PaRud are both Right & Wrong with their POVs - Page 5

Originally posted by: jyoti06

So I tried seeing today's episode from both Rudra and Paro's POV and somewhere both r right as well as wrong in their respective places 🤔


Rudra's emotions and grudges against his mother is totally justified because now its crystal clear that she left her family because she had an extra marital affair with Tejawat , no other reason ; Yes as per flashback she wanted to take Rudra with her like any other mother but that cannot b any excuse for the sin she has committed by cheating on her loyal husband ; Why will Rudra's father allow Mala to take away their son with her when she was all set to stay with another man 👎🏼, so I m with Rudra's father on this ; No wonder when Rudra in drunk state was removing his frustration and grudges in front of his mother , she had nothing to justify herself 👎🏼 ... Any son in his place will hate his mother for actually coming back after so many years just because now she has nowhere to go 😡


But having said that , I feel Rudra should have a control over his emotions in these tough times being a BSD officer ; Though the issue is sensitive but his father too is dealing with it na for whom its even more difficult to find out that his wife is back after staying so many yrs with another man but yet we see him calm and composed , I wish Rudra too had similar kind of composure like his father 🤔... His hate is all fine but he should learn to have a control over his emotions ...


Coming to Paro , now I do understand where she is coming from and why she dont want to take any sides but just wants to bring mother-son together again ignoring the past issues 🤔 ; Its because both Mala and Rudra hold a spl place in her life and so she feels loyal towards both parties ; If Rudra is her life today then Mala is someone who gave her life all over again in her childhood when her parents died ; Mala was more of a mother to Paro and so somewhere she does hold that weakness towards Mala despite all her flaws ; She knows Rudra from past few months but she worshipped Mala like her mother and Thakurain for years now and so its human to develop certain weakness for her despite knowing that she was wrong ...


While Rudra has no reason to forgive his mother , Paro I feel has more than one reason here to unite Mother-Son again because first she wants Rudra to come out of his past baggages by learning to forget and forgive , no matter how much diffiult it could be and second she wants Mala to finally come back to her family and redeem herself so that she as a daughter feels satisfied to see her Thakurain getting her life back on track again ...


Paro never denied that Mala is innocent but all Paro wants is to make sure everyone moves on in life which mayb very difficult but not really impossible .. But I guess the only mistake she did as per precap is not giving enough time to Rudra to actually recover from this initial shock and directly getting Mala in the house ; Paro should hv given some time to Rudra before taking this decision because now I fear Rudra in anger will go back to Laila feeling all betrayed by Paro especially after today when Paro said she is with him and then in precap brings Mala home without letting Rudra know about it ...


Anyways now I want to see how Mala and Rudra's father confronts each other and I want to see if Rudra's father is ready to forgive his wife before Rudra decides anything 🤔 ; Also I really hope when husband-wife confronts after so many years , we really get to know the reason why Mala could not stay with her husband and felt the need to cheat on him with another guy .. Was he not sufficient enough to satisfy her .. was that the only reason here ?? 🤔 Or is it some major difference of opinion where mayb Mala wanted to do something , like work mayb and Rudra's father was against it .. I hope we could see the reason here whatever it is ...


Last PaRud feeding moment was good and I do understand Paro wants to see Rudra all happy and come out of his past skeletons but I wish Paro had taken it slowly and not forced him to accept his mother by directly bringing her in the house tomorrow itself 😕 ... Liked what Rudra told Paro that there is a difference between her pain and his pain .. Her parents dint leave her deliberately but had unfortunate death and so she never went through the pain of rejection which he had gone throughout his childhood knowing that his mother left willingly

Overall a good emotional roller coaster episode with good acting by all 3 .. PaRud and Mala 👏👏👏

Jyoti, fab post because you have taken an approach which surprised me. I never thought of the episode in terms of both of them being at the same time right and wrong in their POVs.

Originally posted by: Nandiniraizaada

Jyo about kid Rudra leaving with his mother??

No one can be sure but most kids are more attached to mother as she is the one who caters to everyday needs and provides emotional support

So yes he would have left I guess if we go by the book 😆

Originally posted by: skanda12

Jyoti, fab post 👏 because you have taken an approach which surprised me. I never thought of the episode in terms of both of them being at the same time right and wrong in their POVs.

Actually Mansi there was this debate in the forum about who is right and who is wrong .. so thats why I sort of tried seeing it from both POVs 😆

One sentence in particular hit me in the dialogues yesterday. Almost at the end of the episode, Paro tells Rudra "Even I lost my parents" and she was trying to say to Rudra that he should not take things so seriously that he cannot proceed in life because of this stumbling block of his mother. But he replies "...your mother did not choose to walk out on you. My mother CHOSE that route!"

yeah that dialogue was important and showed the difference between both their pasts .. Paro know her parents had unfortunate death but Rudra does not know why his mother walked out on him and his family .. thats where he is not able to move on

I think this is a major reason why he is unable to live down his mother's actions. I don't think he even resents the fact that his mother had an extra marital affair or didn't want to live with his Dad etc. the only thing that seems to hit is how a mother can CHOOSE the path of leaving her child?

