Gopi and Ahem - UpDate - Page 3

Originally posted by: NiVu-mjht1

thank u both for welcoming me...... but u know something i have always been here.... lol..... i m a silent reader n member here in dis forum..... i dont post much..... dats it..... hey can we have a formal introduction here itself i know i m gong off topic here..... but just an intro.... i m niveditha from chennai, india..... u guys can call me nivi or nivu whichever u like... can i know bout u guys ..... i mean ur names

hey dear i'll pm u the details

Hi nivi...it was nice to speak to u......am simran......do join when in when u think ur opinion will help.

sure yaar.... i will....and telly addict.... i'll waiting for ur pm.... lol..... i meant i would love 2 make friends here....

I agree with some points and disagree with others.

Originally posted by: monalidp

I agree with some points and disagree with others.

I agree that Gopi is presented as an illeterate fool. Though there are instances when she shows intelligence and presence of mind, in general her character is portrayed as that of a stupid and naive girl. Aham and Gopi is a mismatch. Aham should have married Anita in an ideal world. But now the error is done. He has married Gopi and he has to live with it. I think he was okay with her until he came to know that she is illeterate. But illiteracy is not some HIV which can't be treated😕 He can teach her to read and write, he can help her becoming wordly wise. All she needs a little love and support which she never got in her life. But what we see here is Aham just bullying Gopi, using her when he needs her and then throwing away again. We on this forum support Gopi because we value her good nature as it is hard to find ppl who care for others selflessly. Educated, clever and smart Anitas and Rashis are dime a dozen in this world. But its hard to find a caring and selfless girl like Gopi. Okay, she just cooks and cleans which is not enough for a person like Aham to fall in love with her. But she has never been taught to do anything else. This is why we want the CVs to change Gopi's charcter.

@bold....good point mona....and thats make Gopi Rare for us...and thats y we are supporting her...
as her character is not her mistake and she should not be blamed for everything happening in Aham's of Modi's life...

Originally posted by: monalidp

I agree with some points and disagree with others.

I agree that Gopi is presented as an illeterate fool. Though there are instances when she shows intelligence and presence of mind, in general her character is portrayed as that of a stupid and naive girl. Aham and Gopi is a mismatch. Aham should have married Anita in an ideal world. But now the error is done. He has married Gopi and he has to live with it. I think he was okay with her until he came to know that she is illeterate. But illiteracy is not some HIV which can't be treated😕 He can teach her to read and write, he can help her becoming wordly wise. All she needs a little love and support which she never got in her life. But what we see here is Aham just bullying Gopi, using her when he needs her and then throwing away again. We on this forum support Gopi because we value her good nature as it is hard to find ppl who care for others selflessly. Educated, clever and smart Anitas and Rashis are dime a dozen in this world. But its hard to find a caring and selfless girl like Gopi. Okay, she just cooks and cleans which is not enough for a person like Aham to fall in love with her. But she has never been taught to do anything else. This is why we want the CVs to change Gopi's charcter.

I agree, no one forced Ahem to marry Gopi, he has made his bed now he has to sleep on it. As for Gopi, this is about the indian culture, too bad out girls are thought to more traditional. I would have to say its ok to be traditional but at the same time you have to respect yourself and stand up for yourself, if you don't respect and love yourself, people will take advantage of you. I am sorry to say Indian TV serial only have two views, either the daughter-in-law is too good or too bad, there is no happy in between. Relationships between husband and wife should equal there should be same amount of giving and taking. Everyone have a past, but once you make a decision you have to stick to it, you have to give your 100% to the relationship and not moon over your ex.

Hi Nivi welcome to the forum. I loved your response. Absolutely right on target. My name is Eesha.

