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RandomSquared

@RandomSquared

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Posted: 11 years ago

#21

ugh but does asad have to forgive rashid. i feel like rashid is just getting off way to easy for everything he did.

anyway great post. i think relationships are messy...it gets rly hard to figure them out esp when u have the find of family asad has. but yea...asad staying back for dilshad is 100% correct. its not about who means more to u its not kinda hard to say no to ur crying scared mother who's husband is about to die lol

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Andrea

@DreA

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Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: -Shayari-

thanks Drea babe.

I love your mom too. 🤣 she liked my post from yesterday soo she is my priority. 🤣

😆 😆 😆

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@RosyRosh

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Posted: 11 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: RandomSquared
ugh but does asad have to forgive rashid. i feel like rashid is just getting off way to easy for everything he did.
anyway great post. i think relationships are messy...it gets rly hard to figure them out esp when u have the find of family asad has. but yea...asad staying back for dilshad is 100% correct. its not about who means more to u its not kinda hard to say no to ur crying scared mother who's husband is about to die lol

He doesnt have to frogive him.. he just needs to HEALTHILY and properly come to terms and confront him with how much anger he has for him.. let it all out..not hide in his hatred..

but thank you for responding!

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-AppleOfMaEye-

@-AppleOfMaEye-

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Posted: 11 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: -Shayari-

Well i dont agree that Asad is the "perfect" son.. i dont think anyone is EVER perfect. and nor has he forgiven his father.. i think he is taking baby steps.. to confronting and finally letting out his inner frustrations and not just showing anger.. finally speaking for once.. and confronting the man who he claims to hate but we all know he loves him deep down.. thats why he is mad at him so much.

But the rest.. about the prioritizing.. in many cases it is true that sometimes parents arent deserving of that priority.. but in QH particular and with Asad and his MOM in particular.. i just feel like its silly to even suggest that Asad was wrong to stay back because of his mother and not zoya.. that was my issue.

but i liked your points! well said.

he's just on the way to be forgiving Rashid too.. i believe,, cox he said he wouldn't ever step @ SM but his silly ladies always put him through that...😆😆

now once he is in SM, then dilshaad would ask him to meet rashid,, asad was thinking that rashid was faking it,, but he would get to see a really sick rashid.. for smtime the baby inside him craving fah love of his dad would make him forget everything,,
then in few days mystery of razia n gudia factory may open up,as haider is already there...

agree nobdy is perfec,, buh as much as good a person in asad's place can be, he is being.. he would meet rashid despite of enduring 17 years of rejection,, his inner would definitely melt down...

side note: i don't want asad to forgive rashid

Edited by -Maliha- - 11 years ago

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@RosyRosh

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Posted: 11 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: BlahBytes
Rosh! 🤗 You no talk to me these days 😒

As to your question, it is a balance I think, very dependant on circumstances, situations etc. I have been married a short while but have learned that both people in the relationship need to work at prioritizing. There are times when your spouse takes a wee bit more importance but no one ever can take the place of one's parents. When they need you, you just are there. No second thoughts about it at all.

My two cents that 😳

Of course i talk to you! 😲 SAHUUU 🤗

and agreed very dependent on circumstance but in ASADs case.. his mother IS and will ALWAYS be number 1.

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Monica

@mochhug

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Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: RandomSquared
ugh but does asad have to forgive rashid. i feel like rashid is just getting off way to easy for everything he did.
anyway great post. i think relationships are messy...it gets rly hard to figure them out esp when u have the find of family asad has. but yea...asad staying back for dilshad is 100% correct. its not about who means more to u its not kinda hard to say no to ur crying scared mother who's husband is about to die lol

@ bold 😆 True.

And as for forgiving Rashid, I agree he shouldn't. Not yet anyway, and definitely not for his complete negligence of Asad when he wanted Dilshad to come live with him. Rashid is in the position he is today through only his own fault.

He had 17 years to try to come back to his family. And still managed to have 3, not one but THREE kids with a woman he claims not to love. Granted Ayaan was born before he left Dilshad. But if he didn't love her, how could he have 2 more kids with her? Ugh. This man really pisses off.

Sorry I had to rant 😆

But I agree, Asad's decision was correct. All the right reasons.

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Monica

@mochhug

Rocker

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Posted: 11 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: -Shayari-

He doesnt have to frogive him.. he just needs to HEALTHILY and properly come to terms and confront him with how much anger he has for him.. let it all out..not hide in his hatred..

but thank you for responding!

Exactly 👏

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shweeta

@shweeta

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Posted: 11 years ago

#28

Lovely post dear I was also irritate dat priority wala post
And Asad z correct at his own place
And I would also give frst priority to my parents over boyfriend

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bheegi

@bheegi

Stunner

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Posted: 11 years ago

#29

Hi Rosh

How are you girl?