In that case I guess his father got to clear out his doubt that she did tried to take him with her that night but he dint allow .. mayb if Rudra knows this part of the story , he might actually cool down and think of forgiving her 🤔

I don't think Paro has the answer to that! And I don't think Mala also has the answer to that as yet because she has not been asked the question. Now this is making me wonder about one thing: if Rudra resents his mother's CHOICE to leave him, will it make a difference to him if his mother explains that she never CHOSE to leave her son, she wanted to take her son also, but her husband did not allow that.

I just said the same above .. mayb if Mala or his father tells this bit to Rudra , things might just change in his heart .. he might still take his time to forgive her but at least the hate might go away from his mind and heart

See I think Rudra has to make a choice here. Whether he believes feels angry that his Mother CHOSE to leave him or to believe his mother that she never wanted to leave him and only the father made her go away without the son, in which case Rudra may believe his father to be the villain of the piece.

I think his father too should come out clear on this and dont keep him in the dark .. a confession from both father nad mother about proper facts is important here because he is no kid now and understands relationships well .. so he need to know what went wrong and who did what and only then I feel he will b able to make a choice 🤔

The problem with his line of reasoning is that he will end up casting blame on either one of his parents. It is only if he drops this idea of his mother making a choice or his father forcing his mother's choice that he will really get out of this psychological trap of blaming one of his parents and he will grow out of this dilemma. Somehow Paro jas to make him believe in destiny ... that even if life seems as if people are making CHOICES, ultimately everything is a play of destiny and we cannot blame humans for the choices they are forced to make.

yeah its complicated .. but Mala now knows she did a mistake by leaving her family .. so that might b a help as she can say even his father was not totally at fault .. its their fault jointly that they cant make their marriage a success and so Rudra had to face all this ... this might help ... thats why father-mother private interaction is more important before Rudra is told the facts 🤔

Originally posted by: jyoti06

thanks dear 😃

Originally posted by: jyoti06

Originally posted by: BHAVII

Nope Dilsher asking her and she doing it does not sound right here. She is a wife and daughter in law. When you marry you dont marry a person you marry his family as well. And as wife you have to fulfill that famous sanskrit quote - Karye shu mantri, bhojye shu mata and ...

Here karye shu mantri means when hubby is wrong we as a wife have to correct them and take decisions. Not always that decision might please your hubby but then with time things settle down. Especially when peeps intentions are clear and pure.

I know every one is against Mala and her act. I also agree that she was wrong. But that does not mean that Dilsher was right. What if it was other way round and Dilsher had left the family. WOuld you still be cursing him the same way?

Dilsher have done nothing but raised a kid with full of hatred. Its a no no. A child does not deserve this. TBH - going outside the scope of this discussion. This is the truth of any relation. In reality this is exactly what happens when a couple split. The kids reaction to that split, his agony, his issues all are well depicted in this show. Many a times due to issues parents decide to part away and leave behind the legacy of questions for the kids. Most of the time when kids are raised with father they are never emotionally strong. (Strictly my POV). While when raised with mom its a different story,

Originally posted by: BHAVII

Nope Dilsher asking her and she doing it does not sound right here. She is a wife and daughter in law. When you marry you dont marry a person you marry his family as well. And as wife you have to fulfill that famous sanskrit quote - Karye shu mantri, bhojye shu mata and ...

Here karye shu mantri means when hubby is wrong we as a wife have to correct them and take decisions. Not always that decision might please your hubby but then with time things settle down. Especially when peeps intentions are clear and pure.

Yes as a wife and daughter-in-law , she married the full family and its her duty to see where her family's happiness lies but here she is rather thinking where Mala's happiness lies because obviously Rudra or Dilsher wont b delighted to see Mala back in their life without them knowing about it ... stage where I see PaRud relation is standing , where there is yet no ILU or clarity coming from Rudra's side , its important for a wife to get that clarity first before taking his life's decisions ...

I know every one is against Mala and her act. I also agree that she was wrong. But that does not mean that Dilsher was right. What if it was other way round and Dilsher had left the family. WOuld you still be cursing him the same way?

I m not saying Dilsher is right here .. I actually said Mala's mistake mayb bigger than Dislher's msitake .. so both r at fault .. its more about whose fault is more because I m yet to get a clarity on Mala's past story 🤔

Dilsher have done nothing but raised a kid with full of hatred. Its a no no. A child does not deserve this. TBH - going outside the scope of this discussion. This is the truth of any relation. In reality this is exactly what happens when a couple split. The kids reaction to that split, his agony, his issues all are well depicted in this show. Many a times due to issues parents decide to part away and leave behind the legacy of questions for the kids. Most of the time when kids are raised with father they are never emotionally strong. (Strictly my POV). While when raised with mom its a different story,

how do we know Mala would hv been a better mother either .. she choose someone like Tejawat as her lfie partner which is her biggest mistake .. so how do we know she would hv raised Rudra with positivty ? Like I said mayb if Mala would hv raised him , he wolud hv become someone like Tejawat mayb as Tejawat wolud hv been his father ...

So its better to raise a kid carrying hatred than raise a kid becoming a terrorist like Tejawat