What kind of life is Tosty and Maliti living ???

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Like most of today;s t.v. shows, women working like maids in saas bian sasural !
Both Tosty and Malti had jobs , career but the moment they enter as 'bahu' they have to leave their jobs and do all these maid kind of work to prove themselves ' good bahus'.
What message are they conveying to viewers ?? 😡


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Posted: 13 years ago
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You are right! They have gotten into a maha kanjoos family that does not even keep a maid. It's weird to see Toasty wearing such expensive sarees n washing clothes!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Well, in defense of what they are showing, actually still happens in many many families across India. I am not surprised they are portraying the C family as old fashioned/traditioned..you have to realize they are a male dominate business family. If they had a daughter or if Vimala was there, may be they would have had a different perspective of girls. That not being the case, you can hardly blame them for what they make use of their bahu. With C being the old minded buddha that he is, malti and Toasty, pretty much chose their fortune. I think the CV's are showing what still runs very true in many families across the country...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Ya, they quit their jobs for their family ! Malti was different, she had to work as she had to pay for the house and she had financial problems !

Tosty did that for the happiness of the family and she is happy with that !
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Yes. Many families in India want educated working bahus, but the moment they get married or have a child, they tell these same career-minded bahus to quit their jobs. It has happened to a cousin of mine, and her husband is a software engineer, so if such educated people can do that, C family is anyway an old fashioned business family, where even the men are not too concerned about studying too much, as they all finally end up in business.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tochukumari

Like most of today;s t.v. shows, women working like maids in saas bian sasural !
Both Tosty and Malti had jobs , career but the moment they enter as 'bahu' they have to leave their jobs and do all these maid kind of work to prove themselves ' good bahus'.
What message are they conveying to viewers ?? 😡


How may episodes of SBS you have seen? Do you really know the facts??
Malti never had a career.. cooking dabbas is anything but career..
Toasty had a career but none forced her to leave the job. She did it on her own. It was her decision.
Like it is wrong to force someone to quite job to do household works.. it is similarly wrong to question someone ( who has wilingly decided to leave job ) for the sake of women freedom..
An open mind will help to take a broader perspective of what is happenning.. Toasty is a challenge freak.. gets bored without a mission and this family gives her enough challenges in life to keep playing larger than life role and hence she is happier in this role than her school teacher role.. Also quoting her.. she is also fulfilling her teaching role by taking care of Praveen and Gyan though I doubt how much time the former spends in study!!
In summary, let them do what they are happy with.. everyone need not sacrifice their happiness to be a sacrificical lamb of pseudo modernism.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: akash08

How may episodes of SBS you have seen? Do you really know the facts??
Malti never had a career.. cooking dabbas is anything but career..
Toasty had a career but none forced her to leave the job. She did it on her own. It was her decision.
Like it is wrong to force someone to quite job to do household works.. it is similarly wrong to question someone ( who has wilingly decided to leave job ) for the sake of women freedom..
An open mind will help to take a broader perspective of what is happenning.. Toasty is a challenge freak.. gets bored without a mission and this family gives her enough challenges in life to keep playing larger than life role and hence she is happier in this role than her school teacher role.. Also quoting her.. she is also fulfilling her teaching role by taking care of Praveen and Gyan though I doubt how much time the former spends in study!!
In summary, let them do what they are happy with.. everyone need not sacrifice their happiness to be a sacrificical lamb of pseudo modernism.👏👏


Cooking dabbas may not be a career for the most of us. But many do that to make a living. I think there is nothing wrong in having any kind of job if done with dignity.

And I also agree with the so called independent women who bring their salaries and present it to their HUBBIES without whose permission are not allowed to spend or make any decisions.
No harm giving the money to him..but to ask for permission to spend the very money earned by her... is atrocious.

Woman should have the Freedom to decide what she WANTS to do.
Even it that means being a HOMEMAKER. I dislike the term HOUSEWIFE.



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Posted: 13 years ago
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Well, Making dabba can be a career , why not ??
Its her work and as someone has mentioned here, dignity of labor is important !
The question I raised here is, " What kind of message the show conveying?"
Spending 3-4 hours on washing clothes of 7 hatte katte men, cooking, cleaning, doing groceries etc and showing how that is right , worth sacrificing career can mislead some viewers.
For those who watch it for fun is fine, those who do not take any message is also fine but those who get affected by watching shows might start expecting same from their respected bahus' or some would be bahus would start igniring importance of education !
The serial started as 'satte pe satta ' type light comedy but turned into typical show !
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tochukumari

Well, Making dabba can be a career , why not ??
Its her work and as someone has mentioned here, dignity of labor is important !
The question I raised here is, " What kind of message the show conveying?"
Spending 3-4 hours on washing clothes of 7 hatte katte men, cooking, cleaning, doing groceries etc and showing how that is right , worth sacrificing career can mislead some viewers.
For those who watch it for fun is fine, those who do not take any message is also fine but those who get affected by watching shows might start expecting same from their respected bahus' or some would be bahus would start igniring importance of education !
The serial started as 'satte pe satta ' type light comedy but turned into typical show !

Why the role of a tv serial should be of a preacher? do we have lack of enough serious channels and numerous increasing number of religious channels where babajis preach 24*7
?
The channel is for entertainment and the serial is for entertainment.. It is only duty is to entertain people and may be depict the reality around life.
I personally do not take message from serials.. If I have to be taught by someone I would better find an eligible one.. but if you are keen.. take whatever message suits you.. it is showing an open ended fact and whoever is looking for messages.. let them get what they want..The serial has no social teaching responsibility..
I wonder what message one gets from those saas-bahu serials.. would be so keen to know.. may be messages like going to sleep in kanjibharam sarees.. how essesntial is plastic surgery blah blah??
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: coolkitty_23

Well, in defense of what they are showing, actually still happens in many many families across India. I am not surprised they are portraying the C family as old fashioned/traditioned..you have to realize they are a male dominate business family. If they had a daughter or if Vimala was there, may be they would have had a different perspective of girls. That not being the case, you can hardly blame them for what they make use of their bahu. With C being the old minded buddha that he is, malti and Toasty, pretty much chose their fortune. I think the CV's are showing what still runs very true in many families across the country...



So true! So very very truely said!!

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