Sushpective: Shaken and Stirred! Updated posts 2& 3 - Page 3

Originally posted by: Leesan

Ok,I'm back and here goes!

Any woman ( or man for that matter) who claims not to be in the least bit affected by the revelation that his/her partner had a long term intimate relationship with someone else and now being in such close quarters ,is lying to themselves IMO. Whether that other person is a colleague, ex partner,BFF ,neighbor, whatever. There is that little twinge, pit in the stomach kind of feeling that surfaces when you least expect it, and can eat away at your soul, if allowed to fester. No matter how many times your one and only swears his/her undying love and devotion , the proximity that they share with a former romantic interest can be very unsettling. And that exists even with a relationship based on mutual love and understanding, I know...been there myself. We worry because we're human, and relationships are complicated, precisely because they involve human emotions. No matter how we may try to convince ourselves otherwise ,we can fluctuate between love and despair,trust and doubt, conviction and insecurity more often than we care to admit. Because love is never really an absolute, or perfect...because truthfully neither are we.

Imagine how this situation plays out for a 21/22 year old like Paro, inexperienced and innocent, yet suddenly convinced that she shares a divine connection with a man , who up till this point has been her adversary. Due to external pressures and circumstances, but with her approval, they marry against his wishes and better judgement. He makes it very clear to her that he has no intentions of being an ideal husband, but she accepts the challenge and like many women before her ,she believes with divine assistance she can overcome all obstacles and change this flawed and damaged person. She thinks if only she loves him enough, he'll change and maybe even one day love her back. And just when she thinks things are beginning to look up, then ...crash!!!

Her world is now turned upside down. Nothing is for certain anymore. She is haunted by fear,doubt, insecurity, anger ( at herself mostly!) and humiliation.

At this point, logic and rationale are thrown out the window. You can't see or think straight. You've forgotten every promise, every resolution ,every pact that you've made with God and your bruised ...if not yet broken heart. You just want answers, reassurance, over and over again, till it's seared in your brain and your aching heart.

All you want to know now at this very moment in time, do I really matter to you? And if so, what place do I hold in your life? Please, forget everything and everyone else...just tell me. I need to know!

Originally posted by: habs

Rudra did a good thing by telling Paro the truth. Full marks to him for that and for trying to make it right. Paro was being petty? Probably but even Mother Theresa had doubts Zee. She questioned whether her life's work was worth anything. If it mattered; so if a real person has doubts a fictional character should as well.

No, Ruder promised her nothing. She's ok with that because she figures that one day he will change but now she realizes he might not ever change. Has she made the biggest mistake of her life by marrying a man who can never love her, can never feel anything for her?

She's been fighting for so long and maybe she's tired - maybe she's emotionally done and perhaps she needs time - more than one night to process what he's told her.

He's not at fault but then neither is she. They are trying to find their way; whether it's together or separate. Because say what you will about Paro she deserves more and so does Rudra.

Originally posted by: Leesan

Ok,I'm back and here goes!

Any woman ( or man for that matter) who claims not to be in the least bit affected by the revelation that his/her partner had a long term intimate relationship with someone else and now being in such close quarters ,is lying to themselves IMO. Whether that other person is a colleague, ex partner,BFF ,neighbor, whatever. There is that little twinge, pit in the stomach kind of feeling that surfaces when you least expect it, and can eat away at your soul, if allowed to fester. No matter how many times your one and only swears his/her undying love and devotion , the proximity that they share with a former romantic interest can be very unsettling. And that exists even with a relationship based on mutual love and understanding, I know...been there myself. We worry because we're human, and relationships are complicated, precisely because they involve human emotions. No matter how we may try to convince ourselves otherwise ,we can fluctuate between love and despair,trust and doubt, conviction and insecurity more often than we care to admit. Because love is never really an absolute, or perfect...because truthfully neither are we.

Imagine how this situation plays out for a 21/22 year old like Paro, inexperienced and innocent, yet suddenly convinced that she shares a divine connection with a man , who up till this point has been her adversary. Due to external pressures and circumstances, but with her approval, they marry against his wishes and better judgement. He makes it very clear to her that he has no intentions of being an ideal husband, but she accepts the challenge and like many women before her ,she believes with divine assistance she can overcome all obstacles and change this flawed and damaged person. She thinks if only she loves him enough, he'll change and maybe even one day love her back. And just when she thinks things are beginning to look up, then ...crash!!!

