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gaymsk

@gaymsk

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Posted: 11 years ago

#61

Originally posted by: MesmerizingSanz

Ok, so basically she is an angel from heaven

yeh i think , i mean i feel like 😆 yes i visit in village spacially rajsthaani village , de use khadi boli , paro tok very softly

Edited by gaymsk - 11 years ago

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#62

Simply I would put it as, nothing divine, simple basic humans... But one cannot pick whom one loves.. and no matter how much one tries, one cannot make a man to or a woman to love you back..

Paro might never have come in Rudra's life and Laila and him would have had their relationship/tumble in the bed all life long. But it still wouldn't have made him love her had it taken even 100 yrs..
Its not Laila's fault or anything lacking in her.. simply that Rudra was never the one for her.. There must be someone else who would appreciate her for who she is.. its just not Rudra..

Just like that it seems the one to appreciate what Paro is, is Rudra.. its just.. what happens..

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SanzBarbie

@SanzBarbie

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Posted: 11 years ago

#63

Originally posted by: princessunara

Sunara check ur scraps hon

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#64

Originally posted by: Msfrootie

Okay that kind of explains things, but then is a man's ego so fragile that he cant handle the independence and self-reliance in a woman? But then that is the stereotype of male lead in every love story.. More so in case of Rudra i guess..

This explanation actually makes me feel bad for Laila (for the first time). If a girl's being independent or having her own mind,her own opinions and the courage and capability to carry out what she wants makes her less worthy of a man's affections, its a sad sad world..

No offence intended, i was merely thinking aloud..

it doesn't make her less worthy of 'every' man's affections di. it just means Rudra was not the man to appreciate those qualities in her in the pov of a lover/soulmate/companion for life.
Its not what suited Rudra's life partner.

There would be a man out there who would consider a fragile thing like Paro that would need protection a too much work or unsuitable to his needs n would prefer a Laila's independence...

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gaymsk

@gaymsk

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Posted: 11 years ago

#65

Originally posted by: princessunara

it doesn't make her less worthy of 'every' man's affections di. it just means Rudra was not the man to appreciate those qualities in her in the pov of a lover/soulmate/companion for life.
Its not what suited Rudra's life partner.

There would be a man out there who would consider a fragile thing like Paro that would need protection a too much work or unsuitable to his needs n would prefer a Laila's independence...

completely agree , its like different ppl have different choices

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CyberOstrich

@CyberOstrich

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Posted: 11 years ago

#66

Originally posted by: ACTywm
edit: sorry I know another really looonnnggg post...just got carried away😳

so the moral of the story is...that none of the three are in love, in this so called love-triangle...they are all on the pathway to love...
Paaro who was in the illusion of idealistic love is now going to face the truth about love...that it is a road filled with thorns, but at the end has beautiful view...is she strong enough to go down it?
Laila, who does love rudra...but doesn't know him...she only loves a side of him, thinking that is all that there is to him, for never in those eight year did she delve deeper to know the true him, ...she will learn that he is not an animal but a human...and it is up to her to decide whether she can accept that...can she love all of him, the soft rudra along with the hard one?
And Rudra...he will find what true love really is...and go with that...he will learn that true love is accepting, understanding and caring, regardless of who or what you are...he will learn that he is capable of giving love as well as receiving it...something he thought he wasn't ever since his mother left...but one of these girls will make him realise that...that it wasn't his fault...his love wasn't in deficiency, it was his mothers'... he needn't shy away from love for it made for him too...it is made for anyone who will give it a chance...😃
n wow...I think I should stop visiting this post to save you all essay upon essay of my musings...😛

@ TM this is such an amazing thread with really insightful posts!

@ACTywm- loved both your posts- very lucid and clear- a delightful read and I agree with almost all you have written!

I agree a lot with the TM, Semanti and ttt1 also. As I mentioned in another post that as much as I cant stand Laila now as they have made her so hammy, worst caricature of a woman scorned. BUT- I cant help but feel that Rudra DOES owe her SOMETHING! He does need to look into this issue and sympatheize a little with Laila and help her somehow to get a closure on this. Yy making her attack the Paro- playing mind games with the WEAKER one here- Paro - whos not actually at fault and teaming her up with Mohini- they have made her to be devil's spawn- very black- they have taken the easiest way out! My issue is that even if Rudra thought that it was purely 'zaroorat' based relationship from his side- how could he assume that that it would be the same for Laila- and she has given him indications that she didnt think so! She has told him that she will not stand another woman coming in between them, she has told her that she has been exclusive only to him in the last 8 years- therefore Rudra would have some sort of inclination about where she is coming from! Although the person he was earlier, when he was with her, would actually shrug it away cruelly and tell her on her face that he does not give a DAMN- and he has done that bluntly lot of times earlier to her! BUT the person he is now- with whatever LITTLE changes in him- does need to retrospect and reflect on the manifestations of this 8 year relationship and the fact that the other part of that relationship was infact NOT in the same zone as him! I also can understand that if they'd shown a somewhat SANE Laila- maybe this convo/ discussion would have been more VALID! But things as they stand- I dont see chance for that kind of maturity.

