Saloni is doing too much

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 17 years ago

I am sure currently those watching SP r hating Tara and feeling terribly sorry for Saloni .

But I feel that too much is being asked of Tara . First she lost her child and was notified she cudnt ever carry a baby . Then with surrogate motherhood she somehow got that baby thru Jiji . Then Jiji kidnapped the baby and made Tara crave and crave for it till she wud go insane . It is only recently that Tara has really got a chance to become a mother . And just then , tragedy befalls her sister in law and her baby is snatched away once more so that the sister in law shud be happy and recover fast .

Now the possibilities that Saloni will recover from this obsession look remote as docs have informed she will never be a mom . So the obsession is gonna get stronger and stronger . ALready it has . She bathes the baby , decides his clothes , feeds him , sleeps with him [ telling Nahar that its ok if he freezes] .......and all Tara gets is to stare and stare helplessly and watch her baby becoming used to another woman and babies get used to things pretty quickly and forget their moms .

Fine for the baby [ for getting so much love ] and fine for the other woman[ Saloni ] ........but what about poor Tara ?

Now if the answer for this is that hey Saloni saved Taras baby not once but twice and Tara owes Advityas life to Saloni and so she is required to pay this debt to Saloni by relinquishing all control over Advitiya as a woman and mom , sorry , i dont agree to this argument at all. It is frankly speaking , asking too much of a person . Tara shud be eternally grateful to Saloni yes , and do all possible nice things for her , be there for her etc , but why shud she give up being a mom ?

Poking so much nose in other person's business is simply not done and neither Nahar nor Ambika have ever adequately chided Saloni for it . Goodness is ok till it doesnt become annoying . There r hundreds of women out there who have miscarraiges , still born babies , but they recuperate and continue with life without offending other people or taking away their babies .

IF saloni cannot get over her obsession for a baby coz of her accident , she needs therapy to recuperate......snatching someones baby and saying now Im only his mom , is not the answer . Frankly , Saloni needs therapy and counselling , or this will get really worse .

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 17 years ago

U actually agree with me ? I thought all were gonna throw tomatoes at me on this forum !😆 Thanks ! What a relief to hear sumone feels same way like me !

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Shruti

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Posted: 17 years ago

@ koolsadhu1000

I completely agree with u!!!!! Yes saloni is too much..Just because Tara is being polite to her doesn't mean that she can take away advaitya all the time from her.I think elders in the family should pound some sense to her,but they are also quiet.
Why don't these serials show some realities rather than dramatizing it too much

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 17 years ago

gosh tellybuff today seems to be my nice day ! Two people agreed with me !😆

did u see todays episode ? I felt sorry for poor Tara ! People r calling her bad etc but she is just an ordinary human .....she isnt exactly cruel or sumthing like Kaveri , Jiji or Dheer or Kakisa ! Not bad at heart , a little empty in the head and craving to be a mom.....thats taras character for u .

I find Salonis goody interference very annoying at times . I think its high time they show Nahar or Ambi speaking sharply to her . For instance , Nahar as a husband can clearly tell her in privacy of bedroom that ur overdoing it , control it . Or Ambi can tell her that she needs to rest and focus on getting well rather than get attached in this way to someone elses kid as this attachment is not at all healthy it will become obsession and lead to problems and wont be fair to tara .

Saloni has gone so overboard in her attachment for advitiya that she has totally lost track of her own marraige , she takes nahar for granted ....lost her own baby running after advitya and now she is taking Tara too much for granted , not even wondering if this is fair to her . She had done same forcing with Samar when she had made him take Kaveri back although he had kicked her out . She needs to pipe down . Lead characters shud be pleasing not annoying .

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sg2600

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Posted: 17 years ago

but actually what is making worse is that Kalika is using the situation to instigate Tara against Saloni. Even I felt upset when saloni said Advitiya does not cry for food, but simply looks.. , that he smiles like his choti ma, Saloni wanted to make advitiya sleep with her.. seems like saloni has totally lost it. Poor lady, I can understand she wants the company of advitiya to forget her pains, sufferings... and is in no logical state of mind to understand that she is intruding in to Tara's space. Tara being overly possessive has already started feeling the pains of separation from her child. Added to that even Nahar, Brijesh, Bhabho are supporting Saloni regarding advitiya being with her.

