It has been 15 years! UPDATED NOTE - Page 3

Originally posted by: CandYlicious_S

I understand you point of view. But it is just too easy to ask someone to get over something with whom they were emotionally bonded.. She was his only relation in life who ACTUALLY was a source of affection and warmth for him... He still misses her ALOT!!

Regarding crying, I guess he is just like a coconut.. Appears astrong and muscular, but he is very emotionally weak.. He knows two ways to channel his pain. One is anger and one is by shedding tears in moments of loneliness..

Regarding Paro, every person has a different way of dealing with pain and loss.. She is VERY emotionally stable and has managed to accept life as it is..she is a girl who ACCOMMODATES according to her situations.. While Rudra cannot do it.. He becomes restless when he faces his fears..

Both are different in dealing with their respective pain. And this is portrayed very aptly up til now :)

Originally posted by: princessunara

no worries, we will agree to disagree on this.. cz this disparity with the emotional side shows is actually making me annoyed so my sympathy lies less cz i feel as if 'if she is not bawling her eyes out why can't he man up too!'

anyway i respect ur POV

Originally posted by: princessunara

thanks Melek good to know i am not the only one to feel the disconnect!

Originally posted by: --ILoveSanaya--

well dear I am annoyed to see rudra cry every 5 minute

it would made more sence for me if he breaks down when he face his mother ,,but I feel nothing now,,seeing him cry every 5 minute

plus ,,,it's known that if someone cry over something he will feel better ,,,but here rudra cried for 15 years ,,is that even possible + he is a man for god sake

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

Princess, I haven't watched today's episode so can't comment on the context. But there is a lot if difference between grief and betrayal. You can't equate one with the other. It is always difficult to come to terms with the fact that the person you love the most, your mother left you and went away for someone else. Mutual divorce is again different than one of the parents running away.
And the other thing is that just because he is 28 yrs old and he is a man doesn't mean he can't be emotional and cry. Why do we expect men not to cry? Isn't that a wrong image. There has been an increase in suicide rates among men in the west in the last few years. The need to portray a macho image is stated as one of the reasons.

But I whole heatedly agree that Paro's pain isn't getting the focus it should.

I understand your POV Sunara. But the problem is when his mother left, he was deeply hurt and suffered a betrayal. He is the wounded little child who never really healed. He didn't have anyone around him who could soothe him or help him get over it. His father was unable to provide him the solace he needed because he himself was bitter.

Paro atleast had her mami, cousin and friends who showered her with love and her situation was also different. Her parents had died and Rudra's mom abandoned him. Paro had a stable environment so she healed and she is far stronger emotionally.

What Rudra needed was love, care and possibly a mother figure which her aunt could have provided but didn't provide. He couldn't share his feelings and he kept it all bottled up, which results in occasional emotional outbursts.

I haven't seen today's episode yet so I can't really comment on it.

But I completely agree that they need to focus more on Paro's suffering as well to balance it out.

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

Men don't cry? When did men become robots?