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Ankahee

@Ankahee

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Lovely post Ankita. Really well said. 👍🏼

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-Anku-

@-Anku-

Stunner

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Posted: 12 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: neenabinu
Lovely post Ankita...totally agree with u

Asad and Zoya are two halves of a whole... they can never be complete without the other

how much ever they differ in their opinions and habits, they understand each other even when the other doesn't say anything...

and being in love doesn't mean you always agree to everything the other person says...and just because you disagree doesn't mean you no longer love each other and its time for break up!! 🤔

The break up word in this scenario makes me 🤣

I mean I can't help but think how people would survive relations if we'd choose to break up because a situation was scene in two different ways by two people in love. That is so shallow 🥱

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euphoric

@euphoric

Sparkler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#23

Maafi ya Saza dene ka haq usski ko hota hai jiske saath bura hua ho... nainsafi hui ho! So if Asad doesn't want to forgive his dad its justified. He needs to let go though to make peace with himself and not with the man responsible for his sorrows. But what's Asad's fault too, the man keeps popping up in his life when things start to settle for him and he's left behind to hold on desperately at the scattered pieces left in the aftermath. How many times is he supposed to build a new life only to be destroyed by his father?

Zoya is seeking for her parent and so when she sees Asad running away from them it becomes difficult for her to wrap her head around it. In reality, if I would put bluntly, Zoya has lived her life on charity... I am not doubting Aapi and Jiju's love for her but she was left in an orphanage and had Aapi's mom not taken pity on her and taken her back... Zoya would have suffered a lot more. So it is understandable that she doesn't keep grudges. She knows what could have been and her fate at one point of time was happy with her that it took Zoya to Zeenat's care. Her ever forgiving, ever giving trait is in response to the kindness she was bestowed upon in her childhood.

Edited by euphoric - 12 years ago

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-Anku-

@-Anku-

Stunner

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Posted: 12 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: euphoric
Maafi ya Saza dene ka haq usski ko hota hai jiske saath bura hua ho... nainsafi hui ho! So if Asad doesn't want to forgive his dad its justified. He needs to let go though to make peace with himself and not with the man responsible for his sorrows. But what's Asad's fault too, the man keeps popping up in his life when things start to settle for him and he's left behind to hold on desperately at the scattered pieces left in the aftermath. How many times is he supposed to build a new life only to be destroyed by his father?

Zoya is seeking for her parent and so when she sees Asad running away from them it becomes difficult for her to wrap her head around it. In reality, if I would put bluntly, Zoya has lived her life on charity... I am not doubting Aapi and Jiju's love for her but she was left in an orphanage and had Aapi's mom not taken pity on her and taken her back... Zoya would have suffered a lot more. So it is understandable that she doesn't keep grudges. She knows what could have been and her fate at one point of time was happy with her that it took Zoya to Zeenat's care. Her ever forgiving, ever giving trait is in response to the kindness she was bestowed upon in her childhood.

YES for Asad's own peace letting go would be the best thing to do BUT then again, if I were in his position forgiving would not come easily to me either. Asad and his family was shattered years ago because of that man and years later when he had found peace and solace he shattered it once again, both the times without an explanation. Had Rashid ever explained himself Asad wouldn't have probably been so bitter, but Rashid has never spoken up, not for himself not for their family, his ammi or him.

Asad and Zoya have a similar past but their scenarios are yet different making their vision in this matter entirely poles apart as well.

Asad has been given happiness and it has been snatched, and for Zoya it never came. She has only just dreamed of it. And here I am not demeaning the love and acceptance she has from Aapi and Jiju, I only mean in concern of her blood relatives, her parents.

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euphoric

@euphoric

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

Rashid has always thrown his decisions at Dilshad, Asad and Najma and have expected them to do his bidding. Then when someone retaliated he played victim! For Asad to forgive him is next impossible and I wud say Rashid himself is responsible for this. He keeps rubbing salt on Asad's wounds.

Yup Zoe had her Aapi and Jiju but there have been a void in her life that even they couldn't fill in. And that's pretty apparent.

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antiquegold

@antiquegold

Voyager

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Posted: 12 years ago

#26

In and out of here real quick, just to reply to this post. Once again, Ankita, your clear thinking emerges and cuts through the back and forth.

Heres the thing about QH. We look for so much symbolism and foreshadowing in the smallest of things, often reading much into nothing (example entangled bracelets, camera angles etc). We however, spend so much energy discussing spoken lines without taking into account the expressions on our talented casts' faces.

If you have never been in a relationship, one that you know is lifelong, you will probably not understand that the ones who love each other hurt each other the most. They say things to each other, but mean very different things. Zoya was really trying to tell Asad - dont shut yourself off, and calling his bluff when she said the patthar dil dialogue and decided against going. He was trying to say - you hurt me, when he said he was late for his flight. To say that they dont give each other priority just on the basis of spoken lines - that is really not getting the complete picture. Zoya and Asad communicate through what is unspoken much more than what is spoken. Thats why she was not mad at him for punching that wall. Thats why he was glad to see her at the dargah. That refusal, plea, the accusation, the retort - its the dance of lovers in pain. And their pain is inflicted mutually as well as by others - their flesh and blood. This is the essence of their chemistry.

OK, logging out! Just my POV. Shout out to the Ankies! You both are amazing. If you ever run for political office, I am voting for you!

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NainaAlex

@NainaAlex

Sparkler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: Ankita.M

The break up word in this scenario makes me🤣

I mean I can't help but think how people would survive relations if we'd choose to break up because a situation was scene in two different ways by two people in love. That is so shallow🥱

exactly ...
two people who love each other so strongly will try to understand and find a common ground instead of shouting out OFF WITH HIS HEAD (like the Red Queen of Alice in wonderland) after each disagreement 😆

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Teja....

@Teja....

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#28

very beautiful post and well analyzed after reading all comments i just want to say every one are correct in their position i dnt want asad to forgive rashid easily atleast not before truth he has trust issues with his father which his father only can resolve not even his mom will do that. And now may be he will support rashid for his mom but his pain is diff from zoya. Zoya always grow in nice and secured environment but always longed for father love which making her to force asad. If their views and handling the situation is diff that doent mean they dnt love eachother.

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euphoric

@euphoric

Sparkler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: neenabinu

exactly ...
two people who love each other so strongly will try to understand and find a common ground instead of shouting out OFF WITH HIS HEAD (like the Red Queen of Alice in wonderland) after each disagreement 😆

I don't know how difficult it is to understand that Asad is Asad and Zoya is Zoya and together they make Asya! They complete each other... true but they have their individuality. They are in a relationship that doesn't mean they can't have their individual opinion and need to agree with the other all the time. Is it a mutual agreement to never think different from the other? And if that's what is suppose to happen in relationships, then it truly shall be very boring

Reminds me of Super Hero couple from Honeymoon Travels 😆