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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: monalidp
I agree with some points and disagree with others.
I agree that Gopi is presented as an illeterate fool. Though there are instances when she shows intelligence and presence of mind, in general her character is portrayed as that of a stupid and naive girl. Aham and Gopi is a mismatch. Aham should have married Anita in an ideal world. But now the error is done. He has married Gopi and he has to live with it. I think he was okay with her until he came to know that she is illeterate. But illiteracy is not some HIV which can't be treated😕 He can teach her to read and write, he can help her becoming wordly wise. All she needs a little love and support which she never got in her life. But what we see here is Aham just bullying Gopi, using her when he needs her and then throwing away again. We on this forum support Gopi because we value her good nature as it is hard to find ppl who care for others selflessly. Educated, clever and smart Anitas and Rashis are dime a dozen in this world. But its hard to find a caring and selfless girl like Gopi. Okay, she just cooks and cleans which is not enough for a person like Aham to fall in love with her. But she has never been taught to do anything else. This is why we want the CVs to change Gopi's charcter.

Here is the problem I have with this show and the people who are supporting Gopi on this forum. It is assumed that when women are educated and clever or outspoken, that makes them evil, cunning, mean or ugly as humans. While women who are uneducated, submissive and good at cooking or cleaning, that makes them good at cleaning. Sorry, but I disagree. Ahem is not right for bullying Gopi - NEVER supported this action. What is wrong is that Kokila should not have married him to her and vice versa. She was wrong and unfair to BOTH of them.

She cooks and cleans - that is it. That does not make someone qualified to fall in love with. If that was the case, then every man in India would marry their housemaid!!!!!

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: sbp1971
I agree, no one forced Ahem to marry Gopi, he has made his bed now he has to sleep on it. As for Gopi, this is about the indian culture, too bad out girls are thought to more traditional. I would have to say its ok to be traditional but at the same time you have to respect yourself and stand up for yourself, if you don't respect and love yourself, people will take advantage of you. I am sorry to say Indian TV serial only have two views, either the daughter-in-law is too good or too bad, there is no happy in between. Relationships between husband and wife should equal there should be same amount of giving and taking. Everyone have a past, but once you make a decision you have to stick to it, you have to give your 100% to the relationship and not moon over your ex.

I think you are the ONLY person who grasped what I am trying to point out but I disagree with you in that Ahem should not have married Gopi and once he did, he should be fair to her and not punish her (which I have said) for what is mother has done. That's being passive aggressive.

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: upasana.diya

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couldn't press like many times hun, so giving you 5 star rating

i have said this once too many and didn't want to get to write a 'letter of explanation' to people who are hell bent on humiliating a character or someone's opinion...

Welcome Nivi, i hope i can call you that... I am Diya... hope to get to know you more.... and keep posting

How can one say an educated girl is perfect for a family. Why is she better than Gopi. Just because she spent some extra money to go know letters??? just because she doesn't have confidence in her own looks and is dependent on Spas and shopping??? But then what is their use anyways... Rashi and Kinjal are doing pretty much same as cooking and cleaning.... Rashi was educated but still forgot her duty to call Gas person to deliver Gas, which was her duty.... i am giving a very small example.... so what big difference did they make in their life style but scheme...

Education is sure a + for anyone in this world of deceit, but not a life decider...

as per Gopi, she is far too intelligent... it is educated people like Ahem who are the fools...
but Stupid 'someones like Gopi' are the actual STUPID as in SMart Talented Unique Person In Demand... and mind you i didn't mention educated... lolzzzz

Ahem may or may not fall in love with Gopi, that is a totally different case... i commend Kinjal More for running away from a marriage she didn't want, couldn't Ahem do the same if he wanted Anita so much... if i were Anita i wouldn't take back Ahem even if the world turned over... He is wimp, spineless, brainless, inhumane character i have ever known in life...

it seems i have let my words run a bit... but this is what i feel...

Here you show your ignorance and your reinforcement of the typical view that if someone is traditional they are better and education does not build character. Education be it formal or informal offers the individual that chance to think, develop their brain etc. Of course, if you think to educate yourself is unnecessary, then I suggest you go ahead and drop out of school tomorrow or BURN any certificates you have accquired. If education was not important, then why do we save every penny we have to educate our children or travel thousands of miles to another country?