Originally posted by: NiVu-mjht1

yaar if u dont like them.... then dont watch them ...... nobody is forcing u..... if u have a problem with either gopi or ahem and and like the other person.... then it is understandable for u watching it n complaining about it....u got a problem with both..... then dont watch it yaar..... we ppl here watch the show bcoz we like both of them..... some at least one of them...so please .....one more thing.....not everyone is born as an ultra modern person n not everyone can be sophisticasted wearing minis and dresses...and not only person like whom u describe are said be a personality.... personality is made from the person's character....... she is quiet, she is humble.....etc.... but when have u seen her whine on d show....???..n wat d u mean she cant stand up for anything....... she has stood up for kinjal when she faced the wrath of the whole family.......n whenever some ppl do any mistakes she always covers up for them ...she saved the whole family's reputation quite a no of times....the dandiya dance....the paint changing problem n recently she saved it again by covering up for kinal running away etc etc ..she is quick thinker too it's not her fault she is illiterate..... even though she wanted 2 learn things.... her mami didn't let her to do so..... if ahem has a problem with her being illiterate...... he can very well teach her how 2 read n write...send her 2 personality development classes if he has a problem with her confidence n all .....the problem is dat she is too traditional.... but dat's how most f the mother in laws in india like the girl 2 be..... traditional..... bcoz they consider dat if a girl is very much worldly n too outspoken n modern then she may even try 2 break up the family...... or cause their reputation 2 be damaged.... n we dont even need 2 consider someone else for example......we have rashi n kinjal here.... haven't they caused enough damage 2 the whole family.....again n again...n ahem married his mother's choice without even saying a word... if he was man enough he should have taken a stand against the family against the marriage..... like kinjal did(even though she was wronged....she did take a stand...) ahem is a perosn who is a self confident educated individual isnt it.... then he should have left the whole family and went with anita if he only wanted 2 marry her n live with her.....but he did not do it.... sh ewent by his mother's choice.... so he has 2 live with her.... this stry is about gopi n how she copes up with her life....n how her husband who once didnt like her comes 2 love her........ so if u dont like it then dont watch it......n u know wat kokila making kinjal get married 2 dhawal by force was right.....at first the girl should have atleast said 2 the guy dat she was in love with someone else....she let the whole drama go till her marriage..... she chose 2 take the wrong path instead of the right one..... her family's entire reputation came down.... again the girl was too blinded in love dat the family's reputation came down further....... dawal accepted her with another guy's child.... the family wanted 2 give the girl 2 someone who would take of her n her child too.... dhawal came as a savior for them...so they had no other choice.... n again the girl could have told dat she wasnt pregnant at the wrong time..... the girl wants 2 stay with the family n yet wants 2 b so selfish dat she will only want things 2 happen in her way...... dat is expecting too much from life.... so kokila forcing kinjal 2 marry dhawal was right in every way... the girl needs 2 live her life for others too....she spoiled her brother's life by making her SIL look bad in front of him all the time...she needs 2 become selfless to a lil bit too......

n one more thing nobody asked u to marry a person like gopi....one thing i would like 2 say is educaton is not all dat is needed in life and being too confident modern n worldly is not everything in life...... ..... being humble n traditional too is important....

sorry if i was rude.....but i wanted 2 get thro 2 u.... so i told it straightforwardly.....

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couldn't press like many times hun, so giving you 5 star rating

i have said this once too many and didn't want to get to write a 'letter of explanation' to people who are hell bent on humiliating a character or someone's opinion...

Welcome Nivi, i hope i can call you that... I am Diya... hope to get to know you more.... and keep posting

How can one say an educated girl is perfect for a family. Why is she better than Gopi. Just because she spent some extra money to go know letters??? just because she doesn't have confidence in her own looks and is dependent on Spas and shopping??? But then what is their use anyways... Rashi and Kinjal are doing pretty much same as cooking and cleaning.... Rashi was educated but still forgot her duty to call Gas person to deliver Gas, which was her duty.... i am giving a very small example.... so what big difference did they make in their life style but scheme...

Education is sure a + for anyone in this world of deceit, but not a life decider...

as per Gopi, she is far too intelligent... it is educated people like Ahem who are the fools...
but Stupid 'someones like Gopi' are the actual STUPID as in SMart Talented Unique Person In Demand... and mind you i didn't mention educated... lolzzzz

Ahem may or may not fall in love with Gopi, that is a totally different case... i commend Kinjal More for running away from a marriage she didn't want, couldn't Ahem do the same if he wanted Anita so much... if i were Anita i wouldn't take back Ahem even if the world turned over... He is wimp, spineless, brainless, inhumane character i have ever known in life...

it seems i have let my words run a bit... but this is what i feel...

Originally posted by: Laila2009

That is coercision and emotional blackmail; you don't have to have a gun put to your ahead. There are plenty of people who have married people out of pressure - you should know better than that. Of course Ahem is wimp for not speaking up but why should he be happy to be with smoeone because she cooks and cleans and is a so called "nice" which I equate with wimpy here.