Gopi and Ahem - UpDate - Page 2

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Gawd help me. What is there to fall in love with someone like Gopi?

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Ahem might come across as a jerk but people, he was forced to marry a woman he didn't like or with whom he had anything in common! Just cause of all of you like Gopi, doesn't mean he has too. I would NEVER marry someone like Gopi. She's a dunce. Ahem is an educated man who has seen the world, he does not an illiterate wife who only cooks and cleans. She has NOTHING to offer him. Look people humbleness does not make a personality. Gopi is a BORE. She is whinner. She is coward and lacks confidence. She cannot take a stand. I have no respect for people who are so blind they cannot see when they are being used or abused.

What is wrong is Ahem should not take his anger out on Gopi. He needs to face the fact that his mother is the one to blame. She is the reason that Anita's life was ruined, Umaang ruined Kinjal's and her own reputation went down the drain. She showed no respect for what her children wanted as partners. Her children are the ones who are going to sleep with these partners, not her. I am sorry but I am appalled and disgusted at watching Kokila force Kinjal to marry Dhaval. Just because she is her mother does not mean she owns her life. Did this woman not get it? The whole reason her daughter did what she did was to avoid marrying someone whom she did not like. The mother should at least get it by now.

Kokila is basically cutting off her nose to spite her face. Hopefully she will regret her decision.

yaar if u dont like them.... then dont watch them ...... nobody is forcing u..... if u have a problem with either gopi or ahem and and like the other person.... then it is understandable for u watching it n complaining about it....u got a problem with both..... then dont watch it yaar..... we ppl here watch the show bcoz we like both of them..... some at least one of them...so please .....one more thing.....not everyone is born as an ultra modern person n not everyone can be sophisticasted wearing minis and dresses...and not only person like whom u describe are said be a personality.... personality is made from the person's character....... she is quiet, she is humble.....etc.... but when have u seen her whine on d show....???..n wat d u mean she cant stand up for anything....... she has stood up for kinjal when she faced the wrath of the whole family.......n whenever some ppl do any mistakes she always covers up for them ...she saved the whole family's reputation quite a no of times....the dandiya dance....the paint changing problem n recently she saved it again by covering up for kinal running away etc etc ..she is quick thinker too it's not her fault she is illiterate..... even though she wanted 2 learn things.... her mami didn't let her to do so..... if ahem has a problem with her being illiterate...... he can very well teach her how 2 read n write...send her 2 personality development classes if he has a problem with her confidence n all .....the problem is dat she is too traditional.... but dat's how most f the mother in laws in india like the girl 2 be..... traditional..... bcoz they consider dat if a girl is very much worldly n too outspoken n modern then she may even try 2 break up the family...... or cause their reputation 2 be damaged.... n we dont even need 2 consider someone else for example......we have rashi n kinjal here.... haven't they caused enough damage 2 the whole family.....again n again...n ahem married his mother's choice without even saying a word... if he was man enough he should have taken a stand against the family against the marriage..... like kinjal did(even though she was wronged....she did take a stand...) ahem is a perosn who is a self confident educated individual isnt it.... then he should have left the whole family and went with anita if he only wanted 2 marry her n live with her.....but he did not do it.... sh ewent by his mother's choice.... so he has 2 live with her.... this stry is about gopi n how she copes up with her life....n how her husband who once didnt like her comes 2 love her........ so if u dont like it then dont watch it......n u know wat kokila making kinjal get married 2 dhawal by force was right.....at first the girl should have atleast said 2 the guy dat she was in love with someone else....she let the whole drama go till her marriage..... she chose 2 take the wrong path instead of the right one..... her family's entire reputation came down.... again the girl was too blinded in love dat the family's reputation came down further....... dawal accepted her with another guy's child.... the family wanted 2 give the girl 2 someone who would take of her n her child too.... dhawal came as a savior for them...so they had no other choice.... n again the girl could have told dat she wasnt pregnant at the wrong time..... the girl wants 2 stay with the family n yet wants 2 b so selfish dat she will only want things 2 happen in her way...... dat is expecting too much from life.... so kokila forcing kinjal 2 marry dhawal was right in every way... the girl needs 2 live her life for others too....she spoiled her brother's life by making her SIL look bad in front of him all the time...she needs 2 become selfless to a lil bit too......

n one more thing nobody asked u to marry a person like gopi....one thing i would like 2 say is educaton is not all dat is needed in life and being too confident modern n worldly is not everything in life...... ..... being humble n traditional too is important....

sorry if i was rude.....but i wanted 2 get thro 2 u.... so i told it straightforwardly.....

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

They are many who would treasure her innocence and want to protect her. Many husbands want a wife for housework and love that's it. Some want more but others don't.