Maybe at a later stage, if the makers ARE WILLING to take that route, when Rudra has evolved more and is more introspective and willing to let go of his mistrust, biases and has actually opened up his heart to positivity- then it would be a treat to show Rudra himself approaching Laila- just to give her some sort of closure- or maybe that could come at Paro's behest! BUT - Highly Unlikely scenario- it seems more that Laila is going to become even 'blacer' if she phasoes Sumair and comes back to haunt RP later! Easier na- for junta to 'categorise' people in black and white!

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ARHIFAIRYTALE

@ARHIFAIRYTALE

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Posted: 11 years ago

#67

Originally posted by: incandescent
Unres...

Interesting question.

Whether or not Rudra adheres to the age old of belief, is something only Rudra knows till now, so until Rudra voices it, I am going to give him the benefit of doubt.

The way I see it, theirs was a relationship with terms and conditions. No promises were made. There was no affection from Rudra's side to begin with. The only thing that was there was desire. He was seeking for a release and he found it with Laila. He went there every night, found comfort and even talked about his mother, when he couldn't talk about it with anyone else. He found it easy to talk to her because she has no connection with his life, his family.

There has to be reasons beside physical attraction to fall in love with someone and that could be any one or a combination of things. Common interests, respect, admiration...I am stating a few things that comes to mind right now.

The relationship was always about Rudra...what he wanted...what he needed...and Laila provided that. It was never about THEM...never about her. Whatever I have understood about Laila, she was all for pleasing Rudra...that's the only thing that mattered to her. At some point, she fell for him, but what did she do about it? Did she ever talk about herself?...did she ever want Rudra to be the listener for a change...I doubt it. I don't see how the relationship could have evolved from Rudra's side.

Even when she fell in love with him (although I think it's obsession)...she was never assertive. She was happy to be in the no-strings attached relationship...she was happy with her status as his mistress. Even though she desired for more and dropped hints, she never really stood up for herself, until Paro came into the picture. She would have continued with their arrangement.

From Rudra's POV he doesn't owe her anything. He never made any false promises.

As for why he fell for Paro? Well, it started off with attraction...but then it evolved. He really fell for the person that is Paro. She managed to strike a chord with him which Laila failed to so. It's not that he didn't feel anything for her in eight years. He did say that he considered a friend, but nothing more than that.

I don't really feel sorry for Laila because she knew what she was getting into. She isn't a victim, she wasn't cheated.

And I doubt Laila might have found it difficult to accept this kind of relationship. It was always implied that she was a promiscuous lady.

I also feel that Laila is OBSESSED with Rudra and doesn't love him. The main reason being that when Laila said that she wanted to separate PaRud, she not only said that she wanted Paro to stay out of Rudra's life and become her's but she also said that she wanted the JAANWAR Rudra back. If Laila ''loved'' Rudra so much then she could have just said that she wanted Rudra to marry her. Obviously, if Laila wants the old Rudra back then this also means that Laila herself doesn't want to marry him. She just wants him to be her's, just like an obsession.

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Deepthi

@Beauceant

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Posted: 11 years ago

#68

ACTywm, another brilliant write up.. Loved reading it and agreed with most of it. Its this bit I still cant get fully.. May be its just I'm too much of a non believer..

Originally posted by: ACTywm

four major life shattering things took place in major rudra pratap ranawat's life...his father's near death, his suspension, his marriage and then his near death...

These four things did happen, what was Paro's role in all this?

1. Father's near death--> Suspect, later proven innocent

2. Suspension--> in a way she is the cause for it. Sumer may have taken the photo but she is the one who created the situation in the first place

3. Marriage--> Again society and circumstances force him into accepting her proposal and saving his skin. Again a situation created by her rash act of publicly proposing to him in front of a gathering of people who matter a lot to him professionally

4. His near death--> He does not know about her pact with Shivji but is aware she went bare foot to pray for him and has since been his care taker, nurse, support all in one.

Its only the fourth event that has any positive role for Paro, but even before that during the Jaipur track he's already falling for her. Her pain hurts him etc..

Through all these 4 the only common factor for Paro is her persistence.. Persistence in making him forgive her, approve of her and finally like her.. But that is no mean feat and in it makes an effect on him..

As you said they are in the path to love. Lets see what happens.😊

Edited by Msfrootie - 11 years ago

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Deepthi

@Beauceant

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Posted: 11 years ago

#69

Originally posted by: princessunara

it doesn't make her less worthy of 'every' man's affections di. it just means Rudra was not the man to appreciate those qualities in her in the pov of a lover/soulmate/companion for life.
Its not what suited Rudra's life partner.

There would be a man out there who would consider a fragile thing like Paro that would need protection a too much work or unsuitable to his needs n would prefer a Laila's independence...

Sunara, I'm not saying he should have fallen in love with Laila, rather about his statement - koi rishtey nahin, koi bandhan nahi, koi bharosa nahi, koi bhavanayein nahi. How can one spend every night for 8years with one person and say he feels NOTHING for her. Paro may be his true love, made for each other and everything, but is Laila NOTHING?

It seemed more like he's in denial..

About Laila's independence not being the thing for Rudra, I do agree.. The alpha male retrosexual that he's portaryed as it makes sense he will ultimately fall for a girl who is a huge boost to his ego.