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@RosyRosh

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

..riddle me this. 😊

Do YOU.. (talking generally).. prioritize your boyfriends and girlfriends, or significant others ABOVE YOUR PARENTS?

Im asking a very general question. 😊 Tell me.

I would like to know WHO on this forum.. is BRAVE enough to admit that they prioritize their significant others OVER their parents and families WHOM you have an extremely CLOSE bond to.

I've had it up to my NECK seeing the priority posts.

FACE THE FACTS.

Asad and Zoya LOVE EACHOTHER.. but they are NOT EACHOTHER's SOLE PRIORITIES. They have OTHER PEOPLE in their lives whom they LOVE AND CARE ABOUT. They arent just ASAD AND ZOYA 24/7. and FRANKLY SPEAKING, thats EXACTLY why i love them.

Before Asad met Zoya, he had his MOTHER and SISTER who were his ENTIRE LIFE and STILL ARE. The woman who put her blood sweat and tears into creating a FUTURE for her children out of NOTHING.. and gave her INCREDIBLE love and support and sacrificed everything for her children's happiness.. whom too this DAY is ready to take ANY CURSES on herself but NEVER even ONE hand raised on her children,... THAT WOMAN is Asad's priority from DAY 1 NOT ZOYA. thats the BITTER TRUTH. So please people learn to accept that.YES Dilshaad made a decision.. and some may agree or disagree with it. I dont agree with it.. but that does NOT mean she doesnt love her son.

JUST LIKE for ZOYA the LOVE OF A MOTHER and FATHER whom she sees in Rashid and Dilshaad.. the LOVE of parents that she has CRAVED since she was removed from her mother's care... SHE FINALLY was receiving in the form of RaDil.. MORE DILSHAAD .. then Rashid.. because she sees the MOTHER in her that she LOST when her mother died. She prioritizes that woman.. so what?

IS IT SO WRONG for them to prioritize their PARENTS or those whom they SEE as their parents above their romantic partners?

I agree Asad and Zoya have made INCREDIBLY stupid decisions. BOTH OF THEM HAVE.. NOT JUST ONE CHARACTER. Both have screwed up. But the fact they learn to fight situations .. ATTACK THEM.. not RUN FROM THEM and BAIL.. is what DEFINES love to me.

YES at times I feel one character's love seems week or it seems as if they dont love the other..i question it... but thats just ME VENTING.. because I know in my heart of hearts and make it clear the next day when that character surprises me positively that they do love the other.

I DONT JUST VICTIMIZE one character.. and similarly.. i dont just VILIFY another. I at least can remove myself from the shoes of a WOMAN and see these characters for who they are.

And I PERSONALLY wish I saw MORE OF THAT from other forum members. Asad and Zoya are NOT JUST ABOUT EACHOTHER. They are about their families. THEIR FAMILIES IS WHAT MAKES THEM FROM DAY 1 and it is the DRIVING factor right now too. In emotions they BOTH have screwed up.. and similarly they both have done INCREDIBLY amazing things for eachother.

Venting on occasion.. seeing a character in the wrong on occasions.. is fine. TO EACH HIS OWN OPINION, BUT CONSTANTLY finding WRONG IN EVERYTHING that character does, CONSTANTLY blaming just one character..I cannot understand that and probably never will.

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Okay.. thats MY OPINION.

Just the way I SEE things.. and my venting about all the priority stuff ive been seeing.

THEY ARE MY VIEWS. Like em or hate em.. they are what they are. 😊

-Rosh

Edited by -Shayari- - 11 years ago

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gossipgirlxoxo

@gossipgirlxoxo

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

My dearest Light,

Relationships cannot be quantified. They are what they are . We cannot chose one over the other.

It depends on the circumstances. We prioritize according to the need of the hour. Parents are only two. Everyone has one Mom and one Dad. We can have multiple partners, multiple kids, multiple friends. Again priorities are not an exact science. Sometimes you have let go of a person because He/She is your priority and letting go is the best option for him/her.

Coming to Asad He did not stop for Zoya or Dilshad.

He stopped for his dying father, whom he hates because He was not given an opportunity to love him. He hates him so much because He always wanted him, but never had him.

So if I have a choose between a parent and a partner ,

I might be forced to chose one whereas I want to choose another.

But this choice should never be made.

Because like fingers of different sizes complete our hand. Relationships are also not standalone.

They make a complete hand. One should never be given a choice to cut a finger. The hand will never be the same again...

Edited by gossipgirlxoxo - 11 years ago

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Monica

@mochhug

Rocker

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

RES

I am one of the those few lucky people who has amazing, loving, caring parents who will always put me first. And I always do the same for them.

So in my case, I would not be able to choose a life partner, or lover, or boyfriend over them.

That being said, I've been privy to some of the world's worst parents in the world. Its true your parents clothe you, feed you, raise you, and put a roof over your head. And for that you feel indebted to them. But it's also true, that a blood relation, a relationship by birth, does not give anyone, ANYONE the right to belittle or humiliate you. None at all. At least not for me.

If that person, your boyfriend, love, etc. Loves you, gives you the love that your parents don't, and treats you the way you truly deserve, then I wouldn't blame that person for choosing them over their parents.