I had promised you that I will comment on your post even though I am not making posts on IF

Here is a cut and paste from my FB post today...kinda addresses what you have talked about:

Changing Tides...Epi Dec 5

As Nikhat said today- waqt ke saath log badal jaate hain

This is so true. In real life, people, their tastes, their likes/dislikes and their relationships all change with time.

I am just going to highlight a few changes here..

Dilshaad: A woman with a lot of self-respect, a single mother, a role model for a lot of us has recently been criticized a lot for her decision to move in with Rashid. While I agree that Rashid doesn't deserve a wonderful woman like Dilshaad but for any self respecting woman like Dilshaad it must have taken a lot to make such a big, life changing decision. Yes, she is being humiliated by everyone at the SM. Razia even called her besharam and behayaa. Ordinarily, any woman would have walked out after character was slandered like that. Dilshaad is no ordinary woman. If she could raise two kids single handedly in a male dominated Muslim society, she is also capable of swallowing her pride and self respect for the health and well being of the only man she has ever loved. If tomorrow, Asad was in a similar situation and God forbid, he had been forced into a marriage with the likes of Tanveer, would Zoya have abandoned him when he needed her? I am sure a lot of feminists would oppose that but women like Dilshaad and Zoya can go to any extent for the well being of the man they love. Yes, Dilshaad did break Asad's heart but she knew that at that moment in her life, Rashid needed her more than her son. Dilshaad has not been selfish but took a very difficult decision just for the sake of her love. Why would she want to stay in SM when Shireen and Razia are constantly breathing down her neck? Ishq par zor nahin and even though Rashid is a spineless and self centered man, Dilshaad can't help it if she fell in love with him and still does. It's strength of her character that she has endured Shireen's hatred, Razia's taunts and her son's heartbreak. My only hope is- once Rashid is hale and hearty- she can walk out of SM with her head held high-on her own terms.

Zoya: Yes, Zoya promised to take care of Asad after Dilshaad left. Yes, she let Asad walk away from home. Yes, she realized her folly and followed him to the airport. Yes, she wanted to stop him from leaving and not accompany him to NY.

Why? Because Zoya knows that Asad's happiness lies with his family. Even if he tries to run away from them, he still needs them and wants them in his life. A spouse's job is to help their spouse take a correct decision, not agree with them blindly. Just because Asad wanted to escape from the pain of his separation from his ammi, doesn't mean Zoya should add to his pain by taking him away from Dilshaad. She knows how close he is to his ammi. She also realizes that deep down, Asad has always craved for Rashid's acceptance. Yes, she called him stone hearted but trust me every wife in anger has said nastier things to her hubby. Of course she doesn't mean it. I know I have called my hubby cold hearted many times- but this is the woman in us trying to stir that emotion in our man. Asad's response was also very typical. When slighted by a spouse's words, most men just walk away. In fact, they become colder and more detached after such words. The reality is neither meant what they did or said in anger. Today, Asad was at the doorstep of SM because deep down even he knows he can only be happy with his ammi and family. People who feel Asad and Zoya are not each other's priorities are probably just being too idealistic. What we have seen since the MS episode is very real- that's how real marriages are. We all want romance and happy-shappy-sappy scenes but those don't happen in real life- except on certain occasions. In India, a marriage is an alliance between families not only two individuals. That's why prioritizing family over self interest is a harsh reality in our society. Asad and Zoya are incomplete without each other but as a unit are incomplete without their family. For Zoya, Asad's family is her family and that's why she can't separate herself from them.

Farhan_Nikhat: If I can forget the initial psycho version of Farhan, I kind of like this evolving Farhan-Nikhat love story. The way Nikhat's face lit up when he walked out in the pink shirt was the highlight for me today. Also, it was good to see a confident Nikhat today. I am glad she gave it back to Haseena in a very polite and courteous manner.

HaHu: Still not sure about this pair. I guess till Ayaan's future is uncertain, we will continue to see HaHu scenes. For now, I have no interest in their love story (if there is one)

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treasure11

@treasure11

Sparkler

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Posted: 11 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: -Shayari-

Exactly you have to have a balance..

the issue im having trouble comprehending are the thoughts that Zoya is NEVER a priority for Asad or that Asad is never a priority for Zoya.. of course they are eachothers poriorties.. but they are NOT eachothers SOLE priorities.. thats my contention. I dont appreciate the constant vilification of just ONE character.. EACH character has their dues.. their ups and downs.. i just wish more people SEE this and admit to this.

It is about circumstance.. and in this particular circumstance.. so what if he didnt stay back because of Zoya.. HE STAYED Back .. why is that an issue?

yeah and talking about zoya being asad's priority why is everyone forgeting whem zoya was in SM he entered SM without thinking twice 2-3 times jst for her and today for dilshad he needed to be calmed down which zoya did..also when tannu was blackmailing him with najma life he choose to tell najma d bitter truth which could have had other consequenses hadnt najma known it before hand ...

so its about circumstances

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