It has been 15 years! UPDATED NOTE - Page 5

Originally posted by: DiyaS

I understand where you're coming from, Sunara ... I don't object to showing Rudra's pain, but I ALSO want to see Paro's hurt in this situation, where she is the victim on all fronts, and has no recourse to any comfort whatsoever. And today I definitely felt her pain was shortchanged ... so I also felt impatient with Rudra's tears.

The makers need to strike a balance ... they did it beautifully in the first few weeks of the show, but they are leaning too much to Rudra's side now ... and that is a big mistake, because Paro and her pain will connect more with the audience. More women watch these shows than men, and Paro's situation is something that many can relate to ... but it is being glossed over.

Originally posted by: tattle-tale

I don't think it's a question of dehumanizing Rudra, MKM.

Nor do I think the TM is debating his suffering-- she is commenting on his inability to deal with his pain and thereby how his actions are coloured by his past.

That seems like a perfectly legitimate thing to be talking about.

I am probably terribly insensitive, but I find myself tiring of this effort to wrench sympathy by giving the male leads a traumatic past, and milking it for time immemorial. Without going into the rights and wrongs of it, it is lazy story-telling.

I like the occasional hints they drop where Rudra is aware of how damaged he is. Those moments are rare and genuine. And it speaks of a more complex characterization process.

I am not going to compare Rudra and Paro-- they are two very different characters. But I do feel it is a valid point to consider when some viewers not only stop empathizing with the characters, but also start getting annoyed with their actions.

Are we slowing down too much? Are we being repetitive? Is the direction poor? Could the acting improve? I am certainly forced to consider these possibilities.

Originally posted by: princessunara

thank u very much! i was annoyed today with the way Paro's suffering being shown was short changed and his was given more prominence... it wasn't as in weighting theirs against each other..
its simply annoyance at the lack of portrayal of one and too much portrayal of the other..

See tht is the thing this too much milking thing after a while gets annoying. i want to connect to these characters and when the disparities show u feel resentful and it makes u question some things!

@red - that would be a very good character development side i would like to watch.. and probably will be able to empathize with him then.. rather than feeling annoyed..

I always wonder is it that its men who seem to be story writers that has resulted in this one dimensional writing!

Originally posted by: princessunara

sorry Vicky i am annoyed and sorry for offending u.. with the disparity of portrayals i feel as if they r hiding and not showing her pain as they expect women to need less sympathy than men.

its not just this show.. i think i tried to generalize too without taking names as its not allowed here.. it was more about the portrayal of men with mummy issues in Indian shows these past few yes..