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 17 years ago

Originally posted by: sg2600
but actually what is making worse is that Kalika is using the situation to instigate Tara against Saloni. Even I felt upset when saloni said Advitiya does not cry for food, but simply looks.. , that he smiles like his choti ma, Saloni wanted to make advitiya sleep with her.. seems like saloni has totally lost it. Poor lady, I can understand she wants the company of advitiya to forget her pains, sufferings... and is in no logical state of mind to understand that she is intruding in to Tara's space. Tara being overly possessive has already started feeling the pains of separation from her child. Added to that even Nahar, Brijesh, Bhabho are supporting Saloni regarding advitiya being with her.

yes ....the situation has played right into Kalika's hands . But wat i feel as a viewer is that even if kalika as a character had not existed , I wud still feel very irritated with Saloni .

My point is only this much ....saving someone's child doesnt entitle u to take away that child from that person with some kind of unspoken exercised right .......it just isnt fair . And if u have a personal loss , u must come to terms with it . To date no one in that Singh family has spoken this sane argument to Saloni .....they r pampering her without even realising that they will push her into pain .

It is not as if Tara has two or three kids that she can be maganimous enough to relinquish control over one kid and allow SAloni to look after it . She too has only one kid and boy , has she gone thru enough crap and pain for getting it . And now she is watching helplessly and not having any say in the matter of raising it .....not allowing the baby to sleep with Tara , saying it looks like me .....all is far too much for any mom to handle. And the others r insensitiv to Tara ....i cant believe it ! Kalika may be villain but at least she has the sensitivity to sense Taras feelings ......she uses the sensitivity for bad purpose of course . But Bhabho , Brijesh , Nahar.....watz wrong with em ? Does no one feel like talking to SAloni in private ? Brijesh i understand.....his relation is delicate so he will keep quiet but Nahar or Bhabho ?Or Ambi ?

And the best way to deal with a personal loss is to come to terms with it .....not to weave a mystical web of dreams around u in which u happily believe u still have it through someone elses child . The hard way is the best way , and also the healthiest .

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judyp

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Posted: 17 years ago

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
I am sure currently those watching SP r hating Tara and feeling terribly sorry for Saloni .

But I feel that too much is being asked of Tara . First she lost her child and was notified she cudnt ever carry a baby . Then with surrogate motherhood she somehow got that baby thru Jiji . Then Jiji kidnapped the baby and made Tara crave and crave for it till she wud go insane . It is only recently that Tara has really got a chance to become a mother . And just then , tragedy befalls her sister in law and her baby is snatched away once more so that the sister in law shud be happy and recover fast .

Now the possibilities that Saloni will recover from this obsession look remote as docs have informed she will never be a mom . So the obsession is gonna get stronger and stronger . ALready it has . She bathes the baby , decides his clothes , feeds him , sleeps with him [ telling Nahar that its ok if he freezes] .......and all Tara gets is to stare and stare helplessly and watch her baby becoming used to another woman and babies get used to things pretty quickly and forget their moms .

Fine for the baby [ for getting so much love ] and fine for the other woman[ Saloni ] ........but what about poor Tara ?

Now if the answer for this is that hey Saloni saved Taras baby not once but twice and Tara owes Advityas life to Saloni and so she is required to pay this debt to Saloni by relinquishing all control over Advitiya as a woman and mom , sorry , i dont agree to this argument at all. It is frankly speaking , asking too much of a person . Tara shud be eternally grateful to Saloni yes , and do all possible nice things for her , be there for her etc , but why shud she give up being a mom ?

Poking so much nose in other person's business is simply not done and neither Nahar nor Ambika have ever adequately chided Saloni for it . Goodness is ok till it doesnt become annoying . There r hundreds of women out there who have miscarraiges , still born babies , but they recuperate and continue with life without offending other people or taking away their babies .