@red.......What do u mean by mentioning it.......I dont think Gopi has anything negative in her character which can be stated like "Someone like Gopi"....
she is someone who can do anything just anything for make others happy.....she thinks of herself at last and sometime does not even bother to think what will be the impact on her...
for me its her Heart which as big as an ocean, whom she wants to hide all her pain nd feelings and wants to live for others....
this is what todays "so called modern world is lacking of"....
everyone knows to speak, wants not to be a wimp and in result what we are getting just "Broken Marriages", "separated children as nuclear families"

so for me....if "Someone can save her life, her family, her surrounding just by being GOPI" am all set to be the one......coz for me what matters is A Family not an Individual....
as Akela Chana Bhadd Bhi Nahi Fod Sakta.....

at some point of time one has to regret her or his so called "Courage" for their loneliness...

@Bold...nafisa...agree here as its not Gopi's badluck but Aham's who thinks she is not of her lever and closing her eyes to understand a gem GOPI.....

I disagree that Gopi is a whiner....when have u seen Gopi complain or moan......whereas Ahem is the whiner....nobody can force an adult into a marriage.....he decided to marry Gopi because he cared about his mother's feeling....Kokila did give him the permission to marry Anita.
.
Secondly I disagree that Gopi is a coward n lacks confidence......we have a always seen Gopi's bravery whenever an incident take place..whether it was the fire,theif,snake etc..etc..I can name many with proof, u just need to see the repeat telecast...I think Gopi is more alert n executes a situation with full confidence n to the best of her ability.....is it wrong to respect n be polite to u elders.....or should u be always scheming n disrespect ur elders.

Thirdly is it wrong to think one day ur disgruntled husband will like u......Gopi has been an orphan who had no real life,exposure or anybody to confide her wishes or problems.....so she always prays n talks to her kanaji.....atleast Gopi is patient about her situation.....but she still always thinks about others needs,whims n fancies.It's always easy to abuse n hurt someone who is like Gopi....because they have never anyone to confide .

Lastly with Kinjal...Kokila made a hasty decision to marry Kinjal to Dhal.....but didn't the mother try to do her best for the daughter....even when Kinjal shattered her principles n trust.Probably Kinjal needed this ,Dhal is a dotting husband.....I believe Kinjal will be happy with Dhal.Urmila could be an issue...but Kinjal is educated ,clever , not a bore too....she can handle Urmila.

Originally posted by: -tellyaddict-

@red.......What do u mean by mentioning it.......I dont think Gopi has anything negative in her character which can be stated like "Someone like Gopi"....
she is someone who can do anything just anything for make others happy.....she thinks of herself at last and sometime does not even bother to think what will be the impact on her...
for me its her Heart which as big as an ocean, whom she wants to hide all her pain nd feelings and wants to live for others....
this is what todays "so called modern world is lacking of"....
everyone knows to speak, wants not to be a wimp and in result what we are getting just "Broken Marriages", "separated children as nuclear families"

so for me....if "Someone can save her life, her family, her surrounding just by being GOPI" am all set to be the one......coz for me what matters is A Family not an Individual....
as Akela Chana Bhadd Bhi Nahi Fod Sakta.....

at some point of time one has to regret her or his so called "Courage" for their loneliness...

@Bold...nafisa...agree here as its not Gopi's badluck but Aham's who thinks she is not of her lever and closing her eyes to understand a gem GOPI.....

Originally posted by: NiVu-mjht1

yaar if u dont like them.... then dont watch them ...... nobody is forcing u..... if u have a problem with either gopi or ahem and and like the other person.... then it is understandable for u watching it n complaining about it....u got a problem with both..... then dont watch it yaar..... we ppl here watch the show bcoz we like both of them..... some at least one of them...so please .....one more thing.....not everyone is born as an ultra modern person n not everyone can be sophisticasted wearing minis and dresses...and not only person like whom u describe are said be a personality.... personality is made from the person's character....... she is quiet, she is humble.....etc.... but when have u seen her whine on d show....???..n wat d u mean she cant stand up for anything....... she has stood up for kinjal when she faced the wrath of the whole family.......n whenever some ppl do any mistakes she always covers up for them ...she saved the whole family's reputation quite a no of times....the dandiya dance....the paint changing problem n recently she saved it again by covering up for kinal running away etc etc ..she is quick thinker too it's not her fault she is illiterate..... even though she wanted 2 learn things.... her mami didn't let her to do so..... if ahem has a problem with her being illiterate...... he can very well teach her how 2 read n write...send her 2 personality development classes if he has a problem with her confidence n all .....the problem is dat she is too traditional.... but dat's how most f the mother in laws in india like the girl 2 be..... traditional..... bcoz they consider dat if a girl is very much worldly n too outspoken n modern then she may even try 2 break up the family...... or cause their reputation 2 be damaged.... n we dont even need 2 consider someone else for example......we have rashi n kinjal here.... haven't they caused enough damage 2 the whole family.....again n again...n ahem married his mother's choice without even saying a word... if he was man enough he should have taken a stand against the family against the marriage..... like kinjal did(even though she was wronged....she did take a stand...) ahem is a perosn who is a self confident educated individual isnt it.... then he should have left the whole family and went with anita if he only wanted 2 marry her n live with her.....but he did not do it.... sh ewent by his mother's choice.... so he has 2 live with her.... this stry is about gopi n how she copes up with her life....n how her husband who once didnt like her comes 2 love her........ so if u dont like it then dont watch it......n u know wat kokila making kinjal get married 2 dhawal by force was right.....at first the girl should have atleast said 2 the guy dat she was in love with someone else....she let the whole drama go till her marriage..... she chose 2 take the wrong path instead of the right one..... her family's entire reputation came down.... again the girl was too blinded in love dat the family's reputation came down further....... dawal accepted her with another guy's child.... the family wanted 2 give the girl 2 someone who would take of her n her child too.... dhawal came as a savior for them...so they had no other choice.... n again the girl could have told dat she wasnt pregnant at the wrong time..... the girl wants 2 stay with the family n yet wants 2 b so selfish dat she will only want things 2 happen in her way...... dat is expecting too much from life.... so kokila forcing kinjal 2 marry dhawal was right in every way... the girl needs 2 live her life for others too....she spoiled her brother's life by making her SIL look bad in front of him all the time...she needs 2 become selfless to a lil bit too......

