very proud woman, which isn't the best of trades sometimes but heyho we all have our faults. It is true that her little family didn't have to starve or anything but she also said that she has to make an account for every rupee she has spent to Chirag and that must have been very humilationg for her. Just imagine that you want to buy a present or new clothes for your child and then have to explain, why you spent so much money and if you couldn't find something cheaper or just having a eybrow raised at you, telling you without words that you spent to much. Yes if Paragh would have been successful she wouldn't have minded that much and why should she? He would then have been able to support his family without the charity of his older brother.

Lastly about her initial behaviour towards Gopi. Yes it was not alright and yes she wasn't lovable at the time but don't forget that the cv's deceided to change her charakter around, using Gopi as the one doing it. Koki has changed and we shouldn't blame her over and over again for her past, because lets be honest we don't do the same with Ahem. After all it was Ahem, who slapped Gopi, humilated her, scolded her for no reason and throwed her out!!!

Okay that came out quite jumbled I fear😆

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

At the end of the day it's just a bit of spice the CV's have cooked up to make the serial interesting...it will be good to see how Aham the serial momma's boy overcome this Kokila.

@Allbut1- Wow. That is really an essay.

its fantastic koki a excellent motherand so on,but shes partial,she hids kinjals jewellery nonsense from family,did not even say ahem the truth,always wants her way with dil,scolded gopi to watch tv,they should always be busy ,barging in their bedroom,even when they do speak in front of her she wants to know what happen.does something need to happen for them to speak.ahems concern for wife is normal after injury,like any other husband.she seems to run buisness from home dictates what ahem does.maybe her relationship with parag is not good but does it have to affect all.she dominates all in modi bhawan even keys to house was un her hands ,was hetal not responsible to have keys after all she is big DIL.she knows so much about rashi why does she not expose her.all in all koki is star of show and show about dominating women,koki,rashi,urmilla and their skills to be lord and master

cvs are very clever potraying kokila's character i always thought that one day kokila will be the obstacle for gohem main reason is the method she selected gopi has her dau-in -law