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Thanks for sharing the info, Lalit. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Agreed, but in this day and age - in educated middle class families where the girl is educated and so are the parents - it is somewhat a rarity, especially such extreme behaviour like the one Ambika exhibits.. It happens sometimes but it is not the norm ..It may be more prevalent among poorer, less educated sections.. The way Saloni's mom Ambika, treats her is so extreme, calling her unlucky, etc and that too only because she is dark and hates her guts because of that..So much so that for a while she was ready to get her daughter married to Kunjan knowing he was an awful guy. I am from a middle class family too and so are many of my friends - and many are dark skinned but have done brilliantly in life - both on the personal and professional front and are no worse off than the lighter skinned people.. In fact that was a non-issue for most of them. I don't mean to say that this problem of skin colour does not exist - it exists all over the world - but I wish the backdrop were more realistic - maybe the time frame could have been 50 years ago or the settings showed a not-so-educated family or something. In fact my mother and I were just discussing this a while ago..

I have heard that Saloni pursues her career with all enthusiasm and does well - I would love to see that happen. Eagerly waiting to see the way her family reacts..

Anyway, these are just my thoughts.. No offence meant to anyone.

I agree with you! But thats Indian tv for us.. everything has to be extreme. I would really like to see something that happens in real life more offen than not! Maybe someday the writers & producers will wake up and realize that majority of the people are not like how they're portrayed in these serials 😕

Originally posted by: lalgulab

I agree with you! But thats Indian tv for us.. everything has to be extreme. I would really like to see something that happens in real life more offen than not! Maybe someday the writers & producers will wake up and realize that majority of the people are not like how they're portrayed in these serials 😕

LOL! I completely agree..Wish they would show reality some..That is why I liked Kashish and the mature handling of problems..

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Agreed, but in this day and age - in educated middle class families where the girl is educated and so are the parents - it is somewhat a rarity, especially such extreme behaviour like the one Ambika exhibits.. It happens sometimes but it is not the norm ..It may be more prevalent among poorer, less educated sections.. The way Saloni's mom Ambika, treats her is so extreme, calling her unlucky, etc and that too only because she is dark and hates her guts because of that..So much so that for a while she was ready to get her daughter married to Kunjan knowing he was an awful guy. I am from a middle class family too and so are many of my friends - and many are dark skinned but have done brilliantly in life - both on the personal and professional front and are no worse off than the lighter skinned people.. In fact that was a non-issue for most of them. I don't mean to say that this problem of skin colour does not exist - it exists all over the world - but I wish the backdrop were more realistic - maybe the time frame could have been 50 years ago or the settings showed a not-so-educated family or something. In fact my mother and I were just discussing this a while ago..

I have heard that Saloni pursues her career with all enthusiasm and does well - I would love to see that happen. Eagerly waiting to see the way her family reacts..

Anyway, these are just my thoughts.. No offence meant to anyone.

Ok, without any offense intended to anyone, in a way the current backdrop is not completely incorrect. I have more than 10-15 friends who have families in conservative regions of Rajasthan/UP and these things happen all the time in their families. Chahe kitni bhi padhi-likhi ladki ho, there is this whole stigma attached to being dark-skinned. I actually know a close friend who was looking for an arranged marriage and his mom rejected a very smart girl simply because "bahut saanvli hai". My friend is pretty dark himself, yet his mom decided that ladki tou gori honee chahiye - upper middle class household!!!! Imagine! Another friend who is married through an arranged marriage. when her devar got married, his wife is relatively darker skinned and one of the things that my friend herself said - uska kuch nahi chalne wala ghar mein - woh tou kaali hai!!

I was shocked and appalled!!! So this whole skin-color issue may not be major in metros but in some areas it is still very prominent, UNFORTUNATELY...

Originally posted by: krutilynn

Ok, without any offense intended to anyone, in a way the current backdrop is not completely incorrect. I have more than 10-15 friends who have families in conservative regions of Rajasthan/UP and these things happen all the time in their families. Chahe kitni bhi padhi-likhi ladki ho, there is this whole stigma attached to being dark-skinned. I actually know a close friend who was looking for an arranged marriage and his mom rejected a very smart girl simply because "bahut saanvli hai". My friend is pretty dark himself, yet his mom decided that ladki tou gori honee chahiye - upper middle class household!!!! Imagine! Another friend who is married through an arranged marriage. when her devar got married, his wife is relatively darker skinned and one of the things that my friend herself said - uska kuch nahi chalne wala ghar mein - woh tou kaali hai!!

I was shocked and appalled!!! So this whole skin-color issue may not be major in metros but in some areas it is still very prominent, UNFORTUNATELY...

I agree this happens sometimes.. I was not raised in a metro - in fact I was raised in a small town in Bihar (of course it was a more cosmopolitan town I admit) and that too 10 years ago (I am in my early 30s now so many of my friends were of marriageable age at that time) and yes, I have seen people like the ones you mentioned..But for every such family I have seen there, I would have seen 2 families quite the opposite..And I still think the character of Ambika is highly extreme..I have seen colour discrimination exist (in fact it exists all over the world) but a mother hating her own daughter so much is not what I can digest. My mother and I discuss this every now and then and both of us find it way too appalling. Yes, it happens once in a while but the way these TV serials make it appear, as though it is the norm and every day life..I don't think they are sending right messages across till now - maybe that will change as the show progresses..

But as someone just mentioned, hey this is a serial!! What more do you expect other than a fair share of melodrama😊

You are absolutely right, xyzzee. It is a TV serial. What still bothers me is that 1 in 3 families still have these biases. You are right that the mother has been shown to be extreme...just unbeliveable stuff!!

I have a funny story to share...i have a friend here in the US whose skin is soooo pale and white (she is american) and her mom always picks on her about looking like a "ghost" - it is funny how people here prefer darker olive toned skin versus in india where so much undue importance is given on skin color!!

Originally posted by: krutilynn

I have a funny story to share...i have a friend here in the US whose skin is soooo pale and white (she is american) and her mom always picks on her about looking like a "ghost" - it is funny how people here prefer darker olive toned skin versus in india where so much undue importance is given on skin color!!

LOL!! That is really funny!! I agree I always feel Americans want to be tanned all the time..Yet (not wanting to sound stereotypical), you see colour discrimination here too!! Not with all of them but woth red necks in certain parts of the country.. And they don't like to know from people darker than themselves.. Some of them are quite subtle but it is there nevertheless with some light skinned people.. We have moved to the suburbs of NY (where the diversity is not so much) and I already see the difference between where we used to live earlier and now..