Originally posted by: trina2010
Why would someone judge a man and woman differently? I don't know about others but I know I wont. I never did. When QH1 happened it was ASAD who I used to bash for his preconceived notion and being a complete MCP. I felt more than Billi Asad was guilty for Zoyas torture by that cat since he was blinded in his faith for completely covered tehzeeb e afta women . He never believed anything against Billi and he did suffer a lot till his last breath. Most of us bashed him left and right all the time and never gave him any privilege for being a man or an eye candy.
Why should it be different for Sunheri? If we have to sympathize her we should have done the same with Billi as well. So far where's the difference? Both are planted by Razia into someone else's house to ruin their happiness.Where Billi came to spy on ASAD and find some stuffs for Razia , sunheri actually replaced another woman who happens to be her lookalike. Sunheris agenda is similar to Billis . She must know that her lookslike have been harmed somehow and kept away from her family while she is living her life and even conning her husband. Sorry but her being heartbroken by Rehan doesn't count. She decided to keep Rehan oblivious to her past and it backfired on her. Now Just because Rehan won't accept her , she can't decide to break another couple so much in love with each other for her greed. If we accept and understand her reasons then we should have done the same with Bilii as well. Billi was rejected by ASAD and became dangerous . Here Sunheri got rejected by Rehan and ruining people's lives. Where's the difference? None of us supported Billi ever or try to see her POV ever? If Sunheri had no one to care for her , we never saw anyone caring for Billi as well. She might have come from a harsh situation as well but none of us were sympathetic to her. EVER. She even had a stone eye and often got mocked by people around her for that . If I remenber correctly no one ever supported her . Sunheri is actually aiding to a kidnapping and conning as well. She is a criminal and there's no bad or good crime in the court of law. Kidnapping and keeping someone captive while playing her entire family is no way better than killing somebody.
So far there's no difference between Billi and
Sunheri . However IF she still grows conscience and helps finding Sanam then ofcourse she will be different from Billi. Billi was unable to get control over her greed and I really hope Sunheri would. Otherwise IMO no amount of redemption would be good for her.
I know she will be forgiven by her lost family and Of course Sanam but I hope she gets the chance to redeem herself only after getting her share of punishment. Sorry but so far I fail to sympathize with a woman like her.
Trina, I usually agree with you, but in this case I have to disagree! Suneheri is NOT like Billi! Billi was never shown to question her actions? She never thought of sparing anyone? She NEVER thought if what she was doing was wrong? She was basically a psychopath. She even told Zoya that she HERSELF caused the blindness in one eye?
She used to do insane things like set herself on fire and pretend to have an abusive husband, all to get sympathy? She used to try to kill people? She always thought only of herself and we NEVER saw her show empathy to anyone? But Suneheri started to make a connection with Rehan and the more she got to know him, the worse she felt about conning him, and in the end she didnt even do it?
But once she got rejected by him, she went back to her conning ways, coz she didnt see the point of changing? She felt disillusioned? I don't think people here UNDERSTAND why she is the way she is? She was alone from age 2, and she was brought up by a thief and a prostitute? WHY would she have such a grand conscience that she will always be feeling guilty about robbing someone?
Also, the other point is that she does feel bad when she sees that Aahil loves Sanam. IF she had no conscience, she would have launched that lantern with him, she would have slept in the same room with him, she would not have spent time thinking about how much Aahil loves Sanam and she wont have told Razia that she cant marry Aahil coz he loved SANAM? So I dont agree that Suneheri is just like Billi? She is NOTHING like her. Yes she wants money and she is selling her soul for it. But people have reasons for doing what they do? Even people who have a basic good nature can be currupted by their situation and their upbringing. Even the BEST people can be swayed into bad by keeping BAD company?
But everytime someone acts in a less than perfect way, especially a women, we cant just call her a "Heartless vamp" and close the topic. That is what I meant by women are judged harsher than men. We find imperfect behavior in a women a lot less palatable than in a man! This is a fact!
Even with Billi. I actually felt bad for her when she told Rehan that she was not able to be there for him, coz she was an unwed Mother and could not publicly acknowledge him! THAT part is true. But the rest of what she did is not worth sympathizing with! But for THAT part, I did feel sympathy for her. Because now that I am a Mother, I know how much it would hurt, if I could not acknowledge by own child because I was unable to do so in front of society.
Billi is a VERY BAD women. But for that moment, I felt sympathy for her. I always wanted to know why she was the way she was? But it is Gul Khan's fault that she never gave us a proper back story? So how can we feel anything but disgust for this women? But we DO know Suneheri's back story, so we can feel some empathy for her situation, coz at a young age, she was left abandoned without parents to fend for herself. A child who used to have a loving family.
I dont agree with those that say that people are making excuses for her coz she is ASYA's daughter. On the contrary it is the people that expect her to have an elevated conscience are the one's that are expecting BETTER from her coz she is ASYA's daughter? If this was any old Vamp, would we be even having this discussion? A vamp is a vamp right? Did we question NIDA's motives? Did we say that SHE should have a conscience about Conning a close friend? Suneheri dosent even know these people? So why are we expecting so much better from a run of the mill VAMP, which is what people are saying she is? Contradictory isnt it?
Edited by MrDarcyfan - 10 years ago
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