Pehla Pyar- Rehaan Vs Shaad- Can you compare love?

So, since the story is at a standstill🥱, I felt like studying this concept of love.😊

This idea suddenly came to me when I thought of Shaad...and then Rehaan.

I thought it'd be worth it to study them both wrt their feelings for Sanam...And hopefully come to a conclusion ...Of course, when it comes to love, there is no comparison...So I feel like just putting down my thoughts and hopefully get some inputs from here. (And I do mean NO BUTCHERING COMMENTS please😳...would be really grateful if anyone could contribute from Shaad's or Rehaan's POV. Not including Ahil because it wouldn't be an unbiased discussion..plus...Sanam reciprocates Ahil's feelings , so that'd be really unfair too.)

So this is about Ek Haseena and Do Deewane.

A haseena who is unaware of what her deewane felt for her, perhaps...or perhaps we will know as the story progresses...

Rehaan: He is the one who deserved Sanam's love, by all means. If one can actually deserve love...IMO, love is unconditional and therefore no one needs to deserve it...It is freely given according to the giver's wish...and by that logic, Sanam deserves all the love she can get from anyone and everyone...and she can choose who she wants to give her heart to.

Getting back to Rehaan...He is the one who actually got the blessings from Badi Ammi...THE ONLY ONE...and by all means, he is the one who should have married Sanam. He stood with her through thick and thin...bought a ring with the intention of marrying her...and finally left his house because he couldn't take it that his true love was wrested away from him. Up till there, Rehaan's love story was perfect. He gave up his love for his brother...or because he could not overrule his powerful Ammi...whatever...it remains that he could never proclaim his love to Sanam. Is that love to be mourned? Or does it die because he did fall for someone else and decided to move on?

Pehla Pyar- First Love-

"Maybe not," she said as we came to the car. "But maybe that isn't so bad. You can't love anyone that way more than once in a lifetime. It's too hard and it hurts too much when it ends. The first boy is always the hardest to get over, Haven. It's just the way the world works."
Sarah Dessen, That Summer

"No, this trick won't work... How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? "
Albert Einstein

Is this what Sanam was to Rehaan? Or did he move on too quickly?

Shaad: A child wedded to the Army- A boy who swore never to let a woman come in the path of his profession - or not allow his duty not being able to do justice to a wife...He fell in love...at first sight.

Quite unlike Rehaan, actually. He knew nothing about Jannat/ Sanam- save that she had a beautiful smile and an innocent soul...and he just allowed himself to fall head over heels- unheeding the consequences, disregarding the implications to her future...Is his love selfish? If so, was not Rehaan's too? Did they both not love her not knowing what her choices are?

But...Does that make their First love insignificant?

And ...Is Shaad's First love his only love? Does this first love lose its sheen if he ever moves on?

"True love, like any other strong and addicting drug, is boring " once the tale of encounter and discovery is told, kisses quickly grow stale and caresses tiresome... except, of course, to those who share the kisses, who give and take the caresses while every sound and color of the world seems to deepen and brighten around them. As with any other strong drug, true first love is really only interesting to those who have become its prisoners.
And, as is true of any other strong and addicting drug, true first love is dangerous."
Stephen King, Wizard and Glass

These are just some thoughts...

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Would really love some comments...really hoping there will be no judging here.😳

Originally posted by: KhatamKahani

It's not about moving on from first love. It's about moving on to a sister and that too an identical twin sister.

Rehan-Seher, I and others mentioned back when it happens that it wasn't developed and it wasn't believable that he *didn't* see Sanam in her when he fell for her. Maybe after falling for her, then he began to view Seher as Seher, but his process of falling for her was due to Sanam. You see it in the say he kept having flashbacks of her till he didn't suddenly. It's not that it couldn't have been shown better with him falling for Seher...it could've been much better handled and shown. But the way it happened, no he definitely did fall for Seher due to Sanam.

Then the writers wanted us to forget Sehan-Sanam. I said this during AaHer days that that broke bangle scene with Rehan and AaHer would be the last it would be acknowledged, and in that scene it was only subtly acknowledged.

Next was only when Aahil felt bad about kicking him out of the house--but the reason not spoken or bothered with. While this is natural to not mention it, it's also indicative that audience shouldn't remember the reason or forget it, whatever.

Then Rehan's death...see the flashbacks they used for Sanam-Rehan and it shows even more. (But to be fair here, Aahil-Rehan flashbacks could've been better and used some older ones which had nothing to do with Sanam--like where he told Aahil he was a good man, etc.)

Anyway. Even with all of this taken into account...Shaad-Jannat crossed much further than Rehan-Jannat. and I can see how some can accept Rehan-Seher but not Shaad-Seher.