Her world is now turned upside down. Nothing is for certain anymore. She is haunted by fear,doubt, insecurity, anger ( at herself mostly!) and humiliation.

At this point, logic and rationale are thrown out the window. You can't see or think straight. You've forgotten every promise, every resolution ,every pact that you've made with God and your bruised ...if not yet broken heart. You just want answers, reassurance, over and over again, till it's seared in your brain and your aching heart.

All you want to know now at this very moment in time, do I really matter to you? And if so, what place do I hold in your life? Please, forget everything and everyone else...just tell me. I need to know!

Originally posted by: Leesan

Ok,I'm back and here goes!

Any woman ( or man for that matter) who claims not to be in the least bit affected by the revelation that his/her partner had a long term intimate relationship with someone else and now being in such close quarters ,is lying to themselves IMO. Whether that other person is a colleague, ex partner,BFF ,neighbor, whatever. There is that little twinge, pit in the stomach kind of feeling that surfaces when you least expect it, and can eat away at your soul, if allowed to fester. No matter how many times your one and only swears his/her undying love and devotion , the proximity that they share with a former romantic interest can be very unsettling. And that exists even with a relationship based on mutual love and understanding, I know...been there myself. We worry because we're human, and relationships are complicated, precisely because they involve human emotions. No matter how we may try to convince ourselves otherwise ,we can fluctuate between love and despair,trust and doubt, conviction and insecurity more often than we care to admit. Because love is never really an absolute, or perfect...because truthfully neither are we.

Imagine how this situation plays out for a 21/22 year old like Paro, inexperienced and innocent, yet suddenly convinced that she shares a divine connection with a man , who up till this point has been her adversary. Due to external pressures and circumstances, but with her approval, they marry against his wishes and better judgement. He makes it very clear to her that he has no intentions of being an ideal husband, but she accepts the challenge and like many women before her ,she believes with divine assistance she can overcome all obstacles and change this flawed and damaged person. She thinks if only she loves him enough, he'll change and maybe even one day love her back. And just when she thinks things are beginning to look up, then ...crash!!!

Her world is now turned upside down. Nothing is for certain anymore. She is haunted by fear,doubt, insecurity, anger ( at herself mostly!) and humiliation.

At this point, logic and rationale are thrown out the window. You can't see or think straight. You've forgotten every promise, every resolution ,every pact that you've made with God and your bruised ...if not yet broken heart. You just want answers, reassurance, over and over again, till it's seared in your brain and your aching heart.

All you want to know now at this very moment in time, do I really matter to you? And if so, what place do I hold in your life? Please, forget everything and everyone else...just tell me. I need to know!

Originally posted by: Zeeliciousxo

Of course Paro deserves more. I never said she doesn't. I'm going to be honest with you, if Paro was a real life person I would so believe she deserves better than Rudra...if I knew her I would encourage her to run as fast as she can from Junior Ranawat 😆 And when I am criticizing Paro I am not criticizing what the fictional character is doing, I am criticizing the CVs and their eagerness to always play with her character for the sake of the story.

@bold...that's what my problem is. I understand a normal human being realizing something like this, but Paro? Religious people in the real world go through all kinds of pain...but many of them still maintain that core belief of theirs in their God. Why is Paro's belief shaken up so badly? Is she thinking that maybe she misinterpreted all the signs and Bholenath actually never wanted her for Rudra? Hmm ok if Mother Teresa had doubts then why not Paro...I just feel that Paro has more than doubts. She seems confident in her doubts...if that makes any sense.

I have no problem with Paro being shown as a normal human being. I have also dealt with her being shown as a larger than life character. I just don't like how the CVs keep switching between these two portrayals.

Also, I am more than okay with Paro processing what she's been told for however long she wants to. But I just think her behaviour is inconsistent. She wipes his hair but doesn't give him tea? Not consistent behaviour. Either she doesn't do anything for Rudra in her current emotional state or she does it all for him because no matter how he feels about her, she loves him.