IF saloni cannot get over her obsession for a baby coz of her accident , she needs therapy to recuperate......snatching someones baby and saying now Im only his mom , is not the answer . Frankly , Saloni needs therapy and counselling , or this will get really worse .

When its all said and done the child is Tara's and no one can dispute the fact. However, I don't expect Tara to be externally grateful to Saloni for saving her child or expect her to give up her child.

What I expect from Tara is to think about Saloni 1^st for once. She deserves that….. She needs to be the older 'bahu" as she has often claimed and treat Saloni with some kindness and understanding for what she is going through. She needs to extract Aditiviya from Saloni gently not forcefully she needs to set boundaries for Saloni not as she yank the Tali from her hand in the pooja room. For the 1^st time don't go ballistic. She needs to treat Saloni maybe as how everyone has treated her when she has gone through her traumas with Understanding.

I agree Saloni needs professional help to deal with her grief and lost of her child. Tara can discuss the matter with Nahar, Saloni mother etc. She can also explain to the idiotic Brijesh how he is hurting her and talk to the man about your fears. Communicate…..

You say taking away some-one baby. The Singh family is hypocrites and users. I watched that scene with NS loss of their child. Bhabo brought that child and put it in Saloni hand which was the worst thing and thank Mati Maharaj because everything is back to normal, she wanted to ensure that Saloni would treat the child as normal.

Why did Bhabo and Tara prior to the miscarriage used Saloni to take care of Aditivya to such a great extent. Every time the child cries Saloni, Saloni etc. I expect she was useful in the nanny role, the only role she should have. Don't get me wrong I totally agree with her spending less time with Aditiviya.......

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Simara

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Posted: 17 years ago

i agree saloni has a right ove the baby as only his mami! thats it hey no one asked her to risk her and her child's like to save that boy they are soo rich they cant afford a stay home nanny? i mean they have ram singh to cook and clean i am sure u can affford more servants

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Kamila Rajwani

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Posted: 17 years ago

Originally posted by: SimarikSmokin
i agree saloni has a right ove the baby as only his mami! thats it hey no one asked her to risk her and her child's like to save that boy they are soo rich they cant afford a stay home nanny? i mean they have ram singh to cook and clean i am sure u can affford more servants

I think you mean Chachi not mami. Father's, bother's wife is Chachi. Mother's, brother's wife is Mami. :)

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 17 years ago

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judy

Today they showed Tara reacting insensitively to the situation . I agree with u that Tara shud not give up her right on the baby but rather , handle it a bit tactfully . But then Tara is not a tactful or sane person .

Nevertheless principally , this concept of giving up ur child out of a feeling of eternal gratitude is basically wrong . No one will . I dont blame just Saloni for this kind of expectation.....the full Singh family is wrong for encouraging it , including Bhabho and Ambi . How many days will Saloni grab someone elses child and monopolize it like this ? From 6 in the morning to sleeping with it the full nite ???

Even while living in a joint family each one has to learn to live his own life and respect the boundaries of the others around u . Joint family system doesnt mean intruding on the others space . Gynac problems , miscarraiges , infertility , r part of women's life , and they have to learn to accept it and move on just like they accept financial loss , litigation , job problems etc . Moving on is the answer ......living in a delusion isnt . And they shud show sensible elders like Bhabho or Mannobhabi talking sum sense to Saloni and explaining to her the real meaning of life . The path that she chose to get rid of her pain was the painkiller path ......painkillers only dull ur real pain , and have side effects.....they never really cure u of ur malady .

Had i been the mother of Saloni I wud have nipped it in the bud itself . Right in the beginning i wud have told my daughter that this will lead only to obsession and pain......a worsening of ur delicate mental condition . Get away for few days....go with ur husband to a hill station or piligrimage , recuperate , take sum counselling if u feel u need it and hey , take up ur singing [ saloni is so good at it ] and become busy , dont sit idle and cry over the baby or indulge in sentimental talk all the time about the same issue . But then these r my thoughts....dunno if u guys will agree with them .😊

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