The situation with Asad, Zoya, Rashid and Dilshad is entirely different. Asad, is completely right in not leaving for his mother's sake. Though I do think a part of him is also staying back, like someone else said, for his dying father. Because no matter what his father did, he is his father, and in times like these, all grudges should be forgotten. However I don't see how he chose Dilshad over Zoya. He stayed back. He didn't just go to SM for his mother and then leave for New York again. He still stayed back with Zoya.

All relationships hold some importance in our lives. And what Zoya said was so true. Relationships are made to be nurtured, not broken. So even thought Asad has been trying to break the relationship with his father for years, he can't. And now when he tried to do the same with mother, he couldn't. Even when he was leaving he told her she is welcome to come to New York to see them. He is not breaking that tie. Simply running from the memories, and the helplessness of not being able to stop her.

And now I think it'll be more clear for Asad, that Rashid was not lying, for once about his health. And he'll finally see that Dilshad actually did make this decision on her own. Because she wanted to. Not because she was forced to.

Sorry if this is a little all over the place. I kinda let me thoughts run free 😆

Edited by mochhug - 11 years ago

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treasure11

@treasure11

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

i dnt have a boyfriend

but i completly agree wid u coz this is what life is as zoyaa said in MS that ristey wala dialog...

if u prioritize ur love first then u'll be happy for sometime but still there will be a void in ur life for ur parents love cozzz no one can love u like dey do n vice vera no one can give u dat love dat ur love gives u😉 so u have to balence btw these too!! prioritize acc. to situation...

hope u get wht am sayng😉😆

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starsinmyeyes

@starsinmyeyes

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

I would never give up my parents for any man...that's how I can sum up my response. ...from personal experience. ..nothing is above your mom and dad...period. ...u can be one half of the most epic love story...parents are parents even if they are wrong. ..if Asad and Zoe decided to leave because of RaDil..I won't blame them. ..it's their life...but by no chance can we talk about prioritising over family. ...if u love...u never ask to choose. ..it's not a competition to establish importance. .har kisi ki apni importance hoti hai

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-AppleOfMaEye-

@-AppleOfMaEye-

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 11 years ago

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-AppleOfMaEye-

@-AppleOfMaEye-

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 11 years ago

am all in dilemma why people give silly posts when they cannot actually apply these thoughts in their orig lives...

everybody has his/her own life before the entry of their betr half or gf/bf..bla..bla..
we have parents, we have siblings, we have our own complexes, hurts,, in short we have our own lives...

entry of 1 person can't change your life by 360 degrees,,, there may be some lil changes,, like asad has changed,, new person in our life hasn't lived that life with us... hasn't endured these all wounds on our souls,, so if we want to quit something owing to our own feelings,, then where is the punch??

entry of 1 person snatches each n every right of yours on your own life?? how come? i can't understand,, Man! in which century we are living??

people who say that once if a person enters in your life then he/she should be your all priorty are living somewhere in the fairy worlds,, they are not talking about the reality...

If on 1 hand i have my parents who have showered all their love n blessings unto me,, have hidden their tears n pains in their smiles,, have worked hard to just grow me up ina wonderful person, then how i can even give a damn to think to prioritize someother person on them??

n some posts are doing just taking the subject in wrong direction,, it was never about comparison btwn Zoya n Dilshaad,, it was never about priorities,, its about forgiviness, its about love n care towards the parents...

n i must say ASAD AHMED KHAN is a wonderful n perfec son..
he has forgiven the father who left him 17 years back
he has forgiven his Mom,, who just left her 2 days back by rejecting him...

n one last thing don't know why few on this forum are in sucha hatred to Asad's character that they never choks in giving silly posts,,,

if zoya wasn't asad's priority,, then when he was anyone's priority...
everyone takes him free hand n foregranted,,
its rashid, its dillu, its najma,, its ayaan or its zoya...

Edited by -Maliha- - 11 years ago

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Andrea

@DreA

Stunner

Posted: 11 years ago

I like your views. And I agree with them. All that Im doing right now is venting. Tomorrow Zoya or Asad can mess up or do good and I'll flip it. I dont intentionally find fault with any one character and I dont understand how others can do so.

Anyway. I could never choose anyone else over my mom. I mean the woman used to wipe my bum! Thats a win right there 😳 😆

Edited by Drea_QH1fan - 11 years ago

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-AppleOfMaEye-

@-AppleOfMaEye-

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 11 years ago

and ain last buh not the least

m all IN...

if i had been in asad's place then i must have done the same...
call me selfish o whatever,,

if i can't prioritize my parents then i would feel better to die...

n sorry i didn't applaud you fah the post

lovely post,, much needed,, n i love you fah giving this post😳😃

Edited by -Maliha- - 11 years ago

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t1234

@t1234

Navigator

Posted: 11 years ago

#10

Love this post!

I agree completely. I don't think anyone could say that they only have that 1 person in their lives whom they prioritise no matter if it's a partner, parent, sibling, friend.

I have so many people in my life and yes some mean more to me than others but that doesn't mean my whole world revolves around them. It's completely unrealistic to assume Asads world revolves around Zoya and vice versa.

The beauty of this show is in their relations - this is I think, what Gul is showing us!

Where's it's the equation between Asad- Zoya, Asad-Rashid, Dilshaad-Zoya, Dilshaad-Rashid and all the sibling bonds, not forgetting the equation between Razia-Badi bi, and Haseena's clan AND also Tanveer, the show has so many relationships and I think it's ignorant of us to assume otherwise

That's my 2cents! 😊

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