n one more thing nobody asked u to marry a person like gopi....one thing i would like 2 say is educaton is not all dat is needed in life and being too confident modern n worldly is not everything in life...... ..... being humble n traditional too is important....

sorry if i was rude.....but i wanted 2 get thro 2 u.... so i told it straightforwardly.....

Hey dear.....first of all welcome to the forum...loved ue response in bits and pieces...
Dil Khush ho gaya padh ke....
@red,,,,the PERFECT Said.......

thanks yaar....thanks for welcoming me...... n u know wat the line which u liked..... is a lesson i learnt from life itself.... u know my mom wanted me 2 have some traditional qualities as well as some modern qualities...when i was a child ..... from films and some real life ppl..... seeing them i felt i myself should grow up into an ultra modern girl..i used 2 make fun of my mom saying dont be so supersitious n so traditinal n all..but as i grew up..... i came 2 know d importance of the traditional qualities too..... n the ppl whom i used 2 consider as a role model n all..... when i saw their life falling apart because of their so called modern beliefs..... i realized my mistake n all.... today i m a girl who is a lil bit modern with all the traditinal qualities yaar...... n u know wat ppl love 2 be frnds with me.... n i have heard from some ppl dat dat some guy even admire me.... even though i m not dat much good looking too.... n u know why is dat it's because of my quiet n humble character.....we can stand up when we really need to...... but there is no need 2 stand up for everything n everyone too....we need not stand up 2 our parents for each n everything.... if they do make a mistake in guiding our life we can stand up to them ..... but no for each n everything.... they do know wat's best for us n wat suits us....right??

Welcome n rightly said a balance of traditional n modern values.

Originally posted by: NiVu-mjht1

thanks yaar....thanks for welcoming me...... n u know wat the line which u liked..... is a lesson i learnt from life itself.... u know my mom wanted me 2 have some traditional qualities as well as some modern qualities...when i was a child ..... from films and some real life ppl..... seeing them i felt i myself should grow up into an ultra modern girl..i used 2 make fun of my mom saying dont be so supersitious n so traditinal n all..but as i grew up..... i came 2 know d importance of the traditional qualities too..... n the ppl whom i used 2 consider as a role model n all..... when i saw their life falling apart because of their so called modern beliefs..... i realized my mistake n all.... today i m a girl who is a lil bit modern with all the traditinal qualities yaar...... n u know wat ppl love 2 be frnds with me.... n i have heard from some ppl dat dat some guy even admire me.... even though i m not dat much good looking too.... n u know why is dat it's because of my quiet n humble character.....we can stand up when we really need to...... but there is no need 2 stand up for everything n everyone too....we need not stand up 2 our parents for each n everything.... if they do make a mistake in guiding our life we can stand up to them ..... but no for each n everything.... they do know wat's best for us n wat suits us....right??

@bold.....completely agree here tooo....
being traditional, being silent for the sake of keeping family intact can not be considered as "Being Wimp"...
and its upto u how u handle the situation by cribbing over it like all moderns do or by silently bearing it know how to respond at Best Time and with best way......

and Being Modenr will make u a part of the crowd which no one will notice but if u have something diffent and traditional m sure u'll can be in crowd but not as part but but As A Leader..
just like Gopi is..

and be here...we need such nice and gr8 perspective here at forum...

thank u both for welcoming me...... but u know something i have always been here.... lol..... i m a silent reader n member here in dis forum..... i dont post much..... dats it..... hey can we have a formal introduction here itself i know i m gong off topic here..... but just an intro.... i m niveditha from chennai, india..... u guys can call me nivi or nivu whichever u like... can i know bout u guys ..... i mean ur names