In the end, it doesn't matter.

I don't see Shaad-Seher happening. If it does, it shows how little it's about Seher--and I'm not just talking about the CVs here.

Originally posted by: KhatamKahani

It's not about moving on from first love. It's about moving on to a sister and that too an identical twin sister.

Rehan-Seher, I and others mentioned back when it happens that it wasn't developed and it wasn't believable that he *didn't* see Sanam in her when he fell for her. Maybe after falling for her, then he began to view Seher as Seher, but his process of falling for her was due to Sanam. You see it in the say he kept having flashbacks of her till he didn't suddenly and had daydreams and staring sessions at Sunheri. It's not that it couldn't have been shown better with him falling for Seher...it could've been much better handled and shown. But the way it happened, no he definitely did fall for Seher due to Sanam.

Then the writers wanted us to forget Sehan-Sanam. I said this during AaHer days that that broke bangle scene with Rehan and AaHer would be the last it would be acknowledged, and in that scene it was only subtly acknowledged.

Next was only when Aahil felt bad about kicking him out of the house--but the reason not spoken or bothered with. While this is natural to not mention it, it's also indicative that audience shouldn't remember the reason or forget it, whatever.

Then Rehan's death...see the flashbacks they used for Sanam-Rehan and it shows even more. (But to be fair here, Aahil-Rehan flashbacks could've been better and used some older ones which had nothing to do with Sanam--like where he told Aahil he was a good man, etc.)

Anyway. Even with all of this taken into account...Shaad-Jannat crossed much further than Rehan-Jannat. and I can see how some can accept Rehan-Seher but not Shaad-Seher.

In the end, it doesn't matter.

I don't see Shaad-Seher happening. If it does, it shows how little it's about Seher--and I'm not just talking about the CVs here.

Originally posted by: micshy

Soup 🤗

U r back here again with ur amazing insightful post ... U know how i love reading, commenting n discussing with u 😳

Okay its a bit if continuation from our discussion the other day,only that we discussed Rehaan,

As i said previously too. I thought it was a grave injustice to Rehaan's character n the frst love he had fr Sanam , cz his was really the genuine n real love ... His feelings for her were really genuine, it was not like an infatuation,as was it passed on not only by the Writers but by some of his "fans" too, i thought that was an insult to the guy's pure feelings ...

I still remember during the dargaah sequence ( one of the most beautiful sequence ever in the history of QH, for me both the 1st AsYa meeting n SaHilAan dargaah sequence are at par) Rehaan said "Buhat baar apki chaukat pe sar jhukaya pr kuch manga nahi, aj mangta hun Sanam ko hmesha khush rakhen,mete aur Sanam k beech koi rishta to nahi phir b lagta hai aik dori se bandh gye haipr aaj ye hath uthen hain , vo paas hoti hai to dil ko sakoon milta hai, itne barso mein aj phli baar ehsas hua hai k is seene mein ek dil b haiab ye to tu hi janey k is dil ki dharkanen meri kahani ko kahan le jaati hain" so beautiful n poetic ... That was his "pehla nasha pehla khumaar" n was beautiful... The best thing they knew each other before hand, they shared a comfort level, they understood eavh other. That ws one love apart from SaHil that i could hv shipped. Cz it was relatable

So his first love was a special one , n it was given its due till they brought in the Sehaan angle, i never could get why his feelings fr Sanam werre never again heeded, it should hv been given a proper closure, why did they get brushed aside asere infatuation. One n only reason i could not connect with SeHan story despite being an open mind n neutral about it ...

Shaad... Okay will try to get as neutral as possible, see i never had any issues regarding Shaad falling in live with Sanam, he was destined to, n he had all the reason to fall in love with her, but the way he was shown falling in love with her so soon, that took away the charm, connectivity n relatable factor, they did not even have a meaningful talk, n he was in love boom, if they had shown some really meaningful scenes instead of cheap tactics of getting Him doing her blouse, i may hv found a connect, but its still quite indigestable fr me...

The concept was good , a man who had just duty as his first n firemost love n priority but how he gets charmed by a girl not belonging to her, i wish the execution was as good as it had seemed.

Originally posted by: simran_singh_24

Lovely post CS👏

Hmm, first love?Can anyone forget? IMO, the idea of love itself changes from first to final, with many stops in between as we keep changing.

I don't know whether to call what Rehan felt for Sanam as love.If it was he couldn't have moved on or wouldn't have given up so easily.

Is Sanam Shad's first love? I don't know this either. Didn't he ever feel anything for the girl he was supposed to marry? Can he love Sanam w.o knowing Sanam?will he love Jinnat when she becomes Sanam?

I've concluded Rehan's love for Sanam as infatuation and Shaad's an obsession/delusion.