Ahem sucks as well and so does Gopi - perhaps both losers are MADE for each other.😆😆😆

The point here is Ahem got a wrong deal, Gopi is not all that wonderful just cause she is iliterate and a good housemaid and Kokila is at fault for all of this mess.

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: Eesha2

Of course there are coercision and emtional blackmail, but Ahem is an educated and highly opinionated man. He could have very well gotten out of this marriage if he wanted. Anita begged him and if he loved her enough and was man enough to speak up he could have left and married her. Emotional blackmail and coercision might be okay for someone like Gopi who doesn't speak up but not for Ahem. He has a voice and from what we have seen a pretty loud one. His mother would eventually have had to accept it. But the reality and fact is he was a coward and he didn't do it. He made his own bed. And now he has no right to destroy someone else's life because she doens't fit the bill. In America people might accept divorce as a normal thing but in India they don't. It's not like Gopi forced him into this so why is he punishing her. Punish himself punish his mother. He has no right to ruin that girls life because he was a sissy and a mamma's boy. She might be wimpy in your opinion but so is he. Why should her life be destroyed because he was a wimp. Your argument goes both ways. If he has a right to be happy so does she. And now because of him she might never get that chance.

Then WHY did Ahem decide to marry Gopi? His MOTHER pressured him into it. He felt OBLIGATED. He screwed up the life of Anita, Gopi and HIS own. Kokila is ALSO to blame. In fact she is at FAULT. And the point is that just because Gopi is a good housemaid, quiet, submissive and traditional, does not make her a WONDERFUL person.

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-Nafisa-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: Laila2009

The guys I know who would want someone like Gopi, Rashi or Kinjal are guys whom I would not respect. So sorry, I really don't care what the BHAIs here think.

@Laila2009 it's clear you are the type that doesn't care about anyone else's opinion but your own. You are rude and obnoxious is this what being a modern woman is? No to me it sounds like you are hiding behind that, what is clear to me is you are unable to effectively communicate with people.

And another thing you should not come onto a public forum to interact with others if you don't want to listen to other people's opinions.

Edited by WintersBloom - 14 years ago

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loveanime

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Posted: 14 years ago

#46

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

@Laila2009 it's clear you are the type that doesn't care about anyone else's opinion but your own. You are rude and obnoxious is this what being a modern woman is? No to me it sounds like you are hiding behind that, what is clear to me is you are unable to effectively communicate with people.

And another thing you should not come onto a public forum to interact with others if you don't want to listen to other people's opinions.

my friend you are wasting your breath. from what she is writing can't you tell it is pointless. BTW i love how you write Winters, I have been meaning to say that for some time. kudos you are a talented writer 👏

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simran15

@simran15

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Posted: 14 years ago

#47

@ laila---u are very contradictory n objectionable.....u r not interested in for a healthy debate.....u just want us to agree to ur points whatsoever...😳

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: saomom
@Laila - Argumentative much?

Would you prefer that I be submissive and agreeable to all of you? I stand my ground if I believe strongly in my point.

Edited by Laila2009 - 14 years ago

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: WintersBloom

@Laila2009 it's clear you are the type that doesn't care about anyone else's opinion but your own. You are rude and obnoxious is this what being a modern woman is? No to me it sounds like you are hiding behind that, what is clear to me is you are unable to effectively communicate with people.

And another thing you should not come onto a public forum to interact with others if you don't want to listen to other people's opinions.

My dear, if you cannot argue YOUR point or YOUR opinion, then get out of the arguement. STOP making personal attacks. I have an opinion, YOU chose to respond. I don't respect these characters and just because some people want to be with them does NOT make them likeable or appealing and most of all to ME. Now, are you saying that I should and if I don't then it gives you the RIGHT to attack me as a person because I do NOT agree with you? HELLO!?!!!!

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 14 years ago

#50

Originally posted by: simran15
@ laila---u are very contradictory n objectionable.....u r not interested in for a healthy debate.....u just want us to agree to ur points whatsoever...😳

My dear, when NONE of these arguements have any basis and I can tear each one done, is that my fault or those who cannot defend their viewpoints?