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prettypri

@prettypri

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Posted: 11 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: princessunara

the issue here is they exaggerate his side when it should have been MUCH MUCH less!! and ignore hers almost completely!
Today was one rare scene they started off with for Paro.. and 2 days back a tiny bit of flashbacks of her other wedding day.. I mean if they want to exaggerate why not do both.. so i am actually feeling kinda ridiculous rather than empathy/sympathy as i should be feeling for him!

But the two are different issues aren't they.

His pain is not triggered by the same cause as hers is so why lose sympathy for him because hers is not shown.

They have different issues!

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Sunara

@princessunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: spate22
Well, I blame his dad!! He did not comfort his child when she left!! Instead he drank, and showed him the harshness of reality!! But his mother isn't dead either!! So, that makes it worse!! All he knows is that she left him!!

Shreya

sigh.. i dunno if anything justifies or not.. but as an adult well.. i dunno..

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Sunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: --ILoveSanaya--
Ditto
you said it all dear 👍🏼

So all i have to tell Rudra is get over it! it has been bloody 15 yrs!! 🥱

Not meant to offend.. but seriously think about what u will do if u find a 28 year old man in real life bawling his eyes out over the fact that his mummy left him and went with another man 15 yrs back!
I am so fed up 🥱

thanks Melek good to know i am not the only one to feel the disconnect!

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CravingKhana

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: princessunara

sigh i am annoyed mostly that they make that so big n make Paro's suffering seem less when its actually the other way around!

Anyway i think more than the situation i am fed up of the portrayals.. that was what i was trying to tell.. emotions r ok.. showing it is also fine.. but NOT this OTT way! I just cannot connect due to my skepticism of the manner of portrayal!

True there seems to be more justice done for Rudra's character than Paro or event eh story line...

Paro to me seems to be more the kind that could be the one that he accuses her to be...for the lack of emotions or the tremendous turbulence she must be feeling...

the song today was supposed to bring it out ...but it turned out to be a more Rudra issue in the end...

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would like to keep it personal.. :P ;)

@CandYlicious_S

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Posted: 11 years ago

#15

I understand you point of view. But it is just too easy to ask someone to get over something with whom they were emotionally bonded.. She was his only relation in life who ACTUALLY was a source of affection and warmth for him... He still misses her ALOT!!

Regarding crying, I guess he is just like a coconut.. Appears astrong and muscular, but he is very emotionally weak.. He knows two ways to channel his pain. One is anger and one is by shedding tears in moments of loneliness..

Regarding Paro, every person has a different way of dealing with pain and loss.. She is VERY emotionally stable and has managed to accept life as it is..she is a girl who ACCOMMODATES according to her situations.. While Rudra cannot do it.. He becomes restless when he faces his fears..

Both are different in dealing with their respective pain. And this is portrayed very aptly up til now :)

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Sunara

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Posted: 11 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: prettypri
Honestly I don't agree completely with your viewpoint.
If you know where your parent went and why you could probably reconcile but in this case his mother abandoned him and he doesn't know why...she didn't tell him she was going away and in such a case the child automatically blames himself!
Given a father like Dilsher and all the taunts he must have heard as a child and the fact that his hope that his mother would come for him was cruelly dashed I think all this leaves an everlasting impression!

And he is not moping about it all the time is he,,,,something has triggered the flashback all the times he has cried!

And frankly in Paros case also she has nightmares still about her parents doesn't she...but she knows what happened to them and that they didn't leave her and go!!!she doesn't hate them or feel betrayed by them...in her case it's sadness that she lost them..!

For a guy who loves his mother but has to deal with feelings of hatred and abandonment at the same time it is worse...it doesn't matter what the gender is when it comes to such feelings!

You can say they should show more of Paros pain and that's fine but to say Rudra should get over it is a bit harsh!

My POV again...no offence meant...😊

no worries, we will agree to disagree on this.. cz this disparity with the emotional side shows is actually making me annoyed so my sympathy lies less cz i feel as if 'if she is not bawling her eyes out why can't he man up too!'

anyway i respect ur POV

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prettypri

@prettypri

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Posted: 11 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: princessunara

is the portrayal equally good? that is what i am asking. this glorification of that one side by the shows? i am honestly fed up!

In this case unlike in the case of the other female lead I assume you are talking about Paro herself said that she never felt mami showed any difference!

And Rudra didn't feel like a charity case...he felt worthless ever since his mother left him..!

In the previous case I agree that the guys pain was exaggerated and they built it up to ridiculous levels!

But here the guy has a valid reason...and the situation in the show is such that he is back where all this happened and so naturally there are more triggers.

But yes they can show her thinking more about her family and what she lost as they did today...when she sang the song that comforts her!

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CravingKhana

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Posted: 11 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: --ILoveSanaya--
Ditto
you said it all dear 👍🏼

So all i have to tell Rudra is get over it! it has been bloody 15 yrs!! 🥱

Not meant to offend.. but seriously think about what u will do if u find a 28 year old man in real life bawling his eyes out over the fact that his mummy left him and went with another man 15 yrs back!
I am so fed up 🥱

There are many the world over ...and hopefully you don't belittle their pain if you have a chance to witness it ...

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Sultan_Of_Swing

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Posted: 11 years ago

#19

Princess, I haven't watched today's episode so can't comment on the context. But there is a lot if difference between grief and betrayal. You can't equate one with the other. It is always difficult to come to terms with the fact that the person you love the most, your mother left you and went away for someone else. Mutual divorce is again different than one of the parents running away.
And the other thing is that just because he is 28 yrs old and he is a man doesn't mean he can't be emotional and cry. Why do we expect men not to cry? Isn't that a wrong image. There has been an increase in suicide rates among men in the west in the last few years. The need to portray a macho image is stated as one of the reasons.

But I whole heatedly agree that Paro's pain isn't getting the focus it should.

Edited by Naach_Basanti - 11 years ago

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Tanisha99

@Tanisha99

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Posted: 11 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: princessunara

is the portrayal equally good? that is what i am asking. this glorification of that one side by the shows? i am honestly fed up!

Agree with you on this.. CVs should show both character's emotion and trauma equally .. I think Thankurain's track is coming up.. So they are focusing more on his emotion..

But i have no issue with Rudra's emotion in todays episode.. i am so touched

Edited by Tanisha99 - 11 years ago