I guess at the end of the day it's all about how we connect to a character. You clearly understood Paro today, I didn't. It's ok, not a big deal. I just shared my opinion, that's all. 😊

Originally posted by: Zeeliciousxo

I understand that...trust me, I do...I identified so much with Paro's pain and and confusion on Friday...but the CVs are so inconsistent with her character...one day she's like the reincarnation of Parvati and nothing can shake her...it was because of this divine belief of hers (that Bholenath has destined her to be with Rudra) that she barely reacted after the wedding...she did not take Rudra's vows seriously because she believed that Rudra was meant to be with her and so to hell with the extremely cruel vows!! Now all Rudra has told her is that he has slept with another woman before meeting her...I completely understand her pain after this revelation...I understand her doubts and confusion in general...but is his relationship with Laila such a huge deal that suddenly she's doubting Bholenath or doubting her belief in Bholenath or maybe just doubting her belief in Bholenath's blessing?

And I know all the Paro fans are probably going to run after me for this, but I thought Paro refusing to give tea to Rudra was kind of petty. It's just my opinion. She has always been shown as a bigger than life character, and we all know she loves Rudra despite his "confession", so why is she treating him like he is at fault for something here?? Ok even if she's doubting her place in his life...why does she have to treat the man like he's a criminal? He's done nothing wrong here...even if she's doubting her place in his life...how is that his fault?? He never promised her love or wifely rights. Has she forgotten the 8 hateful vows he took? So how is she suddenly treating him as if it's his fault that her doubts exist? Meh just couldn't understand or connect to Paro's character today.

Full disclosure to people thinking I'm just "out to get Paro": Sometimes I like Rudra more and sometimes I like Paro more, depending on the episode. On Friday I identified and sympathized and understood Paro more...today I identify and sympathize and understand Rudra more. I just wanted to give him a big hug and hold him close today 🤗

Originally posted by: spirit

Hi Sush, thanks for posting...very honest thoughts like someone else mentioned...I did not think you were going to post today. I was not planning on writing anything but I have a few questions.

My initial reaction to what Paro was saying was 😳 it made some sense by the end, sort of... I guess Paro despite saying all those things is jealous...come on Paro admit it, a tiny winy twinge of jealousy has to be there. She raised a very valid point by the end, leaving the Major Saab stunned as well as the audience agreeing, nevermind she confuses you in typical Paro fashion first up😆 Paro always ends up saying the right things... somehow.

Only if Paro would answer, why does she ask that question now? And not earlier...come on admit it, it's got everything to do with emotions triggered due to Laila's truth. You might say a hundred things, but this one truth has forced you to question, whether this marriage is real, will it ever be...was it ever!? She has doubts,...that faith of earlier shaken greatly... her doubts and insecurity are now magnified by that farce of wedding they had. He was drunk, and said all those things he did... was I living in a bubble all these days? Paro has been forced to question... Forget the damn tea major, you r not getting any if that's all I'm too you, a tea making machine - she seems to saying😆 Rattled! Is what comes to mind. Shaken and stirred, so aptly titled.

But then I want to ask her, what is the use of figuring these things out, making him realize or accept what she means to him...what this marriage means and whether is has any significance in his life...when she intends to leave him once he gets better? Let me edit and add here, Paro is in all possibility trying to stay away from thinking about this because, she simply does not want to go through with it, she will deal with it only when the time comes... It won't be an easy one.

That aside, it appears that Paro will finally get a new mangalsutra finally.

KCM went on a break. Possibly to pacify Sumer. Hopefully it was to Jaipur so she will stay a week at the least.

BapuSa got a hair cut between his talk to the jungleee son and before Paro brought him that half-cup cold tea. May be. But looked like it, I only saw the episode once.

Rudra has no idea he is investing in Samrat's new business.

Because Paro thinks, Major brought her home to rescue from the Thakur back then, she is under the impression that that's how he rescues all women facing Thakur's threat.🤪No BaisSa , there is a proper way BSD do this, just send Laila there, she will be much safer. And so will you.

Major saab has no clue, the price of bringing back that elusive smile and the twinkle back in those eyes will cost him those 8 vows.

ps. Shweta. Greatwork with the collages, I hope the tutorials were of some use. We will find out now